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Nono, it’s not at all about wild rides, excitement, and stimulation. Not with most women, esp. quality women.MakingAComeback said:"Ravi, you are just a nice guy, you are genuinely one of the good ones, and that scared me, because you're too good, and I wasn't ready...."
^ Says every gal with the issues she has, ever.
They want wild rides, excitement, and stimulation.
They get bored of nice guys.
Of course - don't be boring. Have basic conversational skills. Do fun stuff. Experiment. Don't stay at home and watch Netflix with a bottle of wine whenever you meet her.
But beyond that - women just want a "real man".
Manly, strong, confident, well-mannered, polite, not afraid of rejection, taking decisions, not insecure, socially intelligent, etc. A man who stands firm and can handle her moods without getting knocked over. A man that she can admire and look up to. Also, a man who has options when it comes to dating and is not overly needy. A man who is not trying too hard to be an alpha, has his own personality, lives for himself, etc. All that good stuff.
Women are universally attracted to those traits. She wants to feel safe and taken care of when she’s next to you. That's pretty much all that matters.
If you have overly nice behavior, it signals to her that deep inside you don't correspond to one or more of the above traits. The traits that she finds attractive in a man. By being a "nice guy" you're sending signals that you're missing one or more of those traits.
So, which ones are you signaling that you're missing exactly? That'll depend on the form of niceness that you're struggling with. With some analysis, you can always draw a connection between your niceness, and the lack of a specific attractive masculine trait that it connects with.
And of course, nice guys are boring! They're afraid to rock the boat. Afraid to say something that might upset the girl. Nice guys are mentally walking on eggshells whenever they're with a girl, afraid to say the wrong thing and get "rejected", and she can sense it. Trying to do the right moves to get her to bed, or get her to like him.
So she instantly senses that the guy is too nice, too harmless, like a little kid or something afraid to upset his mother. And there goes the attraction.