Toast said:
After having read your log for a while now i've always thought that getting girls was never really your main focus.
@Crisis_Overcomer Shared this link from GLL about organizing goals and how people might think they are focusing on one thing but in reality they are only dedicating like 10% of their attention to it.
https://www.goodlookingloser.com/forums/2017-goals/13651-a-simple-blueprint-1a-1b-for-goals
You do exactly the same thing. approach for 1 hour and talk to one girl and then go home and do crypto, breathing, marketing, remote work, etc for 8+ hours. How is that going all in on meeting women?
MakingAComeback said:
I actually considered myself having gone ALL in for a few months...,that is, I reduced my hours by half, went very hard on OLD, approached at night etc - I did try very, very hard and like for several months. I approached daily, did OLD daily (to clarify it was not 1 photoshoot I did do 3 and posted all the pics etc lol), you know what happened.
This really is such a small effort in the grand scheme of things. Both myself and @Manganiello spent a few months with weight loss, and the AA program alone. Then spent a few months cold approaching. Only after 3/4ths of a year are we both showing results, and were both just at the beginning of our journey.
Change takes time, especially in the self improvement category where you are trying to literally rewire your brain to unfuck itself from 20+years of social norms and self inflected boundaries.
Thank you for this Toast!
Again, for everyone who posted, I am very very grateful you took the time. You gentlemen know how much this means to me, you know I am grateful beyond words that you help me like this. It means the world to me.
Man, this post kind of hit me pretty hard. I have printed this article out. I must be honest, looking at this, Manga's post, and Andy's, there is a theme which is emerging that can't be denied. I can't even argue with it.
It's time to admit that there are a few more gears, and I haven't even touched them yet. That's the truth. I can go way harder than this.
I am gong to read this a few times....you make some really important points in this post, I will process this and will post later.
Re. chanes and taking time: Dude, TELL ME ABOUT IT! Like, bro you don't see many victories that happen, man I was under 214 today that is the lowest I have been since my early 20s, even when I randomly went through a pain body experience the last 36hrs, never at any point did I think there was something wrong with me, I know I am actually quite solid as a dude, I still do not understand why the emotion of frustration took hold like that I will speak to some of my friends in the healing space on Monday. My pal Krista is good with this stuff. However, this was different from when low self esteem was ever present, that truly did begin to melt away. There are some shitty patterns running at times, had a great PM from one of the dudes who posted above who kind of nailed it on that one.
So the bit on truly going all in which you have all communicated here is interesting as fuck and has truly got my attention in a big way. So again I will process this and will get back to you gentleman on this tonight.
But equally, the bit about changes taking time, man this is soooo true and Manganeillo's case study is quite an inspiration to me as he spent 2 years losing his weight, we're the same age, and he has spent many months approaching, basically this dude TRULY put in the grind to be a better man and I am inspired a lot by him to put it freakin mildly. I also admire how stoic and calm he has been throughout it. You don't see the occasional volcanic eruptions I have in his journey. But maybe he's hiding it better? Who knows. The problem here is that there are so many victories that do occur along the way, new friendships forming, new doors opening, being able to have greater impact, shit I did go on a date and I previously thought that would never happen, etc. When we obscure the victories by expressing frustration it is very counter productive and I must stop that.
I once read that when the personality is stabilising at higher and higher levels there is a lot of chaos that eventually gives in to order. It is why Andy has done VERY well in his coaching with me and has basically ingrained that I am on the path. I cannot thank Andy enough I have to give him his credit he has done a lot for me.
I am satisfied that a lot of excellent insights were formed in the past 36hrs and frankly I am feeling quite good, as I have been for like 2 months, some days of the past 2 months were the highest I've been in a decade.
Self-improvement is a funny game. I kind of know in the back of my mind that I will make it in life. I know it may sound a bit silly to some people, but it is how I feel. The scales have tipped, despite what it may seem, and success is inevitable..........
Gotta work now boys. Printing off aforementioned article, also, the screen grab Crisis did I printed that out (the one that galvanised Andy) and I am combing through this shit again and again and again until the fire engulfs me once more. I have my own methods boys and right now I must do things in this intense way. In 5 years I may be different just let me go beastmode right now..........
MAC
