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Matias said:
Background:
I'm 20 I've been not so social for the last years. Two months ago my head clicked and wanted to make a change. I started gym, therapy and made some new friends, also reconnected from with I lost contact. Despite that I'm bad with women and want to improve that, I wanna get laid.

Near term goals:

  • Get a better haircut (bored af of currently)
  • Get a good diet and Improve Sleep
  • Improve social skills with women
  • Take new pictures
  • Get laid
  • Go on a date
  • Make some new friends



Longer term
  • Regular get laid
  • Get a girlfriend
  • Be a nice guy
  • Graduate
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You're a virgin, man? I'm totally rooting for you. I remember how good it felt to finally lose it, I hope you succeed!
 
"I, Haok, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously."
Background:
Social outcast throughout high school
Have been going to the gym for 3 years but fell into the dreaded trap of the no life gym rat
Non-existent social life right now

Goals

Short term:
  • Improve my style and looks
    Improve social skills
    Maingain to a lower bf%
    Get my ears pierced
    Get my first tattoo
    Learn how to take and edit pictures
    Make new friends
    Get a scholarship to study abroad

Long term:
  • Get to my goal physique of 5'9 80kg 10% bf
    Get to a total lay count of 30 by 23
    Move to a country with btr girls(preferably Finland or Poland)
    Have a killer social life(sickkunt lifestyle)
    Become emotionally secure such that getting laid will no longer become my no1 priority
 
I, DrJre, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.

Background
I've been in a relationship since high school for 18 years, married for 7, now with 2 kids.
Wife cheated on me multiple times and I was devastated emotionally this year. I'm currently in the final stages of filing for divorce but the lawyer says with COVID it takes 5-6 months before it gets put through to the courts with the backlog.
Minimal social life outside of my immediate family and caring for my kids. Post divorce I'll have the kids 50/50
Got a good career as a physician so hopefully finances won't be an issue

Goals
1. Cut. I've been lifting in the gym casually but have not stuck to a cut. I'm 5'9" 194 lbs currently and want to get back to my college weight of 176lbs. If I want a visible six pack I'm assuming I might need to cut down more but will reevaluate once I reach my goal weight.
2. Get good pics in anticipation for once I divorce and then go on the dating apps. I plan to work on my dating game as I haven't dated anyone ever outside of my soon to be ex wife.
3. Get at least 12 dates from July to December (I'm assuming my divorce finalizes in June). Add to my lay count
 
Yo,
I, Hitseven, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.

About Me:
18 y/o living in the UK, 5'10"
1st Year Mechanical Engineering student

Progress so far:
hitting gym 3-4 times a week for a few months
cut out a load of useless things in my life
distanced from shitty friends
stopped playing video games
lost a lot of weight

2022 Goals:
make better friends
build a more aesthetic body
solo travel to at least 2 countries
get laid at least once
make more money than my student loan provides
quit porn
 
I, Marwan, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously. I want to break out of my antisocial cocoon, gain the self confidence and self esteem I need to achieve my "lay" goals as well as enhance my career. I want to muster my inner alpha to get out there and achieve my "wants" over just my needs.

Short term goals:

1. Get over my self limiting beliefs ( I'm 5'4 Pakistani guy living in Toronto) and be confident enough to approach women and get laid.
2. Bulk up to a muscular physique, I'm currently slim, not too defined physique but I keep fit.

Long term goals

1. Become a driven, social animal and get successful.
 
I, Geoff, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.

22 From Belgium, currently trying to build and succeed in my 2 businesses.

Current main goals :
- Make at least 2k5 per month from my second online business (start with the goal of 500 per month then 1k then 1k5 etc.. to a minimum of 2k5 by the end of the year)
- Travel around Europe
- Quit Porn
- Trying to not fall into ""depression""
- Restart the gym seriously

Goals to achieve after the list above :
- Move from my parent's house and the small village I live in
- Do a real and proper diet to 10% or slightly below bodyfat
- Improve my dating game, meet new girls, and destroy my oneitis problem
- Develop my network and stabilize my business to be sustainable over time
- Make new friends
 
I, TangoWango, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.

Basically 18 from HK but go to school in the UK.

Experience so far:
Got with 3 girls.
Fingered and ate 2 girls out.
1 BJ
2 oppurtunities to have sex with the same girl. Got too drunk both times and could not get an erection. Put a semi-erect cock in but not going to count that.

By the end of 2022,
Main goals:
Increase self-esteem, discipline and capacity for hardwork.
Become comfortable in own skin.
Get laid once.
Remove approach anxiety.
Get into Uni.
Stop porn and masturbation addiciton.

Secondary goals:
Develop a sense of style
100kg Bench.
140kg Squat.
140kg deadlift.
10% body fat at 5'10 76kg

Good luck to everyone. Lets do this
 
I, That1Guy, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.

About me:
Long time listener, first time caller. About time I said hello. Stumbled upon the Tinder guide somewhere before mid-2020, never saw OLD laid out so raw before so bookmarked it and kept coming back.

Work as an industrial engineer in microelectronics manufacturing.

Primary goal for 2022:
Get laid, lose virginity (yeah there's a lot to unpack here at another time)
--Stretch FFM
Sub goals to enable the above:
-Improve confidence in the context of physical escalation (it's been bad)
-Work through my internal mental roadblocks from the lack of self confidence and religious conditioning (been an atheist for over a decade)
-Continue lean bulking muscle mass
-Get to 16% BF (Currently at 20.5% though I'm down to 153 lbs from 215 lbs)
--Stretch 14% BF
-Continue to improve style (having all your clothes not fit anymore is a great kick to do this)
-Continue crushing it at work to enable telework so I can continue to live in an urban area
--Stretch is to get an in-line promotion to senior but I don't think it's the right place for my time right now, can probably table it for next year
-Go on 1-2 dates per week

Other "fun" goals for 2022:
-start working on freestyle/park riding in snowboarding
-get out of my apartment at least twice a week for something social (thanks COVID)
-try my hand at standup comedy at an open mic
 
New year - new goals. Long time lurker and big fan of Andys way to approach things.

At first I am going to get bag in shape, and once I am into this rhytm again I will start AA-program and start hitting on girls in real life - and not depending on online dating, which previously has given a lot of lays.

Im thinking of quitting alcohol for good - it is setting me back and takes away my energy, but it is also a very big social thing for me, because my frineds invites me to a lot of social settings, where alcohol is included.

I am 36 and from Scandinavia - and want to be more engaged in this forum.
 
I, NoDepresso, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.

Been reading about self improvement for over a year now, it's time to take action instead of just reading about it.

Top priority goals:

  • Make new quality friends
  • Create online dating profile
  • Gain more muscle
 
I, Kyle, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously

Been getting laid consistently since May 21'
Looking to build a quality rotation and eventually have a 1 way open relationship with a bi girl
Also improve social circle with like minded men and get into more dhv hobbies
 
I, Colossus, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.

Morning gentlemen.

I'm a long time follower of the self improvement that Chris and co ran when it was a thing.

Despite big advancements I have hit a major plateau. Wheels are spinning without much clear direction and it's started to eat at my soul.

Goals for 2022:
1. Be the best partner and man I can be
2. Work up to making $100/month from online income
3. Break social media, phone, porn, and fap habits
4. Root out my issues surrounding women, validation, and relationships
5. Work up to maximum truthfulness in every aspect of life
6. Add a couple KGs of muscle and develop aptitude in combat sports

I've done pretty good with girls. Decent looking, 6'2, lost virginity at 16, had more than 5 serious girlfriends (over 1 year), multiple shorter term girlfriends, fucked over 30 girls - 15 of them being what I consider very hot, dated multiple girls at once, BDSM scene, all that shit. Swung in recent years to dating real high quality girls and enjoying our time together before meeting the current girl.

Thank you Andy for the forum. It seems like a community of men growing together.
 
I, Hedon, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.

Hey guys I'm a long term reader of GLL (starting from 2015) and taking consistent action over the last 6.5 years has led to significant changes in the trajectory of my life. This includes girls, social life, career and my overall lifestyle.

I am looking to continue the momentum gained so far to push myself to higher heights and become an overall better man. My main goals for 2022 are:

1. Comfortably liveable monthly income through freelancing + my e-commerce store
2. 18 Lays (day, night, online + social circle)
3. Start training MMA/KM consistently at least 2x week
 
"I, Primal69, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously. My goals for this year is to lose my vcard, I want to achieve at least 5 lays for this year as well as a better body.
 
Hi guys,

As much as I hate it when someone tells me I absolutely must do something, I feel the camaraderie and support the men on this forum provide each other is too valuable a thing to miss out on, so reluctantly here's my copied sentence:

I, Manly Cockfellow, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.

Andy, please don't make us drink poison Kool-aid in the jungle!
(but also, I have great respect for what you've achieved so far, and for the encouragement you give to all of us who are striving to improve our lives)
 
"I, Wiseco, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously."

Went to the biggest boys school in my country with 2,000 students & 500 seagulls. It shows.

My goal is to goal is to gain some serious muscle & improve my looks. I would like to have lots a sexual experiences with different people, but in fun ethical ways. I'm attracted to super fit athletic chicks & would seriously like to fuck someone like that silly.
 
"I, Troubleman, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously."


I've been reading Andy's content and working on self improvement for about a year now. I've taken a little break from online dating over the past few months, but I'm looking to get back into it again. I'm going all out to build the best profile that I can.
 
I, Victor will commit to weed out the bad habits that inhibit me to achieve my goals.

Goal:
- build a muscular lean body
- discover what career I’d work
- commit to Toast masters and Improv ( I’ve skipped all my class presentations in school so this is a big one for me )
- accept the fact I’ll be alone for the rest of my life and be ok with it

Im 22 years old and have terrible anxiety and depression. I just want to share about my background for context, I’m not asking for anyone to feel sorry for me. I Never went to University or college like my friends did. Missed out in the fun adventures and parties that’ve taken place in the uni life. I did aspire to go back to school to get a computer science degree. Really hesitant because of the age of when I start school (probably at 28) and the debt I’ll get from it.

From the age of 18-22 I’ve wasted all those years staying inside my home isolated. When I was 17 I had a gf and lost my virginity to her but after we broke up, instead of like most people who would thrive after breaking up improving theirselves. I went into a depressive downward spiral… my brain can’t function the same as it was. My speaking and writing skills have suffered that a 4th grader is smarter and more socially savvy than I am. Heavily abused weed mostly and sometimes would drink alcohol to suppress my social anxiety. My loneliness forced me to waste a prolific amount of my money on escorts. To this day I only have $7 in my bank account..

I’ve made plenty of excuses that I was too old to make a change being the age of 18-22. My peers have surpassed me in many ways that it demotivates me to even try sometimes. I’m just fortunate to be here with like minded individuals of self- improvement. I wish everyone great success. Cheers
 
"I, Marco Polo, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously."

Well the obvious goal right now is to lose my virginity. After that the goal is to look in the mirror and not hate how I look. I want to lose weight and gain muscle.
 
I, scott, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.

I will get in better shape this year and focus on myself, getting better each day, being more confident and get some lays.
 
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