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Ravi, Year 3: Self-Improvement Log - Data-Driven, Incremental Growth. Feedback Welcome. Ego & Defenses, Dropping [XMAS MESSAGE FROM MAC]

Holden said:
I used to have crippling insomnia to the point where I visited a dedicated sleeping clinic, where they hook you up with all kinds of machinery to track your sleep and brain waves, and all they said after a horrible night was "oops, you slept so little we couldn't actually gather enough data to help you."

I'm just going to share what worked for me to fix this shit, after years of experimentation:

  • All the basics like dark, cold room, no caffeine after noon, etc.
  • 5-HTP, 50mg, 1 hour before bed
  • ZMA, 3 pills (can't remember dosage), 1 hour before bed
  • Melatonin, 3mg, 30 min before bed
  • Camomile tea with glycine (teaspoon) right before bed

It sounds like a lot but it's the only thing that consistently gets me 8-9 hours of sleep, and it's an overnight solution instead of this long process where you try to optimize your sleep. I wouldn't recommend you instantly take all of this stuff, but experiment first. The combination of 5-HTP with melatonin was a gamechanger for me, you might only need one of the two.
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Thank you so much brother, I appreciate you.

MAC
 
I've joined Andy's private membership group, The Winner's Club. I will be there taking full advantage of having access to Andy and the most serious guys out there. I will be putting ALL my energy into crushing my goals and staying accountable on the Winner's Club.

Will post periodic updates here.

MAC
 
What exactly are you doing to lose weight? I believe in the past you mentioned you had practiced breathing techniques so your running capability was fairly decent for someone of your stature?
Are you counting calories? Increasing your total steps for the day. Increasing Non Exercise Activity thermogenic (like taking the stairs instead of the elevator)? I know it takes time to log all your workouts and stuff but its hard to critique if what your doing is working or not without knowing what your doing. Idk if u wanna flood this log with workout stuff and weight loss since this seems to have a lot to do with your work related stuff.

The rule I live by is calories in and calories out. And it seems to be working for me so far, but everyone needs to experiment a bit for themselves. .
 
Toast said:
What exactly are you doing to lose weight? I believe in the past you mentioned you had practiced breathing techniques so your running capability was fairly decent for someone of your stature?
Are you counting calories? Increasing your total steps for the day. Increasing Non Exercise Activity thermogenic (like taking the stairs instead of the elevator)? I know it takes time to log all your workouts and stuff but its hard to critique if what your doing is working or not without knowing what your doing. Idk if u wanna flood this log with workout stuff and weight loss since this seems to have a lot to do with your work related stuff.

The rule I live by is calories in and calories out. And it seems to be working for me so far, but everyone needs to experiment a bit for themselves. .
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Thanks brother great post. I am working hard at the mo and where I have time I am in the private group but your post had value so I wanted to thank you.

I will keep everyone posted but right now I'm getting after it.

MAC
 
Toast said:
Nice, Glad to hear you are still working hard towards your goals!
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Thanks brother. Believe me I am working hard dude, really. I will tell you more, but major weight is coming off! Big big things will come in the future my man I assure you.

UPDATE: I am extremely happy right now. I just lost my virginity.

The Become a Winner Group is super life-changing, everyone there is no-nonsense and these guys are ripping throats out, taking insane levels of action and they tell you the hard truth, whether you want to hear it or not. KillYourInnerLoser told me to set a deadline to lose my virginity, and I responded with 31st of December. He told me this was bullshit and that my self-limiting beliefs are bullshit. He basically told me if I was serious, I could get laid within 1 week, and if I did everything in my power, I could definitely lose my virginity. I told him that the only way I could lose my virginity for the 30th of July was if I considered escorts, and he told me that could potentially be useful. I watched a few videos from Andy on self limiting beliefs, and thought, fuck it, I am turning 30 in two months and have never been touched by a woman or made to feel like I am worthy of love. I thought, fuck it, I am a hard worker and a man of integrity, I will give myself the gift of being with a woman. I hired myself a high class escort!

I just came back from seeing her. She was literally breath-taking, gorgeous with a capital G, and really intelligent, well-spoken, interesting, I called her in the morning and explained that I am a virgin and have major self-limiting beliefs around intimacy. I explained that I have otherwise been able to achieve things in life and am quite a competent person with a fairly decent life. I just developed big self-limiting beliefs. We arranged a time, and I went to see her.

God it felt good. She was so lovely, her body was amazing, her face, everything just felt so good on her. We made out a tonne and she performed oral on me, she put a condom on and I tried missionary, then doggy, she said she could then go on top but I was quite blown away at this point. I was nervous, I could really tell, it was hard for me to relax and also I couldn't cum. However, we had a great time, and honestly she looks like she was really enjoying it, she looked really into it, and she was surprised, she thought it was odd that I had never been with a woman before lol. Anyway, it felt great making out with her, holding her, she seemed to be getting really into it and she was so attentive, reassuring, and made me feel so comfortable. The feminine is a powerful thing and something that I want in my life from now on!

At the end, we chatted, and she told me there is plenty of time for me to meet someone and she told me something interesting: she said that sex is actually not what I think, and that because I was introduced to the experience of sex through pornography, I have failed to understand that sex is just a form of basic human contact and it is necessary. It was a poignant thing.

So there you go. I am no longer a virgin, and I have learned that I can spend quality time with women and enjoy being intimate with them, and that I am worthy of intimacy, love, and there are women who will enjoy being affectionate with me. And I them. A good learning experience.

I am losing weight steadily and I have no doubt there are many great women to meet in the future. I do want to fall in love, get married, have kids, become wealthy and give my family a world class life. I am going to make this happen and I will go to the core of my challenges and completely murder them. I will reshape my psyche and live a life of sexual abundance, and when I have learned more about the type of girl I want for life, I will choose one and put a ring on her finger! Yesterday, I felt like there was no hope for me, today, I KNOW I will succeed.

Quick shoutout to the absolute legend and OG, Thebastard , who told me that the compliments and positive attention women gave him in his life really helped him understand that he is legitimate sex worthy, attractive guy. I believe you said that the experience with the Polish escort on your journey really support you and heal your psyche in a deep, subconscious place. To paraphrase, I believe you said that positive compliments and experiences with women can do untold wonders for a man, and the feminine really can heal us. I went through the same thing tonight and on the drive own there were parts of The Golden Eagle project document ringing in my head. Cannot tell you how much you and Andy have helped me on this journey. I was lost up shit creek, now, the future is bright, this weight will be off soon enough, and we can all sail off into the sunset.

My final job in Project Management ends in July, and my study of Digital Marketing is going superbly well. I have learned a lot about Google Ads, Bing, Facebook Ads, etc. I am doing my certifications now and build up my skillset in Marketing through getting a start in the Digital Marketing industry (looking at PPC roles) and progressively gaining more senior positions and skills over time. This is what I did with Project Management. Anyway, when I am really getting high level in my PPC skills, I know there is a lot of value I could add to your lives, so in the coming years, I would like to reach out and help members of this community with their marketing needs. We can all get rich boys, I have 2 friends who are millionaires (they are 45 and 54 years old respectively) but I believe with 10 years of balls to the wall effort and 100 hour weeks, I will get close. We can do it together.

A very happy MAC closing for the day. I will get back to weight loss and keep you posted on progress. Back to the Inner Winner Group I go. I know there is a lot more tough love to come and no doubt they will call me out many times to come, but I am on the journey of self improvement and will succeed or die trying.

MAC
 
Gratz man really happy this change in your life and mentality. Good fucking job and keep killing it man 💪
Keep that fire alive and burning, can't wait to see your weight loss results

Cheers my guy 💪
 
Bravo amigo.

I think you made a very good decision. Escorts where we come from are very high quality and good people as long as you vet them properly. I actually look back on those days with a certain fondness. In many ways they can save a man's psyche and soul. This is just the beginning brother. This is the beginning of the next chapter of your life ;)
 
Nice man.

Escorts are amazing, knowing that you can get sex anytime, anywhere for ~ $100 is extremely liberating and gives you tonnes of abundance. Sounds like it was a healing experience.
 
Thanks brothers, it was fucking awesome, the experience felt so good it totally lit a fire under my ass and I cannot wait to date as many women as I can!

I am doing my pictures on Monday, will post here, online dating begins next Tuesday and I will try to get 1 date before I leave for the Canaries in 2 weeks.

Weight loss will keep coming and I will take new pics when I have dropped further weight, my camera gear will come with me.

MAC
 
Shooting online dating pictures tomorrow and Tuesday, will post them here for feedback, Thursday I'm going mad on dating apps and getting my first ever date of my life LOL

Everything is coming together.

The advice to gain some intimate experience was fucking life changing, Andy knows his shit at a deep deep level and is an unreal coach.

It really helped me somewhere so deep man. I have a serious craving to meet women and really connect with them now, form deep connections and explore sex. I didn't even want this before because I thought it was impossible for me, but now I want it so so fucking bad LOL. As such, for the first time in my whole life, I have had pangs of loneliness, thoughts like "damn it would be SO fucking good if I had a cool girl to listen to this awesome music with and just hang out with". They are sensations that put a smile on my face but also a bit bittersweet because I really want that feeling now, love, connection, intimacy.

So this is good. And I am going to get these things and make my love life work :)

Weight loss is coming along, I will post a proper update on my weight loss in 1 week.

Anyway, my pictures will be with you on the forum on Wednesday and I will also use the time I have with the Become A Winner private coaching group to get coaching with Andy and the other guys and then Thursday I am off to make it happen to the best of my ability.

I will be going away part travelling and part working for 3 months in the beautiful Canary Islands as of the 15th of this month. This will be a transformational time for me, I am going to get back into cold approach and I will hammer the dating apps and I WILL achieve my goal of 8 dates by the 31st of July. The same girl counts.

Man I am so stoked for what the future will bring, the thought of being lean, ripped, muscular, attractive, and able to have amazing experiences with women and give them amazing experiences, it's a beautiful thought. I don't even care that I am effectively starting at 30 because I know I will pull out ALL the stops and where I will be in 5 years will be a good place.

While you're here, enjoy some music:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0wTxqHbJOzg

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uX9k9aoX6gk

MAC
 
Damn, I decided to drop by, and what I see is a winner in the making (no homo lol). I really respect dudes who will do anything it takes to reach their goals, and you had a no-BS approach to getting an escort to lose your virginity.

Now you're not a virgin anymore. Now you're someone who gets laid. LFG!!!
 
SIGMA_1234 said:
Damn, I decided to drop by, and what I see is a winner in the making (no homo lol). I really respect dudes who will do anything it takes to reach their goals, and you had a no-BS approach to getting an escort to lose your virginity.

Now you're not a virgin anymore. Now you're someone who gets laid. LFG!!!
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Means a lot to me brother, thank you.

Cannot wait to absolutely give this journey my all!!

Just did my first set of photos. Uploading in a sec.

Have another shoot tomorrow w/ different props, clothes, locations, etc. I am seeking feedback from the community as to which I should edit and which should go on dating profiles etc.

MAC
 
MONDAY PHOTOSHOOT

These were the pics I liked most. Please advise which I should seek to edit.

Please find pics on the Google Drive folder below:

https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/1MnZVNUbv7WzVGzrkQuJK6qGv8Mq6NEFt?usp=sharing

Your thoughts are appreciated brothers.

MAC
 
Can you actually see them? Or do I need to tweak something? The files are huge so I couldn't upload them to the forum.

Happy to explore other avenues for uploading so you guys can advise and provide your thoughts.

Thankfully the private coaching group let me upload them all so those guys (and Andy) will be able to see the images and advise accordingly.

MAC
 
MakingAComeback said:
MONDAY PHOTOSHOOT

These were the pics I liked most. Please advise which I should seek to edit.

Please find pics on the Google Drive folder below:

https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/1MnZVNUbv7WzVGzrkQuJK6qGv8Mq6NEFt?usp=sharing

Your thoughts are appreciated brothers.

MAC
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Man you look way better than I thought! If I had to go with 1 photo I would go with 0638 or 0635. Glad seeing you happy man keep working hard! There will me more slumps and hard times ahead , but keep working for your dreams and they will be realised 100% good shit man cheers 💪
 
Master said:
MakingAComeback said:
MONDAY PHOTOSHOOT

These were the pics I liked most. Please advise which I should seek to edit.

Please find pics on the Google Drive folder below:

https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/1MnZVNUbv7WzVGzrkQuJK6qGv8Mq6NEFt?usp=sharing

Your thoughts are appreciated brothers.

MAC
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Man you look way better than I thought! If I had to go with 1 photo I would go with 0638 or 0635. Glad seeing you happy man keep working hard! There will me more slumps and hard times ahead , but keep working for your dreams and they will be realised 100% good shit man cheers 💪
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Damn bro, that means a lot to me - thank you. I am not where I want to be looks wise but I am losing the fucking weight and busting my god damn arse to get to 200lbs and by god I will know the joy of a ripped attractive physique and being a man who gets laid.

I will give this everything I have got man, will pay any price and work as hard as a human can - I WILL get rich. Many of us here will.

Looking forward to the journey.

MAC
 
Got some more photos done, they turned out well. I have posted on the coaching group, and I will use my time with the group in the live call tomorrow to establish which ones I should build my profiles around, which order, etc.

Plan is to start online dating Thursday with a solid profile!

I will keep hammering the weight loss and get myself down to a good bodyfat range. I will post an update on my weight loss on the 14th of June.

Going forward, will be messaging on online dating daily, and doing daily cold approach!

MAC
 
I like 540 and 557.

Pumped to see you take your dating life seriously.

You will also start cold approaching? Damn it, I think I need to move my hairless ass and join the fun.
 
Thanks brothers!! Crisis_Overcomer MattsCrib

Weight loss is key for me, it is legit something I am massively driven towards, it's on my mind 24/7 and I am excited about the results that are starting to happen. Update Monday 14th.

Here are the pics from yesterday:

https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/1c8LVRfdJXwnaP6Z7gu2ostH0e4kxKfE1?usp=sharing

Overall, I have some that are useable, and I am putting together a draft profile today which I will be getting feedback on. I have a concept for which pics I will be using now the guys on the group have given a bit of a steer and I've had thoughts from you dudes. So yeah, let's fucking go.

MAC
 
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