Mo - don't worry about IG. You don't need to get lost in details. This shit is a numbers game. You will find 500 other women who don't give a rats ass about IG,
We've got this process and we have a game plan for you. Just trust the process.
Look, bro, this is going to be quite a long journey for you. Most of this process will be about healing yourself and finding your true masculine core.
It's about the man you become. That will far outweigh anything else, and it is what will bring you success. Women love masculine men. They always have, they always will. It's nature's design.
The number one thing for you will be FOCUS. You just need to focus on the right thing, take baby steps, and be patient. Devise a game plan and STICK TO IT. Ignore all else. I can tell you, Andy, Radical, Pancakemouse and Rags2Bitches have helped create truly astonishing transformations. Consider my own - these men are the ones who did that for me, Say what you want about me, but I am a man truly on my path and so many on here now I am absolutely legit and going to be something in this world. Self improvement is about more than getting laid, it's about becoming the best man you can be. Why you may want to listen to me here, is that I am a fellow extreme hard case who turned it around. Very few people know how to work with cases like yours, but I do. As such, let me share what I think matters for you right now. You may want to ignore other nonsense. Hard case transformations are few and far between because they're a difficult task, but can be done: I am living proof.
Your trauma and thinking process is going to take a while to heal. Your entire psyche is going to resist, fight, and not really be conducive to you for ages. My process was the same, I would go on all these dates and even get the odd lay and still have extreme negativity and a distorted view of the world. Why?
- In pain and trauma, the psyche has become utterly destroyed. Women will be a trigger, and the subconscious brain will fight tooth and nail to bring up negativity, awful hatred, anger, and resentment. This is to protect you, because your brain knows, women hurt you so much that it has identified them as a threat to your survival. This has been imprinted and embedded into your nervous system,
- The toxicity and negative sentiment is like a iceberg, what you write on here is only the tip, the enormous mass of it lays beneath. It will keep surfacing and its gonna hurt
The second you start getting dates, you have started this journey for yourself.
There on out, it'll be exposure, learning, study, mindset healing, repeated again and again, for a long time, that will get you to the next level.
Hard cases like us are multi year projects. Just beating my AA was the equivalent of making a million dollars. That process was freakin unbelievable.
The first year is basically just a throwaway year. It's removing the toxic waste from the mind and slowly treating the wounds, cuts and scrapes. I am about to conclude this first year soon.
Year two you find your feet and IMO can get the woman situation sorted and under control. The pain, I think, will ebb away.
Year 3, 4 and 5+ you're just growing and being the best man you can be,
Having a realistic timeline is important and I want you to know that for you, just being able to date and have a dating/sex life, and not be in pain and so wounded in the first year will be great success. Thereafter everything will come.
Thoughts for you:
-Try not to get bogged down in silly details and over analyse. You have been triggered by the IG situation, and it's understandable. But it matters 0, brother, all that matters is getting dates, finding intimacy, and enjoying the process of becoming a success.
It'll likely be a bumpy ride and my own mind spewed a tonne of insane shit throughout the duration. I call listening to Andys content and reading his articles "the medicine" for my sick brain and IMO success is an "inside job" and involves us going from negative to positive. Exposure to the right message does this. Your beliefs are the most powerful thing in the world.
Ravi