Crimson
Member
- Joined
- Apr 2, 2021
- Name
- Brandon
- Goal
- Get Laid
- Age
- 21
- Location
- Germany
Why am I scared to approach girls?
Went down the rabbit hole of answering this question, as I just don’t seem to be able to do it. Granted, I probably tried to approach for 6 days in a row, then didn’t go out for 4 days and then got back on it for the last two days.
Plus I’ve “only” been going out for 30 min. each day.
So these are the results:
1. Why am I scared to approach girls? -> Because I fear rejection.
2. Why do I fear rejection? -> Because I’m scared to end up alone.
3. Why am I scared to end up alone? -> Because being alone would mean that I would have to learn to enjoy my own company + Face my insecurities/ issues one by one.
4. Why can’t I learn to enjoy my own company + Face my insecurities/ issues? -> Because doing so would be scary and hard
5. Does the process of me learning to enjoy my own company + Facing my insecurities/ issues have to be scary and hard? -> Probably, but probably less so if I break it down into manageable steps.
6. Why don’t I enjoy my own company?
-Negative self-talk (nobody likes hanging out with an asshole, even if it’s yourself)
-I live quite a boring life (“Hanging out with myself” is just really not that interesting)
-I don’t know myself (I feel like I don’t know what I really want ect.)
The rabbit hole is probably way deeper than this but I haven’t come up with new questions yet. Might edit this specific post later on and add new questions I’ve found or I’ll make an entirely new post.
I’ll talk about possible solutions for not enjoying my own company and confronting my insecurities/issues in the next post.
Crimson
Went down the rabbit hole of answering this question, as I just don’t seem to be able to do it. Granted, I probably tried to approach for 6 days in a row, then didn’t go out for 4 days and then got back on it for the last two days.
Plus I’ve “only” been going out for 30 min. each day.
So these are the results:
1. Why am I scared to approach girls? -> Because I fear rejection.
2. Why do I fear rejection? -> Because I’m scared to end up alone.
3. Why am I scared to end up alone? -> Because being alone would mean that I would have to learn to enjoy my own company + Face my insecurities/ issues one by one.
4. Why can’t I learn to enjoy my own company + Face my insecurities/ issues? -> Because doing so would be scary and hard
5. Does the process of me learning to enjoy my own company + Facing my insecurities/ issues have to be scary and hard? -> Probably, but probably less so if I break it down into manageable steps.
6. Why don’t I enjoy my own company?
-Negative self-talk (nobody likes hanging out with an asshole, even if it’s yourself)
-I live quite a boring life (“Hanging out with myself” is just really not that interesting)
-I don’t know myself (I feel like I don’t know what I really want ect.)
The rabbit hole is probably way deeper than this but I haven’t come up with new questions yet. Might edit this specific post later on and add new questions I’ve found or I’ll make an entirely new post.
I’ll talk about possible solutions for not enjoying my own company and confronting my insecurities/issues in the next post.
Crimson