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- Jan 4, 2023
I'm having a hard time having dates from cold approach. I finished half the AA program back in September (I was able to hit on girls already) and since then I been doing approaches on my daily life + once a week at the mall for 2 hours. It's been around somewhere around 200-300 approaches since then and gotten about 35 phone numbers.
From those 35 numbers I had 3 flakes and been on 3 different dates. Sadly they all saw me as boyfriend material, two of the girls were extremely inexperienced and one was a single mom.
The problem now is every time I go out I'm scared to increase this approach number since I been looking at numbers from other guys saying each 10 approaches:1 lay ratio, it just kills my confidence and makes me scared that no one will like me, I already talked to a lot of chicks and I just see no results, have some other friends from my area that have sex without even trying and I genuinely look better, I'm taller and have a better style. I gotta admit I'm a little anxious/awkward at talking plus English isn't my first language. I read Andy's post about helpless and hopeless, it really did helped me and motivated me to go to a near campus. Got 5 numbers within 11 approaches, however only 1 has replied back and today I'm totally devastated from this results. It's hard to keep my mind thinking into other things and can't really study for my courses.
Looking at the bright side I do feel about 80% more masculine since I first started this journey and see only positive results in other areas of my life.
I did open my Pandora box when doing this, a lot of shit about insecurities and belief did came from my repressed mind, which I'm working on now.
Thanks in advance
From those 35 numbers I had 3 flakes and been on 3 different dates. Sadly they all saw me as boyfriend material, two of the girls were extremely inexperienced and one was a single mom.
The problem now is every time I go out I'm scared to increase this approach number since I been looking at numbers from other guys saying each 10 approaches:1 lay ratio, it just kills my confidence and makes me scared that no one will like me, I already talked to a lot of chicks and I just see no results, have some other friends from my area that have sex without even trying and I genuinely look better, I'm taller and have a better style. I gotta admit I'm a little anxious/awkward at talking plus English isn't my first language. I read Andy's post about helpless and hopeless, it really did helped me and motivated me to go to a near campus. Got 5 numbers within 11 approaches, however only 1 has replied back and today I'm totally devastated from this results. It's hard to keep my mind thinking into other things and can't really study for my courses.
Looking at the bright side I do feel about 80% more masculine since I first started this journey and see only positive results in other areas of my life.
I did open my Pandora box when doing this, a lot of shit about insecurities and belief did came from my repressed mind, which I'm working on now.
Thanks in advance