Thrice said:
RogerRoger said:
I think this would be huge for you. I'm also really wanting to find a wingman / IRL biz partner. Forums are okay for accountability but IRL is wayyy more powerful. What's the closest major city to you again? I'd be down to visit Italy again in 2023. It'd probably be in like April or later though.
I'm very close to milan, let me know when you decide to visit italy
yes now i have my online accountability partner, it's essential because we are not "normal" and we need like minded guys that you can only find online, but a friend in real life is essential too, even if he's a normie as long as he's cool and likes to go out and dosen't dress like a dork like most guys
at my age it's do or die i will do everything to find a friend, even texting guys on ig or just going up to people and ask them if they want a friend
I understand, Mo.
You're my friend, and I've got your back, OK?
Do you know how many times I had this discussion with Thebastard?
This man is a fucking WARRIOR. Fucking outright SAVAGE. That is why he is one of the most respected people in self-improvement of all time.
This dude put in inhuman level grinding for YEARS, year after year, and JUST.KEPT.GOING.
Reading The Golden Eagle project, over and over again, sometimes in floods of tears, gave me the strength to keep going. At times of my life, I actually idolised this guy for his tenacity, unbreakable spirit
He's had highs, lows, he's had epic wins, low moments, he's been up, down, broken and at rock bottom, but this guy has lived his fucking life to the maximum, and he will tell you, if he were to drop dead tomorrow, he has had a fucking EPIC run. He defied the odds, totally broke past his limits, he's fucked almost 100 women, and plenty of them drop dead gorgeous, and has a stunning, absolutely beautiful girlfriend today who is good for him.
This is kinda the level some of us will eventually have to get to, where we say, OK: I will just fucking die trying to make it. I will just not stop, for decades if need be.
Here's what I've got for you today:
Life is the ultimate competitor.
It is the test of tests.
It is relentless. It will just keep fucking coming at you.
You, me, natedawg, klondike we are on a different pathway entirely dude. We need to find a few more underdogs, and we need to assemble together and support each other. This is why me and Colgate so close and tight as bros - we can relate to each other, and I will go to the wall for him to get his goals, and he will for me. I would love it if I had a crew of other dudes who are in my same situation who were total grinders. I will make it happen.
Arguing with reality is pointless: we just don't do it. You can express, vent, explore all of this shit, and grapple with it, deconstruct it, it will help you letting it go. It'll take time. There is a lot of pain in your heart, and like me, you got wounded in life. That wounding is the real issue here, the trauma it brings to you.
Just understand that our road is different, and we'll have to max ourselves out, move around the world, become successful and really push for elite. We have need to get location independent income so we can just travel the world and find locations which will work for us, and where women will give us a shot.
Effectively, life just FORCES us to aggressively level up to this insane level, and believe it or not, that is a good thing.
You know the level of grind I put into my life. I don't need to explain. You, and everyone else, knows. I DID THE FUCKING WORK. To this day, it is a total ass busting grind to generate leads, and to make anything dating wise happen in the UK. When I lived in London, I found ways to make it work through extreme level grinding/insane volume. But that did leave a lot to be desired in terms of quality of girls, retention, investment, and just general desire for me.
I absolutely KILLED myself to become more successful with women, as you know.
And guess what?
I did it.
In 2022, I got 9 women to sleep with me. 1 was a FWB for months and the sex was awesome. Approached 1k+ women (no lays), dated ~100. All of those experiences reconditioned my brain and body, and developed me, made me grow, and become better. That entire process was me going ALL IN, and was absolutely necessary to leave the hellish nightmare that was my life for 29 damn years. Lost my virginity at 30 bro, as you know, and now, I am confident, healthy, happy, grounded, and improving all the damn time.
1 of those 9 lays was fucking DROP DEAD GORGEOUS, and I get up and am motivated to bring that into my reality again, every damn day of my life. If I could wake up to a gal like that each morning, fuck me, I could conquer the damn world.
It was one night only. But I am determined to make it happen again.
True, true, true fucking willpower can be forged buddy.
You can get to the point in life where you say, fuck you, I'm going to fucking fail as many times as I have to....UNTIL I SUCEED.
The pain in the psyche just has to be worked through. Keep taking action, keep actually working on yourself, hard.
People like me and Nate are kinda leading by example here. We're crushing in the gym, we're pressing forward like crazy, and we just don't stop.
You MUST BELIEVE that it is possible for you to have a positive, enjoyable, healthy sex life.
It is not exactly easy for me in the UK. But I bust my ass, and I get results sometimes. It's not what I want, and yeah, it hurts, but I just keep working on myself, keep improving, and once my biz is right, I am getting on a plane and fucking travelling the world.
We'll have to bring every aspect of the elite equation together. The body must be incredible, mindset, confidence, all of that.
It's not women's fault at all buddy, this is just the way it is, it's just life.
This can be a blessing in disguise.
The world rewards many basic ass dudes with fantastic outcomes, despite them doing 0 work, putting 0 effort in, and they just carry on with their life.
The world then has other people on nightmare mode, for no reason, and grinds them into a fine fucking powder for bullshit returns, and just sadistically expects them to keep going.
That's the way it is. Nothing can be done about it. Nothing. It is sad, tragic, and senselessly cruel to people who do not deserve it. And how you get your victory is you just gut up and get back to work.
Things not being fair is something many of us had to confront.
I would have loved it, absolutely loved it if I could just go out there into the world and have a fair go, have a shot, and experience some outcomes that reflect my dedication and work. I see that it's not necessarily like that for all males, dude, it's a question of value & attraction: the male will just have to keep ascending in looks & attraction + value, and take mind-bending levels of action, until the Universe says, OK, you can now have the good stuff too. Different males are at different levels. Skin tone matters, yes. WE ARE OK WITH IT. You know what my online dating process is, you know I am putting in the numbers hardcore for my upcoming trip. And yeah, getting traction is like pulling teeth, fucking grim. Trip starts next week, 5 numbers, but just unresponsive, and no dates scheduled yet. We'll see, won't we? I'll cold approach daily for that trip, hit the clubs daily, and just push for that week. You love yourself either way, you see yourself as valuable either way, and you just live your life the best way you can regardless of this shit.
THE WAY TO WIN IN THIS LIFE IS TRULY RELENTLESS FORWARD MOVEMENT & NEVER ACCEPTING ANYTHING OTHER THAN SUCCESS AS A POSSIBILITY
Everyone is human, no one is better than anyone else, the SMP is definitely extremely unfair and will drive you insane if you let it.
When guys whose attraction ability is lower seek to have a great love life, they should be aware that it'll likely be an uphill struggle and will involve extreme self-improvement.
None of that even matters. It is YOUR JOB to adapt and find a way to win. It doesn't matter if it's borderline impossible, SOMEONE OUT THERE has beat your excuses. I am that someone.
HARD, HARD ASS WORK. FOR YEARS. NON STOP.
The signals in your environment tell you a lot about yourself. I have to bust my ass, I am always approaching, am pretty confident as a guy, and am definitely 'out there' as much as a guy can be. Geuss what? No dice buddy. Nada. Zero. Rien. Ducks egg.
And I try again.
And then again.
And then again.
And then again.
Many outcomes are not what I seek. Much failure happens. Most of it is shot into the void.
.....And yet, with sheer persistence, I am able to get SOMETHING, from time to time.
If the measurements of my body parts keep going up, and I keep aligning myself with The Adonis Ratio, and I keep improving my looks, cold approach, dating profiles, keep getting more success and start travelling the world.
I could find what I am looking for.
Gutting up to this, is not easy. Consider the absolute transcendental lengths that I have to go to, because I have no freakin' choice!
I just have to gut up and do it. No one to blame, no one to question, nothing anyone can even do man. I just have to run the gauntlet.
YOU, ME, NATE, COLGATE, KLONDIKE, AND OTHERS WIL HAVE TO JUST RUTHLESSLY AND AGGRESSIVELY KEEP THE FAITH AND KEEP FUCKING HAMMERING
The feeling of waking up next to a beautiful woman who fucked my brains out for 7hours straight was just too incredible, I will simply MAKE MYSELF attractive & valuable enough that I can repeat this experience.
I will grind myself into dust and damn near break myself off to have an incredible body, and great looks, and just pull out all the stops dude, tattooing, surgeries, whatever the man fuck. I am 6 gt 5, not terrible physically, there are some barriers I face yes (my skin is brown) and yes this can be like riding a bicycle with the brakes on, you peddle as hard as you like, and it is just such a slow brutal process. That does not stop me. Nothing can.
You know how much I appreciate it when I can just get a good date?
You know how it makes me feel when I can just get a girl to TEXT me?
When I get a second date, when I get a lay.....man these experiences are truly magical.
You know I am not just another guy on the forum....you know I have had to painstakingly improve myself so, so much, and have taken extreme action non stop for almost 2 years
I find few who have succeeded in this game particularly impressive as they were basically at the finish line by the time they started. They just never had to grow, and it is overwhelmingly obvious from just being around them, and they're kinda just basic ass dudes without a lot of substance and depth. That's cool. But it isn't greatness. They had to lift their finger, fair enough, but that was about it. A basic ass dude inserting his cock in things isn't particularly interesting to me,
What is, however, is a man who is forging total excellence in themselves. The underdog type person has no choice but to forge total excellence. I am interested in those people and back them, hardcore. What is interesting to me, is the pursuit of total fucking greatness.
Mo, imagine if I pull this off? From the hell I came, if I can keep going until I can find a lady who is amazing and willing to build something with me, god dammit, it'll have been worth it, and I can move on with my fucking life.
....Pause and reflect for a moment, and consider that you, too, could make it. You, too, are a man like me, flesh and blood, just as good as me and anyone else.
IT CAN BE DONE
IT WILL JUST INVOLVE THE WARRIORS PATH
But you already knew that, didn't you?
So you can take it from me:
- We are on the right path. We just need to keep pushing and working on the metrics that matter. Body will need to be on point. Looks, Style, Grooming on point. Everything will need to come together and we can't have any weak links. Confidence, Game, the lot.
We'll have to move geographically until we can find somewhere that works.
This may be a multiple-year journey.
Every 6 months, you'll be getting noticeably better.
Every few 100 approaches, every 50 dates, every 6 months in the gym. Every 6 months of looksmaxxing.
And then, it'll compound.
And you'll actually be a high value man.
And ALL of what we see, WILL be attainable.
You have to trust Universal principles here: The Universe/God is not so insane that it will continue to not reward those who are deserving.
You and me both are going to have to clamp down and stubbornly just improve ourselves for a few months now, OK?
Ravi