M-Solomon
Member
- Joined
- Nov 15, 2020
Hi guys,
This is really my first time doing a forum post or internet comment of any sort for a very long time, so even just posting something here is a kind of big deal for me. I think I've felt anxious about posting anything anywhere for a while because I knew other people could judge it. I still feel anxious writing this.
I live in Perth, Western Australia (opposite side of the country to Andy). I didn't get laid at all or have really any social skills throughout high school and after until I was about 20-21. I was a total loser. I then started to get into pick up/red pill theory (beginning with 'The Game') but didn't make much out of it. I started swing dancing when I was 21 and actually got a few lays and a girlfriend from that. Her and I had been on and off (mostly on) for about 3 years until we broke up a couple of months ago.
Leading up to the break-up I fell into a pretty deep nihilism that stopped me from leaving the house and stopped me caring about uni work. It also stopped me from working (I do uber eats) and my savings account just steadily drained away while I stayed in and played video games. All of the structure and routine I had built up over the previous years just sort of dissolved (this was the same time as covid started to hit). When we did ultimately break up, that was a wake-up call for me and it gave me a new sense of purpose. I started to go back to the red pill/manosphere stuff and really try and figure out what I'd been doing wrong and what to improve. It was just a week or two ago that I first stumbled upon KYIL, and Andy's tinder guide gave me a path forward to improvement.
Since then I have:
- Started working again
- Taken a bunch of better pics for tinder/hinge/all the other apps I downloaded (these were only taken with a phone - I'm still waiting on my new camera to arrive)
- Messaged ~100 girls on hinge a day for the past week
- Started doing keto and IF to shed my excess body fat (I have also been hitting the gym doing the starting strength program for the last month)
- Gotten teeth whitening moulds and begun the whitening treatment
- Gotten benzoyl peroxide + antibiotics from my doctor to try and treat my acne
- Made and posted this post on the forum here, which like I said is a pretty big deal for me
Today I:
- Worked out
- Worked for ~5 hours
- Messaged 100 girls on hinge
- Kept to my keto diet but didn't keep to my IF (feeding window was closer to 9hrs, while I'm aiming for 8)
- played ~2 hours of video games
No dates from the apps so far, but I've had a fair few conversations (following the template) and gotten a few numbers and a few girls saying I'm cute. Most of this is from hinge. I usually get <5 likes from a boost on tinder, so clearly I have room for improvement there.
As for approaches, I've started to begin conversations with strangers more in the last few months, and have done this to meet a lot of girls at uni, but I've only converted one of these into a date. I have never really cold approached.
Any help/direction as to what I should prioritise working on would be much appreciated. Feedback as to how I'm doing would be appreciated too.
Thanks in advance guys, and thanks a lot to Andy for this website which has already helped get me on the right track.
This is really my first time doing a forum post or internet comment of any sort for a very long time, so even just posting something here is a kind of big deal for me. I think I've felt anxious about posting anything anywhere for a while because I knew other people could judge it. I still feel anxious writing this.
I live in Perth, Western Australia (opposite side of the country to Andy). I didn't get laid at all or have really any social skills throughout high school and after until I was about 20-21. I was a total loser. I then started to get into pick up/red pill theory (beginning with 'The Game') but didn't make much out of it. I started swing dancing when I was 21 and actually got a few lays and a girlfriend from that. Her and I had been on and off (mostly on) for about 3 years until we broke up a couple of months ago.
Leading up to the break-up I fell into a pretty deep nihilism that stopped me from leaving the house and stopped me caring about uni work. It also stopped me from working (I do uber eats) and my savings account just steadily drained away while I stayed in and played video games. All of the structure and routine I had built up over the previous years just sort of dissolved (this was the same time as covid started to hit). When we did ultimately break up, that was a wake-up call for me and it gave me a new sense of purpose. I started to go back to the red pill/manosphere stuff and really try and figure out what I'd been doing wrong and what to improve. It was just a week or two ago that I first stumbled upon KYIL, and Andy's tinder guide gave me a path forward to improvement.
Since then I have:
- Started working again
- Taken a bunch of better pics for tinder/hinge/all the other apps I downloaded (these were only taken with a phone - I'm still waiting on my new camera to arrive)
- Messaged ~100 girls on hinge a day for the past week
- Started doing keto and IF to shed my excess body fat (I have also been hitting the gym doing the starting strength program for the last month)
- Gotten teeth whitening moulds and begun the whitening treatment
- Gotten benzoyl peroxide + antibiotics from my doctor to try and treat my acne
- Made and posted this post on the forum here, which like I said is a pretty big deal for me
Today I:
- Worked out
- Worked for ~5 hours
- Messaged 100 girls on hinge
- Kept to my keto diet but didn't keep to my IF (feeding window was closer to 9hrs, while I'm aiming for 8)
- played ~2 hours of video games
No dates from the apps so far, but I've had a fair few conversations (following the template) and gotten a few numbers and a few girls saying I'm cute. Most of this is from hinge. I usually get <5 likes from a boost on tinder, so clearly I have room for improvement there.
As for approaches, I've started to begin conversations with strangers more in the last few months, and have done this to meet a lot of girls at uni, but I've only converted one of these into a date. I have never really cold approached.
Any help/direction as to what I should prioritise working on would be much appreciated. Feedback as to how I'm doing would be appreciated too.
Thanks in advance guys, and thanks a lot to Andy for this website which has already helped get me on the right track.
