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YEAR 3: THE IRONWILL PROJECT: MONEY, MUSCLES, MINDSET - FROM NOTHING TO SOMETHING, MY RELENTLESS JOURNEY

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THE IRON WILL PROJECT: WEEK 8 (Mon 27th Feb)

ACTIONS
(1) MONEY
-Biz Checkins (DONE)
-(A) Content: Core Video
-(A) Content: Shorts (5)
-(A) Content: Value Post
-(B) Networking: Value Post Engagement Process
-(B) Networking: Network Process
-(B) Networking: 100 Cold Outreaches (LinkedIn / IG / FB / Cold Email)
Others
-Adjust Twitter background pic
-Landing Page / One Pager w/ my Offer

(2) MUSCLES
-2200kcal (OMAD)
-DHA & Supps

(3) MINDSET
-Listen to Hormozi in the background

Others:
-Sunrise & Earthing 10m (DONE)
-Cold Thermogenesis (30m) at the end of the day

Notes:

Last week in Bristol was stressful as fuck. The ghosting, getting stood up on a date on Tue (didnt mention this in the log), Jacob's antics bringing my stress levels off the charts, being tired & run down. Fuck man. My sysem took a hit. Sat, I had a straight up throat infection and was in bed mostly over the weekend, just reading biz content from one of my best friends, V.

I did a bunch of biohacking Sunday, and it has helped me feel a lot better.

I woke up in a cold sweat today, so obviously still sick, but making huge progress on that.

I think I will be right tomorrow, and I'll get back in the damn gym!

All will be OK. I am not feeling stressed now, the weekend was positive.

Game of inches. Just doing what you can, doing your best, no matter suboptimal situations, this makes the difference over the longhaul.

I also had a Hinge match. First match in a while. She replies super well, and we've agreed to hang out Wednesday. Very cool. Would really like to go on a solid and enjoyable date.

Grind season. Need to get to 3-5k per month. And then I will get a lease with The Viking, Paw, in Budapest, for 1 year.

MAC
 
MakingAComeback said:
And then I will get a lease with The Viking, Paw, in Budapest, for 1 year.
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Great plan!

I was in Budapest a few years ago and it seemed like an awesome city full of international students (and Western European men there for stag parties) with a great nightlife centered around the "ruin" bars

(i.e. it seems like a great place to meet a lot of smart, attractive young women who are also interested in meeting new people)
 
Manly Cockfellow said:
MakingAComeback said:
And then I will get a lease with The Viking, Paw, in Budapest, for 1 year.
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Great plan!

I was in Budapest a few years ago and it seemed like an awesome city full of international students (and Western European men there for stag parties) with a great nightlife centered around the "ruin" bars

(i.e. it seems like a great place to meet a lot of smart, attractive young women who are also interested in meeting new people)
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Its a great city, low cost of living too, and good for the next year of my life. Biz building & masculinity.

I found the women very nice also, and they were often open to a chat!

The ruin bars, hahah, such a good time in there.

The right move for me. Life will come together for sure.

Hope you're having a solid week Manly!

Ravi
 
MakingAComeback said:
THE IRON WILL PROJECT: WEEK 8 (Mon 27th Feb)

ACTIONS
(1) MONEY
-Biz Checkins (DONE)
-(A) Content: Core Video
-(A) Content: Shorts (5)
-(A) Content: Value Post
-(B) Networking: Value Post Engagement Process
-(B) Networking: Network Process
-(B) Networking: 100 Cold Outreaches (LinkedIn / IG / FB / Cold Email)
Others
-Adjust Twitter background pic
-Landing Page / One Pager w/ my Offer

(2) MUSCLES
-2200kcal (OMAD)
-DHA & Supps

(3) MINDSET
-Listen to Hormozi in the background

Others:
-Sunrise & Earthing 10m (DONE)
-Cold Thermogenesis (30m) at the end of the day

Notes:

Last week in Bristol was stressful as fuck. The ghosting, getting stood up on a date on Tue (didnt mention this in the log), Jacob's antics bringing my stress levels off the charts, being tired & run down. Fuck man. My sysem took a hit. Sat, I had a straight up throat infection and was in bed mostly over the weekend, just reading biz content from one of my best friends, V.

I did a bunch of biohacking Sunday, and it has helped me feel a lot better.

I woke up in a cold sweat today, so obviously still sick, but making huge progress on that.

I think I will be right tomorrow, and I'll get back in the damn gym!

All will be OK. I am not feeling stressed now, the weekend was positive.

Game of inches. Just doing what you can, doing your best, no matter suboptimal situations, this makes the difference over the longhaul.

I also had a Hinge match. First match in a while. She replies super well, and we've agreed to hang out Wednesday. Very cool. Would really like to go on a solid and enjoyable date.

Grind season. Need to get to 3-5k per month. And then I will get a lease with The Viking, Paw, in Budapest, for 1 year.

MAC
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EVENING CHECKIN:

ACCOUNTABILITY: MON 27TH FEB
(1) BIZ
-Biz Checkins (DONE)
-(A) Content: Core Video (DONE)
-(A) Content: Shorts (5) (DONE)
-(A) Content: Value Post (DONE)
-(B) Networking: Value Post Engagement Process (DONE)
-(B) Networking: Network Process (FAIL)
-(B) Networking: 100 Cold Outreaches (LinkedIn / IG / FB / Cold Email) (FAIL)
Others
-Adjust Twitter background pic (FAIL)
-Landing Page / One Pager w/ my Offer (FAIL)

Notes:

Got some solid stuff done.

Sick, so not at a good performance level rn. I will keep pushing and making incremental gains.

Considering the situation, today wasn't bad.

No need to put more pressure on myself whilst I'm sick.

I rarely get sick, and when I do, it's related to stress. There were some tough times the past week.

Thats the journey of success.

Early night now. Back tomorrow.

MAC
 
THE IRON WILL PROJECT: WEEK 8 (Tue 28th Feb)

ACTIONS
(1) MONEY
-Biz Checkins
-(A) Content: Core Video
-(A) Content: Shorts (5)
-(A) Content: Weekly Vlog – My Entrepreneurial Journey
-(A) Content: Value Post
-(B) Networking: Value Post Engagement Process
-(B) Networking: Network Process
-(B) Networking: 100 Cold Outreaches (LinkedIn / IG / FB / Cold Email)
Others
-Adjust Twitter background pic
-Landing Page / One Pager w/ my Offer

(2) MUSCLES
-2200kcal (OMAD)
-DHA & Supps

(3) MINDSET
-Listen to Andy’s Money/Financial Playlist in the background

Others:
-Sunrise & Earthing 10m (DONE)
-Cold Thermogenesis (30m)
-Life Admin Tasks: Car Ins & Home Ins, Wise EUR Acc, LDN tix for the weekend, Ping girl for date tomorrow
-Read: GLL
 
THE IRON WILL PROJECT: WEEK 8 (Thursday 2nd March)

ACTIONS

(1) Money
-Core Video
-5 Shorts
-Value post
-Social Process: Twitter & FB posts
-Networking
-Lead Magnet

(2) Muscles
-Chest & Triceps
-OMAD, DHA & Supps
-Core Work

(3) Mindset
-Read: Andy Articles
-Read: GLL

Notes:

BW: 196

FUUUUUUUUU

Been sick, no gym for 1 week. Holding water.

Fuck that. No more.

Off to the gym. Will bust my ass.

And come home and get shit done. And not stop until it’s all done.

Week has been suboptimal due to sickness. But this fuels the damn fire.

ALL MUST BE CHANNELLED INTO HARDCORE SELF IMPROVEMENT

I will get this BW back down to 190 ASAP.

KEEP HAMMERING,
MAC
 
Yesterday was true hard ass work.

Been feeling a bit beat down. Think it was operating at a high stress level, dealing with fear, uncertainty, and the impacts of the grind.

That throat infection, which still has left me with a lingering cough, was a sign I was getting depleted. Body and mind are linked.

This was a tough week, both mentally and physically.

I don't like taking Ls and eating glass for a duration.

That can make me go somewhere pretty fuckin' demonic.

"NO MORE OF THIS BS"

I think when I saw the scale read 196lbs, I basically blew my top.

Went into absolute demon mode and worked, no shit, full out until 4am.

Yes, this is stupid. It is.

But I do this sometimes.

The feeling of giving it my all, of pushing beyond my brain telling me to go to bed, by pushing through the pain, way, way, way beyond what normal people do.

It's where I tell myself, Ravi, you are still here.

There is a special feeling you can feel when your mind has been focused on your mission for hours upon hours, up to 20 fucking hours straight man, and the whole world has gone silent.

I don't know what it is. But sometimes I just need to affirm to myself, that I am in this world and there IS a mission I am working towards. I do not like the feeling of becoming stagnant.

Anyway...........

I maybe got 2hrs of shit quality sleep. Yes, I have a headache right now.

And I am going to hustle all fucking day and not stop until its late.

I need this. I need to feel it.

I can't control much. I can't control many things in life.

But this is real life. This is our ONE SHOT.

I cannot control if I get the life I want. Maybe I do, maybe I don't. I am a seasoned fucking veteran when it comes to the grind and I have been doing this shit at the level of barbarism for 18 years.

What I can control, is my god damn EFFORT.

When I go to bed half way dead, nothing more to give, I feel so proud of myself.

THAT IS VICTORY

THAT MEANS I AM STILL ALIVE

I am here again today. And I will give everything I can give.

Yesterday was fucking solid and I am proud of it. I'll check in shortly, just some rambling I guess.

MAC
 
been a couple months since i've checked in, glad to see you're still at it going 9000 MPH.

You're at the point where you need TIME to embrace your new life with all the changes you've made.

When we start this journey, we have a vision of what we consider to be successful. Being able to be financially free while working a job that gives you life everyday and being able to call over a perfect 10 whenever who treats you like a king. Whatever it is, pick your steak. The idealization gives fuel to power change because change is fucking hard. An object in motion will stay in motion and it takes deliberate energy to change the path we were going on, especially if you have barriers, chains, and attachments you've made that hold you back from becoming this new man.

After fully committing to the journey in the deepest part of yourself, you make progress... shit starts changing. There's that change word again. You have new life experiences that would've happened behind closed doors, out of your reach, for the person you were a year ago. Everything is new, the sun shines brighter, but you don't have time to focus on the sun because you're too busy destroying your old loser ego every fucking day. The phase when you have your mind blown everyday by learning something new is one of my favorite things in the world because it's like being a kid again and anything is possible like being an astronaut or riding a bike without kiddie wheels on your way to pick up Angela so you can hang out at the playground. The equivalent for this journey is the first time you realize that the girl on public transport IS staring at you or the first discussion you have with a brother where you're down on your luck and he's there to support you and you realize human connection IS possible or the first time you get your magic stick wet.

At this point after you've gotten enough of these new experiences, there's the unavoidable part that everybody has to go through; you need TIME for your mind to catch up to who you are now. The only work you can do for this is to continue doing what you were doing to get this far. This is where the clay you formed in the 'try new shit' phase turns into rock solid OBSIDIAN and time is the sole catalyst.

What does that process look like? The solidification occurs when your mind is focused on solving the humongous problem at work while balancing family drama, and your friend invites you to a Labor Day party. At the party, you casually start a conversation with the girl at the end of the bar and the furthest thing on your mind is on gaming her. She's cool, you kinda like her so you get her number and go on a date with her, you find out you're incompatible, and that's that. 5 days later when you realize what happened was second nature to you is when solidification happens and happy tears roll down your face yada yada yada.

Why did I emotionally exhaust myself to write this? To give you perspective. Keep fucking pushing while being aware time is a big factor in the equation. I watched your youtube videos and you look like someone who gets it. Usually that archetype of person just needs time to realize it. It can all crumble down if you stop pushing though. So keep pushing.
 
seanconneryfan_ said:
been a couple months since i've checked in, glad to see you're still at it going 9000 MPH.

You're at the point where you need TIME to embrace your new life with all the changes you've made.

When we start this journey, we have a vision of what we consider to be successful. Being able to be financially free while working a job that gives you life everyday and being able to call over a perfect 10 whenever who treats you like a king. Whatever it is, pick your steak. The idealization gives fuel to power change because change is fucking hard. An object in motion will stay in motion and it takes deliberate energy to change the path we were going on, especially if you have barriers, chains, and attachments you've made that hold you back from becoming this new man.

After fully committing to the journey in the deepest part of yourself, you make progress... shit starts changing. There's that change word again. You have new life experiences that would've happened behind closed doors, out of your reach, for the person you were a year ago. Everything is new, the sun shines brighter, but you don't have time to focus on the sun because you're too busy destroying your old loser ego every fucking day. The phase when you have your mind blown everyday by learning something new is one of my favorite things in the world because it's like being a kid again and anything is possible like being an astronaut or riding a bike without kiddie wheels on your way to pick up Angela so you can hang out at the playground. The equivalent for this journey is the first time you realize that the girl on public transport IS staring at you or the first discussion you have with a brother where you're down on your luck and he's there to support you and you realize human connection IS possible or the first time you get your magic stick wet.

At this point after you've gotten enough of these new experiences, there's the unavoidable part that everybody has to go through; you need TIME for your mind to catch up to who you are now. The only work you can do for this is to continue doing what you were doing to get this far. This is where the clay you formed in the 'try new shit' phase turns into rock solid OBSIDIAN and time is the sole catalyst.

What does that process look like? The solidification occurs when your mind is focused on solving the humongous problem at work while balancing family drama, and your friend invites you to a Labor Day party. At the party, you casually start a conversation with the girl at the end of the bar and the furthest thing on your mind is on gaming her. She's cool, you kinda like her so you get her number and go on a date with her, you find out you're incompatible, and that's that. 5 days later when you realize what happened was second nature to you is when solidification happens and happy tears roll down your face yada yada yada.

Why did I emotionally exhaust myself to write this? To give you perspective. Keep fucking pushing while being aware time is a big factor in the equation. I watched your youtube videos and you look like someone who gets it. Usually that archetype of person just needs time to realize it. It can all crumble down if you stop pushing though. So keep pushing.
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This was a wonderful post bro and I appreciate it

I feel you and hear you

As we do sink further into the process, the changes we have created do crystalise and internalise further

My friend, I appreciate the love it means a lot

There is healing and some inner work I do need to perform also, make no question about it

The changes I am making, are good.

However, right now, I am OK with where I am at and am just wanting to breathe, be easy, be human, and love myself for a while.

MAC
 
DAY GAME COACHING (HARD TRUTHS EXPLORED?!)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dMNNHOHjd8Q

WARNING: Depressed MAC (lol)

it's time for MONK MODE BROS


-As the session started, the daze begins. This happens on SO many day game sessions and also is quite frequent with night game
-Not fear as such, but like a cloud of emotions. Cannot relax or get into a head space, and importantly, struggle to even “see” women as sensations fly to the surface, about the futility of me approaching, and how women are so unreceptive
-Few random approaches, they don’t stop
-Negative talk, about pointlessness, victim mode, why do I get blown out so much? Why do I have to plough like this?
-This is 2 YEARS IN so I don’t have approach anxiety.
-However, I do have difficulties in enjoying the sessions and grounding into them
-He asked me some questions. And he told me my response suggested I was angry. Deeply so.
-Kept working, and I just couldn’t find lightness or ease. My sets were stopping and starting to interact, but as ever, they didn’t hook, they just carry on along the surface and then go nowhere. Been 2 years of this.
-Plough on, and I am pushing myself, the coach occasionally wants to socialise, but I don’t go there
-Coach suggests I am a very intense person, and in how I express myself at times, I am far, far too intense and outside the norm of behaviours in some senses. I push back, and highlight that with women/game, I have a lot of wounding, so it does make me get into a more intense state as it carries with it intense emotions
-Debrief at the end, and he suggests that the biggest thing with me, is that I am carrying deep, heavy anger and negative emotions, and he didn’t know what to suggest. He suggested my approach isn’t meek, and I am doing way better, and even doing some things great in set. That said, he did observe how chicks are not hooking, and when I explained this happens to me a tonne, 99% of the time pretty much, he highlighted that, this is linked to deeper inner states, and how the people we talk to do a one second assessment of us, and clearly in my case, that 1 second assessment is telling the other party NOOOOOOOOOOOOO

Hence, why I got what I got for 2 years.

No more approaching for a while. Just going to work on this now.

Time for MAC to drop all things woman bros. Gonna have to shelve it for many months now.

I will work on this for a while. Work on my looks and body. Do another photoshoot.

And in a few months time, I will pick this back up.

See, this was something I feared.

At some stage, you learn the stuff you need to know, and that SHOULD start to produce changes and results. For me, it did a tiny bit, but obv didn’t get me what I am looking for, which is a dating life worth having lol.

I think I have a lot of trauma and wounding, as when I am out and about and just seeing the odd gal, I feel pain, like, damn I wish there was a world in which I could date someone like that. Stuff like that does happen in me. I shouldn’t be going through that now after years of this, going on so many dates, hell I did get laid by 9 women despite where I started.

Time to heal…..
 
-Debrief at the end, and he suggests that the biggest thing with me, is that I am carrying deep, heavy anger and negative emotions, and he didn’t know what to suggest
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Sounds like an incompetent coach. I can tell from experience that working with a competent coach can make a night and day difference in your game. Did you both do group sets together? That's when you learn the most, specially if you can make longer interactions.

Did he give you 'homework'? Practical excercises to do to improve your approach?
Watching the video you just posted, there's a lot of room for improvement in your vibe, tonality, etc.
If he isn't giving you practical guidelines, what things to improve on specifically, and just abstract woo woo nonsense, I don't think he's a good coach.

Besides, I think you're thinking too black and white. Either go all in with approach or go full monk mode for indefinite time.

I guarantee you that if you take the second route you'll go back to your old patterns and lose the progress you've made.
Which doesn't mean you should take the first route. If daygame is a horrible experience, then don't it, it won't go well and you'll keep reinforcing the trauma. Do less of what doesn't work and more of what works.

But don't isolate yourself (at least that's what I imagine when you say monk mode). Your going back to the self improvement trap that lead many of us to lack of socialization.

If online is what got you results, why don't double down on it? You can leverage your pictures and looks way more than in daygame.

Why don't you join some social circle? A dance class or something like that. Not with the goal of hunting pussy, but just improving your social skills.


tl;dr don't bang your head against the wall, but also don't give up
 
MakingAComeback said:
No more approaching for a while. Just going to work on this now.

Time for MAC to drop all things woman bros. Gonna have to shelve it for many months now.

I will work on this for a while. Work on my looks and body. Do another photoshoot.

And in a few months time, I will pick this back up.
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I think this is a good short-term idea for you.

You were focusing on too many things: Business, looks, money, girls, night game, ... There's a reason why you've already been sick a couple of times in a narrow timeframe. No human is made to go out until 3am and then waking up at 7am to work on a business for 12 hours.

Now you'll have the time to focus on 2-3 things and do those things like a maniac. By focusing on less tasks, your mind will be relaxed, you can create a sustainable life rhythm and even better: You'll actually make more improvement because you give yourself the opportunity to finish one of those goals faster and better.
 
MakingAComeback said:
Debrief at the end, and he suggests that the biggest thing with me, is that I am carrying deep, heavy anger and negative emotions, and he didn’t know what to suggest. He suggested my approach isn’t meek, and I am doing way better, and even doing some things great in set. That said, he did observe how chicks are not hooking, and when I explained this happens to me a tonne, 99% of the time pretty much, he highlighted that, this is linked to deeper inner states, and how the people we talk to do a one second assessment of us, and clearly in my case, that 1 second assessment is telling the other party NOOOOOOOOOOOOO

Hence, why I got what I got for 2 years.

No more approaching for a while. Just going to work on this now.

Time for MAC to drop all things woman bros. Gonna have to shelve it for many months now.

I will work on this for a while. Work on my looks and body. Do another photoshoot.
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This guy is incredibly astute (and admirably honest) to suggest this.

As a guy you have to learn to be happy by yourself, without women. I don’t mean as a subtext to get women: “I will learn to be happy by myself without women, so I can get women.”

Do the stoic exercise: imagine the certainty of doing without. Literally imagine that you got disfigured, your dick and balls got chopped off, you lost the charm part of your brain, and so now it’s truthfully certain that no woman will ever want you.

What are you going to do with your life? Who will you be? Who will your friends and family be, what will you do with them? What are you going to spend your time doing? Do you have any great calling in life?

You got 9 lays last year. Would your day-to-day life be any different if that figure was 7, or 14, or 3, or 20? No, not even a bit. How you live yourself is totally independent of your results with women.

These are extremely difficult questions to answer. Figure this out, learn to be at peace by yourself totally, THEN add women to the equation if you still want to.
 
Boys, I need to enjoy life for a while.

Cold approach and dating have been things I've just not enjoyed for a while.

It's good to improve socially, your vibe, and so on.

But, if you're just persistently having these doubts, fears, negative emotions, and things like this, despite objectively improving, then it's not a skillset thing.

It's inner resistance, and parts of you wanting you to pull away.

I've done this for 2 years, and have improved, but my mind can be negative about it and many of these sessions, I just don't want to be there.

That is sign that it's worth chilling out with dating/approach for a while.

It's meant to make your life better. If it's hurting, it's time to go IN and address the inner.

All good.

This will be about LETTING GO for a while.
 
Sisyphus said:
-Debrief at the end, and he suggests that the biggest thing with me, is that I am carrying deep, heavy anger and negative emotions, and he didn’t know what to suggest
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Sounds like an incompetent coach. I can tell from experience that working with a competent coach can make a night and day difference in your game. Did you both do group sets together? That's when you learn the most, specially if you can make longer interactions.

Did he give you 'homework'? Practical excercises to do to improve your approach?
Watching the video you just posted, there's a lot of room for improvement in your vibe, tonality, etc.
If he isn't giving you practical guidelines, what things to improve on specifically, and just abstract woo woo nonsense, I don't think he's a good coach.

Besides, I think you're thinking too black and white. Either go all in with approach or go full monk mode for indefinite time.

I guarantee you that if you take the second route you'll go back to your old patterns and lose the progress you've made.
Which doesn't mean you should take the first route. If daygame is a horrible experience, then don't it, it won't go well and you'll keep reinforcing the trauma. Do less of what doesn't work and more of what works.

But don't isolate yourself (at least that's what I imagine when you say monk mode). Your going back to the self improvement trap that lead many of us to lack of socialization.

If online is what got you results, why don't double down on it? You can leverage your pictures and looks way more than in daygame.

Why don't you join some social circle? A dance class or something like that. Not with the goal of hunting pussy, but just improving your social skills.


tl;dr don't bang your head against the wall, but also don't give up
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It doesn't matter how much technical stuff you know about game. If your vibe is off in daygame you won't get laid. If you're carrying around a lot of heavy negative emotion girls will pick up on it. It's as simple as that. So actually it's great advice that many other coaches would be afraid to give.

It is a tough situation though as the more you fail, the more that compounds the negative emotion. It's best to let that negative emotion out somehow in a healthy way before even bothering to approach. May take time to unburden oneself of it though
 
Thanks everyone for your thoughts.

I have a grasp on what I am going through. It's a form of inner resistance, the body saying "no" in body-mind parlace, and an indication of my stress response pulling me away.

I am going through a patch of spiritual dryness/depletion.

When one is engaged in deep struggle, for a prolonged period, it is only natural that one's fire begins to burn dimmer.

It is expected to struggle when doing hard things. In struggle, there is brain change.

But when struggle becomes underlying, becomes something we think about 24/7, something that is always on the mind underneath the surface - it can eat away at us....

I have been going through this during this stage of my journey. In London, the dates were aplenty, and it often felt fun day gaming.

Moving away, it is such an inconvenience to go to day game on the weekends, it is such a pull away from my weekly activities, and given I was not quite able to get my negative perceptions of day game to abate, having to carry that and work through it, is burdensome at times.

Within me, there is a lot of doubt, fear, worry, and this sense of a certain withering away of the Self. The endless cycle of pursuit, to no avail, when it has been something I am having to go out my way to do now, is draining.

If there was volume in this city, I'd not have these feelings. I'd go to the city centre, approach, and drive home and carry on with my life.

Having to get ~2/3hrs of transport to London on Sat morning, crash with friends Sat night, return for ~2/3hrs on Sun, often quite tired and having to push myself and use inner resources, has been beating me down a little.

The endless push. The hard ass work.

You only have one bucket to draw from. And it can be a lot doing all this - biz, gym, dating. I've been through this many times, this is infact nothing compared to how it was previous. And I have improved on ALL metrics: socially, looks, game wise. The lot. I am outright better in every way.

And yet, part of me just doesn't feel hopeful, optimistic, or joyful in dating right now.

See, I have been through this. But in London, I had the antidote. I COULD get dates using online dating, and though it was a lot of work, I'd be able to sit and talk with a girl, and that was enough to soothe my soul and feel like everything will be OK.

In the West Mids, and also, Bristol, I wasn't able to make shit happen.

Outside of London, in dating app terms, I am not able to get anything.

I DID have a makeout in Bristol, and did exchange twice - I'd, eventually, crack night game and make things happen there.

But I would, sometimes, come back from those nights, feeling rotten. I can't even tell you why. I just would.

Despite the improvements, social skills, game, and just being better with people, though I see it, and should be really happy, for some reason, I am not.

Only part of this is a "results" thing.

This game has brought a lot of shit my way, for months now, and no real win since Nov 2022. The "breakup", the near misses, the slow loss of my joy in day game, the massive gains in nightgame, which I just couldn't find happiness over.

Getting better, is all well and good

But living in fear, doubt, insecurity, pain, and feeling like your life is passing you by inside, is what creates a wound that obscures the rest.

How do I know this?

Since the DG coaching session, I mentally put myself on "monk mode" and LET GO

As the hours passed, the world grew brighter in colour, my interactions with everyone in the world got better (I do chat with random people and so on). Because I knew, Ravi, you don't have to do this for a while, it's OK, let go and stop worrying.....

I am carrying some pain, it is clear, and that is the problem.

At this stage, I am not sure why I feel like this, given I have made improvements, and also am better in every sense.

Therefore, it is not really in relation to dating or self improvement. Rather, it is an underlying body of pain I have been hanging onto unconsciously, and will now need to let go.

I do understand the inner work process fairly well. I think I will need to let go of whatever is going on inside me, over a duration now.

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My week will be focused on business, and living in a more peaceful state of acceptance.

Joyful productivity occurs from a place of letting go and being still.

Spiritual crises can occur at any time in our life and as men, we must face it head on, and be brave enough to let go, and let ourselves heal energetically

R
 
MakingAComeback said:
I am carrying some pain, it is clear, and that is the problem.

At this stage, I am not sure why I feel like this, given I have made improvements, and also am better in every sense.

Therefore, it is not really in relation to dating or self improvement. Rather, it is an underlying body of pain I have been hanging onto unconsciously, and will now need to let go.

I do understand the inner work process fairly well. I think I will need to let go of whatever is going on inside me, over a duration now.
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I am by no means suggesting they are a cure all,

and I'm sorry if you mentioned this somewhere earlier in your log,

but do you have any experience with psychedelics?


Hang in there, Ravi

We believe in you
 
THE IRON WILL PROJECT: WEEK 9 (Mon 6th March)

ACTIONS

(1) Money
-Content: Core Video & 5 Shorts
-Value Post
-Twitter
-Networking
-Landing page work
-Lead magnet work

(2) Muscles
-Core
-Gym: Chest & Triceps
-2700kcal + DHA

(3) Mindset
-Letting Go: Living in stillness & acceptance of all that is

Notes:

Day Structure

630 Biz Checkins / Sunrise
830 Content: Core & 5 Shorts
930 “”
1030 “”
1130 Core
12 Gym: Chest & Triceps
-Shops: Chicken Thighs (LIDL)
2 OMAD: Mince, DHA, PB, Coconut Oil, Side Salad / Supps / Sperti lamp (10m)
3 Value Post
330 Tweeting / Dermroller on stretch marks
4 Network Like A Beast / Standing Desk
6 Biz Admin – Landing Page
7 EG Call
745 DUCTH Test: Perform tomorrow, plan today
8 CT (20m)
830 Lead Magnet
10 Read: David Hawkins – Letting Go, chapter on Anger

BW: 193.3. Good. This is an acceptable place to be during recomp. My hard work, diligent dieting, and consistent bed times, will bring this down further. It’s 2700kcal lifting days, 2200kcal non lifting.

Slept well. Feel quite balanced.

My approach for healing what I am going through, will be informed by David Hawkin’s “letting go” idea, which is an approach similar to mindfulness or other spiritual ideas like acceptance. I will be surrendering to the sensations, beliefs, and defence mechanisms by mind is throwing up right now, not judging or resisting at all, and will simply continue my life being still, executing, and being at ease. My mind will integrate this experience, process whatever is going on underneath the surface, and it will leave.

On the other side of that, will be a more peaceful Ravi.

There is no reason for me to be feeling pain and a lack of ease when it comes to any aspect of my journey, as I am doing well.

There are lessons my body/mind wants me to learn, and it has chosen now to be that time.

I’ll heed the call

MAC
 
Manly Cockfellow said:
MakingAComeback said:
I am carrying some pain, it is clear, and that is the problem.

At this stage, I am not sure why I feel like this, given I have made improvements, and also am better in every sense.

Therefore, it is not really in relation to dating or self improvement. Rather, it is an underlying body of pain I have been hanging onto unconsciously, and will now need to let go.

I do understand the inner work process fairly well. I think I will need to let go of whatever is going on inside me, over a duration now.
Click to expand...

I am by no means suggesting they are a cure all,

and I'm sorry if you mentioned this somewhere earlier in your log,

but do you have any experience with psychedelics?


Hang in there, Ravi

We believe in you
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Def. considered it Manly, see I was on a spiritual journey before KYIL, it was what brought me here in a way, and I still have a lot of contacts and mentors in that space

What my old mentor, Dr Jesse, used to advise for moving through spiritual practice was stillness and allowing the wisdom of the body to handle our problems

He thought we as humans are by design a spiritual being and there is an energetic aspect to life

He saw my struggles as layers of karma I had to shed, and I was a mad intense bastard even at that time, the other people in the group would go for a daily walk and breathe, let go, and be

I'd insist on hiking 8hrs a day and all this shit!

Dr Jesse used to tell me, I'd gotten a lot from the more active aspect of healing, but there'd come a time when I'd need to lean into meditation, stillness, and non-doing

Part of me thinks I may need to let go for a while and totally accept it all, for what it is, and no longer worry AT ALL

My doubts about "self improvement" are difficult to grapple with, as this process has produced objectively shit outcomes for me - despite improving. Obese/weirdo type of girls for lays, I mean I was attracted to just ONE lady I was able to go on a date with. Everybody ghosted, no one stuck around, now back in the wilderness pretty much....I am OK with letting it be. My heart isn't in it right now.

Maybe self improvement does not work for people like ne

Or maybe it does

Maybe this is an outright scam for men like me

Maybe it isn't

I don't know. I am very conflicted.

I am going to let go for a while and let it be

Because even if the writing is on the wall for me, even if this was never going to work out from the beginning and I was fighting a losing battle, from a sinking ship from the start..........

There is NO USE suffering

Not for this. It isn't worth it.

I'm nurturing myself for a while

Ravi
 
klondike said:
As a guy you have to learn to be happy by yourself, without women. I don’t mean as a subtext to get women: “I will learn to be happy by myself without women, so I can get women.”
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I was to point this out.

The biggest challenge of new guys (and no offense MacDaddy, i'm using this post to make a point) is to dissolve the "red pill" rage after they misinterpret various sources of informations (including online forums about pick up) about Women.

When they learn to become whole and content with themselves, they kill the needy part of their personality ( natedawg sounds familiar?) and they accept women for what they are, women.

Not some magical entity that fixes all.
 
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