YO BROS!
Big picture goals wise, this game is very psychologically challenging - you will, inevitably, meet many many women who don't vibe, who you feel little to no attraction for, and can start to question what the point is.
You know I have truly gone all in on building this vision, and building one of life's true champions
I work hard and put more dedication into every day of my life than most could ever know.....
When you live with me, like Paw does, and you see me getting up at 5am every day, putting my entire future on the principles of self improvement, you will understand how big a deal this is for me
Not finding what it is that you seek in your core, requires you to make a decision.
Am I going to quit, or can I keep going?
As you know, quitting is not an option.
So, despite me being a very monogamous person who does not enjoy casual sex, does not enjoy casual dating, and actually wants a LTR, I have to fucking
attack this shit, because it is what will, eventually, bring me better women, and better quality experiences.
At present, I just cannot accept the quality of what I get. You can ask Paw - these are just not a good fit for me. Nothing wrong with them, I am not for everyone as you damn well know. But I can't, man. I just can't....I am happy to say this, as I myself am considered ugly by many women: it is unpleasant to sleep with bigger women, who also smell bad. The last one....was not it, man. The one before, whilst totally lovely and an absolute sweetheart, just didn't hit.
So, really what needs to be done here, is to LooksMaxx further, to be able to attract women I am interested in.
I will find someone who I like, find attractive, and want to build something with. Is possible, and will be done.
I found, my mindset had to change. In this journey, you will kiss a lot of frogs. They don't turn into a princess. I've grinded through 150+ date and don't have a girlfriend yet. Tough shit. Gut up, keep hammering, shore up all holes in the regime, and go on the f***king attack.
As such, I found, I had to learn to stop putting pressure on myself. I had to truly let go of my desire to start a family, and accept the fact that I may never find that. And when I did this, the pressure started to slip away, and I found more passion and drive to go to the black jack table and put it all on the one person who can complete this journey - me. Ravi Sandhu. MAC.
If you carry these high expectations, when you are still early in the journey, you will torment yourself.
At the lower end of SMV, and whilst not being in an optimal location, you will get MOGGED a lot, and also attract many unattractive, undesirable and lower quality women.
So, if I am putting my long term goal front and centre, I found, it just kept putting me in the dungeon. I'd leave these dates, thinking to myself, damn Ravi, you've been at this for years, when are you ever going to start meeting women who you really connect and vibe with?
The truth is, no one shirks the work. If you want higher quality women, you yourself must become the guy they want to date.
Women, I'll be blunt, are extremely superficial, and are a hyper looks & status obsessed creature. It is really awful, but that is how nature designed them. I got over it. You go a long time without getting any human needs met, apart from just animal sex, which I can get, and your heart, which started out full of love, becomes colder.
That is male life.
This is war, and the pursuit of success.
The less we think about finding love and quality companionship, the better IMO.
Women, are abundant. Most of them, are perfectly pleasant as people. In dating and relationships, most women are fucking abysmal and dating them will, inevitably, make you die inside. They are so vile. But for the men who are strong enough to endure, you can find the odd gal, who is actually pretty cool.
I don't write all the details I used to in this log. I am so busy now.
But I have been getting dates, and meeting lots of women. Some OK experiences, some really f**king terrible.
Stoicism is when you shrug your shoulders and just move on.
Someone worthwhile, will be attainable at some point, but I understand woman and how they think and operate now after years, 7000+ approaches, almost 200 dates, and living the lifestyle deeply.
There will eventually be a woman who will go with me, who is also of good quality, who will look past low SMV (yes, this is actually that much of a killer of outcomes, and is more powerful than game or anything one can actually do, by a factor of 1,000. SMV is absolute king, Game is useful, but only adds a few %s - don't expect victory to come if you are truly low SMV, you will have to fight like me every day)
Since returning from NYC, and post-bootcamp
, I feel a lot less strongly about Game.
I have changed my thoughts on that a tonne.
It is useful, esp. for low SMV, as you are pretty much fucked otherwise. I will save you a lot of time and just tell you the truth - Game is pretty good, but it's a minuscule tool, and can make, at best, a small difference.
Looks, which are FAR more integral to SMV, however, can make a MONUMENTAL DIFFRENCE
So which would a smart person focus on?
Dating, cold approaching, closing, etc, all do require Game if you're low SMV and/or truly ugly.
So, a smart approach, is to just approach, date, and run the numbers game as a base.
And then, smash the gym and work on yourself. This, IMO, at this point in my journey, has become the most important part and is now where my weak link/sticking point truly is.
A woman will not look past low SMV due to Game.
However, if she is able to say, well....he is not my type, he's really not what I was looking for, but he turns me on, and looks fucking good.....I think this is actually an avenue that will give me a shot!
That is how this will work moving forward. I am glad I was able to see this myself, so I can do the work that will actually get me beyond where I am.
Progression and gains have been made.
I am not the old MAC.
I am in a new era, and want better.
Because my grand vision of starting a family, is now something I am letting go of, I accept the single life a lot more and this means, I can actually spend the 2-3 years it will take to build a physique, and to get, likely very expensive facial surgeries.
This is not to say, I am grateful for the era where I was interested in Game. It did produce some changes, which were significant and got me further along. I would have been stuck a beta male and a weak ass cuck. Very grateful for getting past that.
But, I do now recognise, that it is
not the piece that is missing at this stage.
I have learned how the SMP and women work. Yes, it is harrowing. Harden up. You can still adapt and find ways to obtain the odd bit of intimacy and companionship whoever you may be so don't blame me for telling you the raw truth. If you don't have the looks, there are ways to win while you develop them. Numbers Game + Lowering Standards.
Why are my standards so low?
I choose to lower my standards, A LOT, because I like being treated positively and like I am a human being. Very few women will do that for you if you don't fit the mould, trust me on that.
The issue I am having now, is that I physically cannot just continue to date and sleep with women I feel no attraction for. Did it the first few years, can't do it anymore.
My effort is instead going to be re-directed to the gym, tattooing, style, and surgeries.
Looks & SMV is absolute king and to woman, is all that really matters.
You will just attract trash, who will treat you like a peasant, unless you are able to properly, and I mean properly, ascend in SMV. You also do actually need a basic minimum of Game if you're low SMV.
All that being said - many wins to report.
Whilst the journey remains quite a lot of work, I have come to learn, this is just how it is when you're outside of society's parameters for male attractiveness. And yet, through work ethic, I am able to win.
Let me tell you about where I am at right now
Dates are flowing, I am approaching, I am hustling, and doing what must be done.
Quality on the apps, is not great, though I have matched with 2 girls recently I'd say are pretty - 6 to 6.5.
Working on getting them out. The hotter one, has already rescheduled twice. I am succeeding in my life, so I don't really give a fuck, I know success is my future anyway.
Because I am a fucking dog as you know!
SEX POSITIVE PARTY - TWO WOMEN SUCK MY DICK
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Me and my housemate, Paw, who doesn't want his face on here as he's not about this life, attended this event. Pics below.
I am public about my pursuit of success
I have been found online now by many people. Several women I dated/wanted to date, found my stuff, and told me to get fucked. It's caused more than a few to just never speak to me again.
Because I got off my ass when my face was in the concrete, 280lbs, wanting to put a fucking bullet in my head, to dedicating every waking moment to turning myself into a future success story. For this, I am now a fringe society member. Well, so be it. I am 100% for the underdog in life, the person counted out by society, I secretly root for these guys, getting up every day in the fucking sewer of life, with goals that feel impossible, and they grind in the shadows AGAIN! They get it every fucking day of their life. That makes my dick hard. I am a sucker for this shit. When bones are about to crack, when hope is lost, when there seems like there is nothing left - that is when people like me stand up. And why I am also misunderstood by some people who think I am a fucking nutcase.
So be it..........
Grinding hard on Sat, do my approaches with Paw, the girl mentioned above didn't confirm for our date on Sat, so I went to a sex positive party with Paw and a chick he met off Feeld.
She's a good looking Italian chick. She comments that she thinks I look sexy in my leathers. Shoutout The Dom for initiating myself and Paw on how to work with the sex positive scene, how to dress, how to conduct yourself at the events, build relationships, and explore play.
We rock up. We vibe, talk to people, the owner chats to us for a while.
It's a lot of fun. I start chatting to one gal, who is quite attractive, she gets a 5.5 from me. Has a crazy good ass/body, and gets up, pulls her skirt up, and shakes her ass in my face, which I promptly spank.
Vibe, chat, sexualise, move locations. Isolate, escalate. Make out. Pull to a play session.
Spank, choke, finger, and she sucks my dick.
I was not comfortable banging in public, but tried to pull home. She wouldn't pull home. She then mingled into the night. There's plenty of folks playing, fucking each other, people just switching around partners.
I chat to others, and I am having a lot of fun. When there was 30m left, I then found another woman, who was physically not good at all (3 would be charitable), but I was drunk and horny at this stage, so pulled her to the play room, fingered her, sucked her tits, and she also sucked my dick.
All the while, the girl I banged the previous week, is texting me trying to come to my place, literally telling me over and over how good sex with me was. I will spare the details, but I am very good with my tongue, obv I have stamina for days.
I made her cum so hard via oral she actually needed about 5 mins to recover, she was out of this planet dude, couldn't speak, convulsing, spazzing the fuck out.
"I WOULD JUMP THROUGH FIRE FOR THAT ORGASM YOU GAVE ME"
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Very gratifying.
She is chasing me.
Remember the many, many cold months of this journey, when I had no hope, when every girl I would date, told me they felt no connection, and 50 of those dates went nowhere?
And I believed every one of my demons in my head, that I am truly so ugly, that I will have to go through this life alone. Not fit to breed, not fit to be in the gene pool, autistic spazz, genetic mistake. All that shit did damage to me. It was a hard time on this road, and though many did question whether I could do it, in those days, I had Andy, Radical, and also, The Bastard. These men got me through that period at the start when I couldn't seem to make any progress.
Then, of course, Rags2Bitches, Pancakemouse, and The Dom entered my life.
And through all this fucking work..............I am now here.
Thebastard is the Low SMV King.
He is the man.
I am not as hard a man as he is. I give credit and respect where it's due. He is a man I can truly admire for his journey and story, and he is the one true hardcase incel I have ever know who out grinded me into oblivion. It's not even funny, the gap between where I am and him, is like a continent. Few will every understand what it takes to succeed in this game as a low SMV person.
You have to be fucking NAILS. That is why he is the king. But, I am finding more success in my life now, though I am early days in this journey, and if there will be a 2nd to The Bastard for a Low SMV King, better believe me when I say, that will be me, and I hope to also inspire other people who are in the dungeon of life like that legend did to me.
The many years of learning, self improvement, Game, and vibe, social calibration, and finding success and positive experiences, creates the changes in the Inner World, that reignite self belief, and finally start to crystalise the most powerful thing of all - abundance mentality
As Andy would say, "The Winner's Mindset"
Mindset, is mission critical
It allows you to blast through the various stages of this journey and find success
Because you will simply find ways to win and change yourself very deeply
Like I did
And now, that is why, I am, slowly, but surely, coming up....................
I am nowhere near done
I am just f**king getting started
SUCCESS AND BECOMING A F**KING CHAMPION IS A LIFESTYLE CHOICE
DECIDING THAT YOU ARE GOING TO MAKE IT IS DECISION YOU ENGRAVE ONTO THE WALLS OF YOUR HEART
WHEN I CAME HERE, I TOLD YOU I WAS SERIOUS
29 YEAR OLD VIRGIN, ALL I HAD EVER KNOWN, WAS DEFEAT
I COULD NOT STAND THE REFLECTION OF WHAT I SAW WHEN I LOOKED IN THE MIRROR
I WORKED MYSELF, SO HARD, I GROUND MYSELF INTO A FINE FUCKING POWDER
I GOT MYSELF HERE THROUGH MULTIPLE YEARS OF SHEER FORCE OF WILL
.....THAT IS WHY, ONE DAY, IN THE NOT TOO DISTANT FUTURE, I WILL PROVE TO YOU BEYOND ANY SHADOW OF A DOUBT THAT THE HARDEST CASE LOSER THE SPACE HAS EVER KNOW, BECAME A LEGEND............
This will be unlocked, via the following:
-2 years of gym
-Tattooing
-Facial surgeries
-GeoMaxxing (location switching until I find somewhere which has some semblance of product:market fitment)
THAT'S ALL THERE IS TO IT, MAN
MAC
THE GODFATHER OF GRINDING
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