filbko said:
Do not be offended, please.
Why the hell did you move to Hungary? The most anti-immigration and nationalist country in Europe. There are many neo nazis, and they are crazy about not-mixing races.
“We [Hungarians] are not a mixed race … and we do not want to become a mixed race,”
I'm not offended bro - you can speak your mind, I am very open. Your quote above is from the President of Hungary, so how can we even debate this. It's true, and we have to accept this.
I knew all this. I thought deeply before moving here. I know the beliefs, and that's fine,
that is the people's choice and I respect it. I am a humble man on a journey. I don't care about this. This way of seeing the world, is not something I agree with and is actually not really allowed in my culture. I am raised in a Punjabi Sikh household, and racism of any sort is not tolerated. You have to welcome any person of any background or faith into the Sikh temple or your parents will knock your fucking teeth out. Punjab is very community oriented and even the home itself is considered property of the overall community. This stuff is in my blood it's generational, I can't get rid of it, I always gravitate to the same shit: family & community. So, the way I see it, those people have their view, which I respect, and in turn, they will respect my view, which is for me to be able to live my life and be left alone. I care 0% about what others do or think. I want my own freedom. That is all.
Regarding racism & barriers....
I had a total baller of a grandfather, he was an extremely smart man, like a generation of Punjabi Sikhs (they choose to align with Britain in WW2, we're a tiny minority in India under 2%) given scores of them died fighting for Britain in WW2, they were given the opportuntity to come to Britain. He was among the brightest and the best, top talent, so he came to Britain. He excelled. Hi work ethic, was 13/10. His intelligence and raw IQ, 13/10. Too brilliant to be stopped. As tall as I am, far stronger than me, the man was made out of fucking steel. Spoke multiple languages fluently, read and wrote multiple languages fluently. And by the time he passed, he amassed a property portfolio and accumulated real wealth. Where that went, is a different story, and is to do with conflicts amongst his children, but why he inspires me to this day, is he faced enormous racism, and didn't even pay it a second of mind.
I mean, gangs of people outside his house with baseball bats threatening to kill him, the National Front, this went on for decades, my Dad's friends in school were murdered.
What did my Grandad do?
Doubled the fuck down, and became more and more successful.
People HATED that this big brown man was buying properties, and he had the fucking audacity to rent them out to black and brown people. People hated him for it. British people straight up refused to allow black and brown people to live in their properties. My Grandad did not care. He was a true believer in God, had true faith, and believed completely in Sikhism, and was willing to die for his beliefs. That means you cannot discriminate and you must welcome all people, even if they hate you. There are many bullshitters in this world. But there are some men of genuine principle, who will actually lay down their life for their principles, and sacrifice everything for others. He was a genuine example of this. He worked 100hrs a week his entire life and gave it all to his children, and did nothing for himself, spent nothing on himself, just gave it all way.
When I grew up, due to my Grandad, I was surrounded by people from all backgrounds, and even as I grew older, I remember how random people would just come to our door to tell stories about my Grandad, and he'd been dead for 10 years at that time. How he helped different people from different communities assimilate into Britain, how he taught them English, how he taught them to drive. Year after year, peope would come from all over, paying their respects.
I will never forget this.
That is greatness.
That is not giving in.
That is focusing on one's beliefs and values and letting the chips fall where they may.
Point being: there is always going to be hostile terrain. Hell, I now white guys who were brought up in black neighbourhoods and got into fights EVERY DAY. They still excelled and are wealthy and have abundance.
Cannot make excuses in life. Show up. Work. Rinse & repeat.
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A man who inspires me a lot is the Great Jack Johnson.
They considered him 3/4 human.
Jack did not throw his hands in the air, and say, "fuck it".
Jack got into the ring and boxed for the heavyweight title.
....And won.
He had every reason in the world to not even bother. Black men of his time were having fire hoses turned on them, dogs sicked on them, you name it. He chose to get in the ring, lace up the gloves, and
compete.
People like Colgate The King, are the real legends of this forum. He has surpassed everyone else here in spades and is a beacon of hope.
You get respect in life, by doing things that are difficult. You do not get respect for doing things that are easy.
He went to Japan, and found success as a brown guy, in very difficult and hostile terrain. Asian people, are exceptionally racist, and I say that, as a man who has many Asian friends who are close - guys, girls, we talk on the phone and I have spent a lot of time with their families, been on holidays with them and their parents, so I know.....
And yet, Colgate The King, through consistency, discipline, work ethic, aggressive looksmaxxing, steroids, and true inner drive, found a way to obtain success.
IMO, the rules of the game differ, and low SMV men must learn to win their own game. Regardless of where we go, if we put the work in, are consistent, we will find SOMEONE who is willing to give us a chance. It is a rare fucking individual, yes, but it
can happen.
There is a chance I, despite looking a lot worse than Colgate, being older, and lower in SMV, could make SOMETHING happen. My standards, are very low. Provided a chick is able to breathe, not completely obese, I will work with what I can get.
There is no place on planet earth a brown guy is going to be able to build a "good" dating life, without inhuman grinding, suffering, and having to go to extreme lengths. It was dog shit for me in the UK, dog shit for me in Poland, and there is nowhere I can go, where it won't be the same.
As such, you just choose to compete anyway and forge yourself out of steel. There may be no good outcomes. Fine. But there is no excuses for not putting in the work, just because of factors like racism and xenophobia, because the same shit is going to apply for us world over.
My expectations are very low with women. Don't think it'll get any better. If I am writing here in 1.5 years time with no progress oin the woman front, I will be cool with it, because atleast I will have built my biz, body, and game.
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I wanted to address this properly and make sure no one here uses my race as an excuse for my outcomes. I don't care about the challenges it imposes, I accept them and
choose to work either way. There will always be SOMEONE, SOMEWHERE, who is willing to give me a shot.
MAC
