I, Squilliam Fancyson, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.
Quick disclaimer, I wouldn't have chosen such a stupid username if I knew I had to upload a real picture of myself.
So a little bit of backstory. I'm 21, I've been quite a loser for most of my life. Mostly a social outcast. In the past few years of college, I've made a lot of progress on personal development. I started going out on dates, I finally got laid. But it hasn't been until recently that I've really gotten on the right track. A few months ago, I quit drinking, and my mental health has improved immensely as a result. Recently, I found myself in a situation where I was talking to a cute stranger, and I worked up the courage to ask her for her Snapchat. We went on a date that went nowhere, but that was a huge accomplishment for me regardless.
So far, I've gone out on probably about two dozen dates, I've been laid 3 times, and I've made out with a few more than that. However, as of lately online dating is not working well for me, and getting laid is quite sporadic and infrequent.
My career and financial progress (I'm becoming a software engineer), is going well, and I don't think there is much more work to be done there (at least right now). I want to prioritize my social life.
So I guess I'll just list out all of my goals, I'll split them up into two categories, near-term (before 2022 ends), or long-term (Really any amount of time but I don't expect to achieve any of these any time in the near future.)
Near-term (most of these will be ongoing goals that I never stop working on, but I will start working on them in the near term):
- Improve fashion and sense of style
- Continue working on bouldering, and start lifting weights. (Ensure that diet, sleep and exercise are optimal for muscle gain)
- Have at least one hookup by the end of summer.
- Take new pictures and go on some dates/get some hookups
- Start writing book about idea I had
- Improve my in-person social skills in general, especially with women I am not familiar with.
Longer term (once again, really no set time limit, it could be 10 days from now, or 10 years):
- Be able to get laid on a regular basis. Not really a fan of aiming for a number.
Not sure how much I can accomplish in 6 months. I'd like to get the pictures done by the end of my school semester so that I can hopefully get lucky at least once during the summer.
I'm not going to put down stuff related to cold approaching because it's still way too daunting for me. I don't want to promise something I'm not sure I will follow up on. I want to be serious and completely honest. Right now I have been gradually exposing myself to social situations that I would've once said were too intense for me to handle.
The problem is that without pressure, without some fear or other person adding pressure to me, it's too easy to just tap out when the nerves get too intense.
Anyways, sorry for my ramble. I am happy to be here and I hope I can kill my inner loser. This site seems different than other men's self-improvement spaces. In a good way, lol.
& good exercise habbit