Nice day today, went 0/8, did 4 approaches solo then 4 with my bro who I met from a WhatsApp group in month 1, who I am legit good friends with now he's fucking interesting as hell as a person, really bright and thoughtful guy, we talk for hours about women, psychology, relationships and life during our Sunday approach sessions in London. Our conversations are quite amazing and go on for hours after approaching is done, must say they are a highlight for me.
Mostly the girls were just in a rush and were not feeling it, but there was one really beautiful girl I approached who was in a rush, sure, but she was so smiley when I complimented her and when she said she had to go, I wished her a great day, smiled and she was just adorable, she giggled and I found it just so lovely......she was a petite latina and her smile was radiant. I just needed that, really I did. She will not know how much just seeing that smile added to my week.....
Then met my entrepreneur friend, again, we are legit bros at this point, we just met in London fields and talked for ages about all subjects, but the conversation came to women and we talked for hours on that. He is a fucking brilliant guy, just so smart, so creative, he has done well in life dude is rich but I can tell this guy is a born Marketer. It's how his fucking brain works. The way he thinks about everything, it's just so fascinating - having spent time with him, I wanted to say at the start, nah dude, he is a normal guy just like me. Now, after we've hung for a while, I can see his thought process is just different, he is different animal, a fucking beast of a man. He also has studied and read a shit tonne and put insane work into experimenting and learning. A lot has to converge for success. He is also very successful with women btw. We talked about his vision for a project next year and I told him I would love to work on the team. The opportunity to do anything with this legend would be an incredible education. He has shown me how getting dead ass serious about being obsessed with marketing and business can basically open up a new universe.
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Cold Approach thoughts
It's like, yeah my aptitude with cold approach is probably not great, my volume is shit, I have approach anxiety, and while this is normal in month 2, I also happen to know I have other factors that will support me in being successful. Deep work ethic and also the ability to 'grind' - that is, you can make me fucking insanely uncomfortable, put me through hell if you want, I can take it, torture me for months, years, I will breakdown several times of course but I will go on until the bitter end. I will make it through and may be the last man standing. Think about how many men start here and then fuck off? They do a few approaches and they quit. It's HARD to change yourself. SO HARD. So these things will help me!!
Visualising success needs to be a regular thing for me. I think, in truth, the biggest thing that will help me right now is going back to some of the stuff Andy said right at the start: picture success in your mind. So, in my case, I could be like, imagine if there was one woman in this world who started to pay attention to me and just made me feel wanted. That would help me a fuck tonne because right now I am very early on and still don't know if I am a guy who someone out there can love or be with. But even feeling like that, I have almost been close one so far man, and in time, I will get another shot.
This experience is so fascinating because it takes such balls to go on the leap of faith.
Most people reading this won't get it. If Andy gets really big in the future and there are, for whatever reason, women who read this site (right now I doubt a woman has ever visited this section), it is amusing the extend to which they will never get it. I had a healing session with my friend, she's a woman (lol yes she's not super close but I do have female friends you guys sometimes infer a bit too much because you see my deep struggles), and she knows all my dating struggles, she knows I want to find somebody and she knows I have been through loneliness to the core of my being. So we were talking and she just gave me her thoughts on how dating for her was like a sales funnel (her exact words), and how she just used the apps to find the best looking dudes every week (she used different words but she meant this lol) and went on 2-3 dates a week LOL. Her advice to me was actually to cold approach but only in locations where there are the types of girls I would like to be with, so she told me to join spiritual groups stuff like that. It was so cute she doesn't understand. She is something of a gangster lady and I do like her.
SIGMA_1234 said:
Hey man, just wanted to quickly jump on since you're so happening to be talking about websites.
Do you have a target customer avatar for this website?
Yo Sigma! Yeah kind of bro, over time I want to target high performers and execs who are seeking to overcome burnout and regain their edge.
The overall wellness practices I use are deeply restorative and without them I personally wouldn't even be able to work as hard on self improvement as I do because the amount of pain in my journey and reconciling my past, dealing with the trauma, etc, would be too much so I went BALLS DEEP into learning about how to reach optimal performance as a human. And high performers and execs want the edge.
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