Self Improver
Self-Improvement Advocate
- Joined
- Jan 19, 2021
- Goal
- Inner Game
- Age
- 33
- Location
- UK
Pre NG Ritual:
Read Tom Terrero: Opening & false time constraints [30m]
Read Saul’s Game Bible: "First 3 Minutes of Nightgame [30m]
One opener I will use tonight:
Whatsup, I liked your style, this [observational] is a good look for you. I'm Ravi. Hows your night going?
Note: Try to have something specific, so she actually engages a little.
One follow up question I will ask:
You give off cool, creative vibes [calibrate to her], but I get hints of a lil spice
Journalling:
"What’s the one thing I’ll improve tonight?"
Mindset and beliefs. I am a niche product, and understand I have low frame/reception. I have tried a lot of different things to get a bit more frame off rip, but I think I've gotta accept, it probably ain't gonna happen. I think I had a fantasy when I started 4 years ago, that with enough self-improvement, I could make it less of a grind. I guess somewhere along the line, I really was hoping it would begin to get easier, and stop being such a dog fight.
I guess it's time to make peace with the fact that this isn't gonna happen.
So I suppose, the framing must need to change. I am here, to get the reps in. Just the reps.
Just solid work, introducing myself, being masculine, holding frame, and being a cool, confidence, attractive man.
Beyond that, I need to find a way to generate some attraction and spark emotions, IF I am actually able to get into set....
Time to stop being so demoralised by NG.
Time to make peace with not getting in set. The world works the way it works. I have to accept my cards. I am a 6 in SMV. That is 1 to 1.5 SMV points below where I am gonna be able to get attraction off appearance.
That did not stop a lot of other men who walked this path, and there is no reason it should stop me.
I also cannot let how long I have been at this effect me anymore. I have had a journey with it, because it was a long journey to actually find the kind of help that can allow Low SMV men to succeed. I have that now, so from here on out, I can do my level best.
My last night out, which was with Jay in NYC, I really enjoyed. We hustled all night, and with one girl, I did actually get into set! Her friend pulled her away after about a minute. But she actually began investing, falling into my frame, and there may have been some organic attraction if I had more time to connect and generate it.
I have to throw myself back in the fire. NYC was a big wake up call.
I couldnt believe how bad it had gotten....
Why I am motivated to hustle again, is that I see how things are shifting. And it is BAD for Low SMV men!
The online profiles, just never took off, after so many tries. Approaching never hit. Things actually got a bit worse as time carried on. I kept improving, but I couldnt keep up with the pace of inflation. Winner takes all effect. It's better than ever for High SMV guys, and that market share is a zero-sum game: it got so much worse for the rest of us. These dudes don't even know anything changed, and are still selling the same be yourself bullshit.
No more time to waste. Time to act now, and fight like hell.
This time, will have to be more strategic, more calculated, and find ways to win.
Surgeries, tattoos, the job fucking lot. Maxxxing out everything possible.
With all that vented and expressed. I accept it. I am at peace with it. I will just hustle.
I have a few weeks here in the UK, probably going to do my surgeries elsewhere in Europe, and then off to Latin America. I will just DG and NG there, despite Latam being dog shit for both, logistically (volume/culture), I just have to attack now. No time to waste. Every possible stone must be turned to see if I can still change my destiny. I will have to wait for a while as my surgeries heal, but I'll start getting the photoshoots done again from Sept. I need a new archetype and angle to match.
I have continued to get laid, mostly by using my own means (BDSM), and even that got harder. The girls battle so hard, test like crazy, ghost, etc. Shit changed. I am proud I can still hold my own and still have banged practically all women who I got out on dates the last 2 years. Barely posted due to my business projects but still have been getting laid using roach BDSM methods. Despite them being absolute fucking ass holes on dates frame battling like crazy, I am a bit dead inside at this point to be honest with you, so I just slap the fuck out of them and win. You care a lot less. You can take it or leave it. The sex means nothing.....They feel it. They submit. No matter the bullshit they throw, I am unphased. Eventually, they get attracted. Close. They ghost. Onto the next. A cycle of sorts.....The game hallows one out after a while.
My hallowness turned to urgency when I had particularly bad experiences in NYC, for the 2nd time in 6 months, despite attacking inner game so hard, daily, for 6 months.
It helped, yes.
But there is clearly a lot more than this work to be done here.
Back to it........
Beginners mind.
A totally blank slate.
"What’s my walk-away mindset if I get rejected?"
I will pause.
Reflect on the set. What I could have done better, and how I should improve for the next one. I'll make a note, and then go and implement a small improvement.
"What’s my minimum win condition?" (e.g., "15 approaches, no matter what.")
15 approaches tonight. Have no idea what the volume will be like. I always am a bit anxious when going out to approach in the UK, as it's often a bad time. I can't let past experience continue to linger. Fuck it. I am done with it.
This chapter is about skills, sharpening them back up, and properly developing myself.
There is still a lot I have not maximised yet:
-Game
-SMV (Not 12% bf, don't have surgeries, don't have tats)
-Style (Need a unique archetype)
-Tonality
-Vibe
-Confidence/Masculine Essence
I have to chart my own way. I have to find my own way to win.
I do not have the benefit of frame. Infact, quite the fucking opposite.
They make it as hard as humanly possible.....
Each close was like climbing mount everest. But I would always do it.
The "getting laid" journey, is over for me.
Past banging a few dozen women, I felt so empty, I just had no motivation for it.
But I do need to become the best version of myself, to attract ONE lady I can spend the rest of my life with.
I refuse to accept that I cannot have a partner, and that I cannot have a family. I do not like the sordid society we live in.
I want to live a different way.
I will do all possible to see if there is a possibility of doing this. Even if there is just a 1% chance of success, I will deploy every ounce of effort, energy, focus, and raw human intensity to seeing if it can be done. There must be ONE quality woman out there who is worth this. I believe there is. As such, I will go find her. And let nothing hold me back, until I know I have truly exhausted everything possible.
Low SMV grinding puts a smile on my face. I love the barbarism of this shit. I love the sheer hustle. I love how insane it is that I am still battling so hard after 4 years. Who the fuck would still keep going.....Me apparently. That counts for something.
A relentless will and persistence is admirable in a human, and with those charachteristics, better skills and seduction ability can be honed.
Pre NG ritual: Physical & vocal warmup:
Practice in the mirror:
Read Tom Terrero: Opening & false time constraints [30m]
Read Saul’s Game Bible: "First 3 Minutes of Nightgame [30m]
One opener I will use tonight:
Whatsup, I liked your style, this [observational] is a good look for you. I'm Ravi. Hows your night going?
Note: Try to have something specific, so she actually engages a little.
One follow up question I will ask:
You give off cool, creative vibes [calibrate to her], but I get hints of a lil spice
Journalling:
"What’s the one thing I’ll improve tonight?"
Mindset and beliefs. I am a niche product, and understand I have low frame/reception. I have tried a lot of different things to get a bit more frame off rip, but I think I've gotta accept, it probably ain't gonna happen. I think I had a fantasy when I started 4 years ago, that with enough self-improvement, I could make it less of a grind. I guess somewhere along the line, I really was hoping it would begin to get easier, and stop being such a dog fight.
I guess it's time to make peace with the fact that this isn't gonna happen.
So I suppose, the framing must need to change. I am here, to get the reps in. Just the reps.
Just solid work, introducing myself, being masculine, holding frame, and being a cool, confidence, attractive man.
Beyond that, I need to find a way to generate some attraction and spark emotions, IF I am actually able to get into set....
Time to stop being so demoralised by NG.
Time to make peace with not getting in set. The world works the way it works. I have to accept my cards. I am a 6 in SMV. That is 1 to 1.5 SMV points below where I am gonna be able to get attraction off appearance.
That did not stop a lot of other men who walked this path, and there is no reason it should stop me.
I also cannot let how long I have been at this effect me anymore. I have had a journey with it, because it was a long journey to actually find the kind of help that can allow Low SMV men to succeed. I have that now, so from here on out, I can do my level best.
My last night out, which was with Jay in NYC, I really enjoyed. We hustled all night, and with one girl, I did actually get into set! Her friend pulled her away after about a minute. But she actually began investing, falling into my frame, and there may have been some organic attraction if I had more time to connect and generate it.
I have to throw myself back in the fire. NYC was a big wake up call.
I couldnt believe how bad it had gotten....
Why I am motivated to hustle again, is that I see how things are shifting. And it is BAD for Low SMV men!
The online profiles, just never took off, after so many tries. Approaching never hit. Things actually got a bit worse as time carried on. I kept improving, but I couldnt keep up with the pace of inflation. Winner takes all effect. It's better than ever for High SMV guys, and that market share is a zero-sum game: it got so much worse for the rest of us. These dudes don't even know anything changed, and are still selling the same be yourself bullshit.
No more time to waste. Time to act now, and fight like hell.
This time, will have to be more strategic, more calculated, and find ways to win.
Surgeries, tattoos, the job fucking lot. Maxxxing out everything possible.
With all that vented and expressed. I accept it. I am at peace with it. I will just hustle.
I have a few weeks here in the UK, probably going to do my surgeries elsewhere in Europe, and then off to Latin America. I will just DG and NG there, despite Latam being dog shit for both, logistically (volume/culture), I just have to attack now. No time to waste. Every possible stone must be turned to see if I can still change my destiny. I will have to wait for a while as my surgeries heal, but I'll start getting the photoshoots done again from Sept. I need a new archetype and angle to match.
I have continued to get laid, mostly by using my own means (BDSM), and even that got harder. The girls battle so hard, test like crazy, ghost, etc. Shit changed. I am proud I can still hold my own and still have banged practically all women who I got out on dates the last 2 years. Barely posted due to my business projects but still have been getting laid using roach BDSM methods. Despite them being absolute fucking ass holes on dates frame battling like crazy, I am a bit dead inside at this point to be honest with you, so I just slap the fuck out of them and win. You care a lot less. You can take it or leave it. The sex means nothing.....They feel it. They submit. No matter the bullshit they throw, I am unphased. Eventually, they get attracted. Close. They ghost. Onto the next. A cycle of sorts.....The game hallows one out after a while.
My hallowness turned to urgency when I had particularly bad experiences in NYC, for the 2nd time in 6 months, despite attacking inner game so hard, daily, for 6 months.
It helped, yes.
But there is clearly a lot more than this work to be done here.
Back to it........
Beginners mind.
A totally blank slate.
"What’s my walk-away mindset if I get rejected?"
I will pause.
Reflect on the set. What I could have done better, and how I should improve for the next one. I'll make a note, and then go and implement a small improvement.
"What’s my minimum win condition?" (e.g., "15 approaches, no matter what.")
15 approaches tonight. Have no idea what the volume will be like. I always am a bit anxious when going out to approach in the UK, as it's often a bad time. I can't let past experience continue to linger. Fuck it. I am done with it.
This chapter is about skills, sharpening them back up, and properly developing myself.
There is still a lot I have not maximised yet:
-Game
-SMV (Not 12% bf, don't have surgeries, don't have tats)
-Style (Need a unique archetype)
-Tonality
-Vibe
-Confidence/Masculine Essence
I have to chart my own way. I have to find my own way to win.
I do not have the benefit of frame. Infact, quite the fucking opposite.
They make it as hard as humanly possible.....
Each close was like climbing mount everest. But I would always do it.
The "getting laid" journey, is over for me.
Past banging a few dozen women, I felt so empty, I just had no motivation for it.
But I do need to become the best version of myself, to attract ONE lady I can spend the rest of my life with.
I refuse to accept that I cannot have a partner, and that I cannot have a family. I do not like the sordid society we live in.
I want to live a different way.
I will do all possible to see if there is a possibility of doing this. Even if there is just a 1% chance of success, I will deploy every ounce of effort, energy, focus, and raw human intensity to seeing if it can be done. There must be ONE quality woman out there who is worth this. I believe there is. As such, I will go find her. And let nothing hold me back, until I know I have truly exhausted everything possible.
Low SMV grinding puts a smile on my face. I love the barbarism of this shit. I love the sheer hustle. I love how insane it is that I am still battling so hard after 4 years. Who the fuck would still keep going.....Me apparently. That counts for something.
A relentless will and persistence is admirable in a human, and with those charachteristics, better skills and seduction ability can be honed.
Pre NG ritual: Physical & vocal warmup:
Practice in the mirror:
- Opener + follow-up
- Checklist: smile slightly/smirk.
- Do 5 fake approaches