-Debrief at the end, and he suggests that the biggest thing with me, is that I am carrying deep, heavy anger and negative emotions, and he didn’t know what to suggest
Sounds like an incompetent coach. I can tell from experience that working with a competent coach can make a night and day difference in your game. Did you both do group sets together? That's when you learn the most, specially if you can make longer interactions.
Did he give you 'homework'? Practical excercises to do to improve your approach?
Watching the video you just posted, there's a lot of room for improvement in your vibe, tonality, etc.
If he isn't giving you practical guidelines, what things to improve on specifically, and just abstract woo woo nonsense, I don't think he's a good coach.
Besides, I think you're thinking too black and white. Either go all in with approach or go full monk mode for indefinite time.
I guarantee you that if you take the second route you'll go back to your old patterns and lose the progress you've made.
Which doesn't mean you should take the first route. If daygame is a horrible experience, then don't it, it won't go well and you'll keep reinforcing the trauma. Do less of what doesn't work and more of what works.
But don't isolate yourself (at least that's what I imagine when you say monk mode). Your going back to the self improvement trap that lead many of us to lack of socialization.
If online is what got you results, why don't double down on it? You can leverage your pictures and looks way more than in daygame.
Why don't you join some social circle? A dance class or something like that. Not with the goal of hunting pussy, but just improving your social skills.
tl;dr don't bang your head against the wall, but also don't give up
