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Taylor said:
What up, I'm Taylor. Alaska based. Will post a longer version elsewhere. Short version:

I love self-improvement, mindset, coaching, BDSM, among other things. I help Andy, Cam and Ed with the group coaching program.

Current Goals:
--Improving the health of my body
--Create Financial Abundance

I, Taylor, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.
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HELL YEAH

WELCOME BRO!

-Ravi
 
I, ProgressEvolution, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.

I'm 25 with a "lay-count" of one. Been on a dry spell for six years now. No experience with serious long-term relationships.

Making progress on my fitness, finances, and social life has been relatively straightforward. I'm making close to my goal income, I know how to get in the shape I want, and I can meet new friends through activities and bring people together and connect...but for some reason, I keep slipping up in the dating area of my life and I want to address it once and for all.

Short-Term Goals:
- Secure 100 Dates from Online Dating
- Increase Lay Count to 50
- Build a lifestyle that attracts and retains the right partner

End goal:
- Get into a healthy long-term relationship

Edit (Nov. 2, 2023): Wow, looking back, my end-goal is pretty unambitious. I'll come back here and post updates once I've achieved my "short-term" goals lol. Not easy to achieve those so I understand pancakemouse's reaction. Once I do though, I'll start addressing the end goal and even surpassing it.

Edit (April 2, 2024): Looking back on this again, I was overestimating where I was at with my fitness, income, and social life. I have a long way to go still and I'm looking forward to aiming even higher in each those areas. A lot of the skills in dating are transferrable to these too and vice versa. Also the dry spell portion is irrelevant since my lay count was technically 0. What was I even on about lmao. You can see my log for more context. Also, once again, these are NOT short term goals. Besides maybe the dating one. Could knock out half of that in maybe a year. I see that I fixed that below though so all good.
 
ProgressEvolution said:
I'm 25 with a lay-count of one. Been on a dry spell for six years now.

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Short-Term Goals:
- Secure 100 Dates from Online Dating
- Increase Lay Count to 50
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"Short-Term"
 
pancakemouse said:
ProgressEvolution said:
I'm 25 with a lay-count of one. Been on a dry spell for six years now.

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Short-Term Goals:
- Secure 100 Dates from Online Dating
- Increase Lay Count to 50
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"Short-Term"
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Lmao. Fair point. Most of the goals I set are for every five to ten years, so my concept of short is skewed.

Maybe I could do...

Short-Term Goals (one year):
- 10 dates from Online Dating
- Increase Lay Count to 4 (or 1-2 repeats)
 
What's up guys!

I, TJ, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.

My goal is to become the version of myself I need to be to achieve my goals. I believe all else comes from that. I'm in a good place personally from working on personal development and self-help for the past few years. I discovered Andy recently via his podcast and resonated with a lot of what he said so decided to join up with a view to eventually taking some coaching if the vibe is right.

Specific goals:

1. Feeling confident in myself to meet and date women on Tinder or via BDSM apps, I kinda of discovered that side of me back in 2018 but due to a long dry spell I don’t have the confidence or the game to approach women so I stay firmly in my comfort zone…but I want to explore nonmonogamy and open relationships within the BDSM community. Essentially, kind of what Andy has done himself…

2. As above, I need to get myself in shape and sort out my appearance, style, and image, not just for dates but also because I want to be taken seriously in my career and my personal. I want to be firing on all cylinders in all areas of my life.

3. Somewhat related; financial abundance. I want to be self-reliant and have control over my life to have the freedom to do what I want and go where I want. I want to be financially independent but I’m far from it atm. I’ve met girls online that live in other parts of the world but I’ve never been in a position to go and meet them and I want to travel and see the world while I still can.

Cheers.
 
LifeTwoPointZero said:
What's up guys!

I, TJ, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.

My goal is to become the version of myself I need to be to achieve my goals. I believe all else comes from that. I'm in a good place personally from working on personal development and self-help for the past few years. I discovered Andy recently via his podcast and resonated with a lot of what he said so decided to join up with a view to eventually taking some coaching if the vibe is right.

Specific goals:

1. Feeling confident in myself to meet and date women on Tinder or via BDSM apps, I kinda of discovered that side of me back in 2018 but due to a long dry spell I don’t have the confidence or the game to approach women so I stay firmly in my comfort zone…but I want to explore nonmonogamy and open relationships within the BDSM community. Essentially, kind of what Andy has done himself…

2. As above, I need to get myself in shape and sort out my appearance, style, and image, not just for dates but also because I want to be taken seriously in my career and my personal. I want to be firing on all cylinders in all areas of my life.

3. Somewhat related; financial abundance. I want to be self-reliant and have control over my life to have the freedom to do what I want and go where I want. I want to be financially independent but I’m far from it atm. I’ve met girls online that live in other parts of the world but I’ve never been in a position to go and meet them and I want to travel and see the world while I still can.

Cheers.
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Welcome!

Just need you to upload an avatar of yourself. Your face can be blurred.

Happy to have you - now my friend, time to work.

Give 'em hell ;-)

MAC
 
MakingAComeback said:
LifeTwoPointZero said:
What's up guys!

I, TJ, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.

My goal is to become the version of myself I need to be to achieve my goals. I believe all else comes from that. I'm in a good place personally from working on personal development and self-help for the past few years. I discovered Andy recently via his podcast and resonated with a lot of what he said so decided to join up with a view to eventually taking some coaching if the vibe is right.

Specific goals:

1. Feeling confident in myself to meet and date women on Tinder or via BDSM apps, I kinda of discovered that side of me back in 2018 but due to a long dry spell I don’t have the confidence or the game to approach women so I stay firmly in my comfort zone…but I want to explore nonmonogamy and open relationships within the BDSM community. Essentially, kind of what Andy has done himself…

2. As above, I need to get myself in shape and sort out my appearance, style, and image, not just for dates but also because I want to be taken seriously in my career and my personal. I want to be firing on all cylinders in all areas of my life.

3. Somewhat related; financial abundance. I want to be self-reliant and have control over my life to have the freedom to do what I want and go where I want. I want to be financially independent but I’m far from it atm. I’ve met girls online that live in other parts of the world but I’ve never been in a position to go and meet them and I want to travel and see the world while I still can.

Cheers.
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Welcome!

Just need you to upload an avatar of yourself. Your face can be blurred.

Happy to have you - now my friend, time to work.

Give 'em hell ;-)

MAC
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Thanks MAC! I appreciate the welcome. :)

I've been trying to upload an avatar for the past few days though, but I'm having a world of a time, As you can see above my pic loads sideways or edited ones won't upload at all. Any tips? I want to post on the forum but I'm stuck on this.

Cheers.
 
I, DP, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.

I'm 32 and have never had a girlfriend. I was depressed for the longest time, but I'm getting back into the game. Perhaps once and for all. My goals right now are to get laid through dating apps with hot chicks, get proficient in Spanish, and hold a handstand properly for 1 minute (currently at 30 seconds).

Specifics:

1. I want to have sex with young and hot girls (18-25), and that's about it. I feel that I need to make up for lost time. I've never experienced it for myself when I was younger.

2. I live in Madrid, so being able to speak Spanish fluently is a must. Otherwise I'd be a social outcast.

3. I moved from weightlifting to bodyweight training almost a year ago. It has been working well for me. And I've been very dedicated to learning the handstand ever since, and by the end of this year I want to reach the 1-minute mark of holding it, with perfect form.

Cheers.
 
I, secondheat, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.


about me

28
from melbourne
self employed
guitarist/ 80s techno music producer
hit the gym 6 days a week
6ft3
83kg
just got out of a 2.5 year relationship with a 21 year old


goals

gain more lean body mass in the gym
start a new online business
move to the gold coast
get over approach anxiety
have sex with lots of 18-21 year old ladies and eventually find one for a long term relationship
take professional pictures for my tinder profile
nofap till the end of time


if anyone is in the melbourne area and wants to approach together reply to this or send me a DM im 100% down to meet up
 
I, Fullpower, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.

I want to be free to pursue personal goals. Right now I am quite hindered by my family situation.
 
I, Refrays, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.

23 from the US East Coast.
Currently studying accounting in college
Programmer and Music Producer
I love melodic genres like Hands Up, Hardstyle, UK Hardcore, and Progressive House.

Goals

Get down to 10% BF(currently around 18% as a skinny-fat person)
Build muscle
Overcome my approach anxiety
Cold Approach 100 women
Have sex with 50 women
Find an awesome girlfriend who is kinky and can match my high sex drive
Save up for the EOS RP and RF 50mm f1.8 lense to take high quality photos for Tinder
Move to a more densely populated city
Finish college and get a job that allows me to accomplish my goals faster
 
Hi everyone!

I, lachy874125, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.

Just turned 26, born and bred in Sydney. Currently living in the inner west.

I'm pretty happy with where I'm at in most areas of my life but would really like to overcome my massive fear of cold approach.

My initial intent with this forum is to
- log my progress towards achieving that goal
- get advice from those further along in their cold approach journey
- connect with like-minded people who understand how hard this shit is
 
Welcome my brothers in Self Improvement!

MAC is happy you are here.

Hope your life is a legendary one.

-Ravi
 
I, trying, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.

30 yo, from Europe.
I want to do the AA program within 6 months.
 
Sup, it's Marco, I deleted my account a couple months ago(?) and am back for that delicious anti-cope. My goals are only a bit different this time but the process requires an overhaul. Thank you for everyone that's supported my journey and for those that called me out on my bullshit. This time I'll work harder to get to where I want to be and stay hungry.

Looking back at it, my year was trash, directly related to how I used my time. The next few months and year will be different because I will focus on taking action and getting out of my head, and using my time better.

No today isn't a journal day and no I haven't come up with a cooler name than GTTNL, fuck off september.

I, Ehbeeseedee(formerly mac0), commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.
 
Hi everyone, I am LetsGetSerious. I am 33, been into pickup and self improvement a long time. I'm proud of how far I've come, from being a scrawny awkward virgin incapable of talking to girls (to the extent that I actively avoided them) or even socializing with regular people, to an above average guy in decent shape who has had 16 lays and 2 LTRs. However, if I am being honest with myself, I have settled for comfortable, mediocre success and haven't taken the action necessary to reach the levels of success I truly desire. I want to have sex with girls I consider hot, rather than merely cute. I want to have a social circle of cool people who are actually pursuing what they want in life and inspire and teach me to be better, rather than my current circle who are passive and content with the status quo, and where I feel like I am always the one pushing for more. I want to have a career I am excited about and can be outstanding in, rather than something that I am merely ok with and pays well. To be honest, I'm not sure I can do this alone. I've been working at this for a long time and while I have made progress, the pace has been too slow. I'm in my 30s already. But it's really hard to keep going on my own, without anyone else who cares about or can even witness what I'm doing. Sometimes it feels like my motivation is fading. I need a group of guys where we can all push each other to go further. I'm hoping I can find that here.

I, LetsGetSerious, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.

My goals are:
  • Get a 6 figure full time remote job where I can live overseas
  • Get to 15% bodyfat
  • Date and sleep with girls I consider 8+/10
 
Warm welcome all bros!

Glad to have you here.

Start a log, please, and get to WORK.

I love to see the GRINDERS.

trying said:
I, trying, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.

30 yo, from Europe.
I want to do the AA program within 6 months.
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Please upload an avatar showing yourself brother. Your face can be blurred. We ban accounts that don't do this within 3 days.

MAC
 
Hi, my name’s zar. Im from Sydney,Australia.

Im 20; still a virgin. At the age of 17 i had an existential crisis about being a virgin and became quite suicidal. By some miracle i discovered self improvement and I’ve consistantly been meditating an hour a day; been journaling and been exercising for atleast 2 hours every single day for 3 years now.

I’ve been working out for the past 3years; tryna loose weight and build muscle; as well improve my mental health and discipline and I’ve built what i think is a pretty good physique. I’ve also got a business that’s got it’s first case study client atm; as well as university.

However; i still have massive mental blocks around girls that i aim to overcome through following what the guy in the “9 girls in 6 weeks” post did - by simply following a template that i cant fuck up; maximising my looks, style and photos; boosting and going for large volume while at the same time pulling the trigger/YOLOing it without pussying out - massive results in terms of sex had can be achieved.

i know very well the difference between understanding something theoretically and actually doing it… i seem to suck at actually doing these things. Getting laid is one of those things where brain has had alot of learned helpness programmed into it. In a way i do ahear to all of rhese logical findings, reports from other people and systems to give myself undeniable hope because without these things i would’ve fallen down the blackpill and likely would’ve ended my life. But simply not losing is not the same thing as winning.

I’m here to fucking win. To actually convert - in marketing terms. I’m here to fuck some bitches.

I’ve read some of the main posts by andy and chris from gll something like a dozen times by now. I’ve made a plan for myself similar to what the “9 girls in 6 weeks” plan looks like; except i want to have money for superboosts daily (goal number 1), have money for better clothes ( goal number 2) and to be able to rent a dslr to take very high quality photos and edit them (goal number 3).

Ultimately; on the question of why anyone joins any forum - it’s because i need feedback. I’ve been trying to do this on my own; trying to rely on my own self awareness for the last 2 years; gotten no real results except for like 2 dates with some extremely unattractive women. I could’ve had sex too but (and perhaps its a porn addiction thing - goal number 4 is to quit this btw) the thought of fucking her made me feel like i was raping mysef. I don’t think my standards are too high; just don’t be completely fucking ugly and don’t be morbidly obese. But i guess considering just how fucking competitive tinder is; i really do need to go the extra 10 miles; take paparazzi tier photos, run superboosts 12 hours day; swipe on as many girls as possible and aim to get like 10 numbers/snapchats a day and around 2-3 dates.

I need to be able to progress further down the list of sexual milestones until i actually get laid; i also wanna learn how to not be a pussy and be myself with girls; to get to a point where i don’t feel like being myself and being attractive are two mutually exclusive things. However; i understand that at the moment; just fucking a bitch would do wonders to make me get progress towards building a self exteem. In all honestly; i’ll likely mostly be here to post photos; outfits ; profiles for feedback as well as posting reports for analysis and feedback so i can improve quicker and speed up my learning process.

Also - should mention this - I have a fucked up combination of ADHD and gifted level intelligence (137 IQ on the WAIS-V) . I don’t mean to boast; in all honestly i’ve found nothing but shame in having so much alleged potential that’s been ruined by the neuroticism that is inevitably incurred through being intelligent. Some of the most succesful friends i have are just average intelligence people who have balls; don’t give a fuck and just take action.

Even by making it my purpose to become more like them; this is the only progress I’ve made so far; two dates with some fat drug addict girls. Even worse; from most of my friends point’s of views - i am decently attractive and masculine. Most people rate me as an 8/10; citing a strong jawline; low body fat percentage and decent grooming as reasons. Almost all of my friends who didn’t know in childhood were in geniunely disbelief to know that i was a virgin; i’ve even had girls chase me and ask me out (and they always manage to be the exact OPPOSITE kinds of girls I want). My sex life; rather the utter lack of one is nothing but a source of shame. Here i am; with gifts that some incels would kill for - with virtually no genetic flaws and several good features utterly inable to attract a girl. Even if a girl is into me physically it is as if every word i say manages to just turn her off. I have no issues in any social circle and used to be one of the most popular people in my high school due to non neediness, authenticity; intelligence and humour etc. but it’s like girls see me as 4 foot tall and inbred. The girls i repell the most are the ones i want the most - those intellectual emo type girls.

All of these problems; i assure myself; will solved over time SO LONG as i stick to my plan; get the “get girls” of life out of my system and rack up several boddies before i trust myself and find my own way to where i want to be and the kind of girls i want to be date (and how to interrwct with them). I know that noneediness will be achieved only through actual sexual abundance; thus this now the primary purpose of my life.

This is the first thing i think of in the morning. And the last thing i think of before i go to sleep.
 
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