R2s Serious Action Log: Pulling Gurls from the Club

[play_time_is_over]

That's awesome to hear man, the one very slim silver lining of quitting for 2 years is when you come back and see all you guys absolutely killing it. Everyone's transformations have been really inspiring. You, lostcause, radical and obviously KillYourInnerLoser are the guys that are destroying doubt in hundreds of guys. When I came back I expected GLL to be completely dead and all you guys to have fizzled out. If I'm being dead honest when I first saw your first couple logs posts on GLL my thought was "this guy isn't going to make it". I hope you don't hold that against me, I also thought the same of Andy & myself (hence quitting). Imagine my surprise when Andy hasn't only kept GLL alive but it's fresh, modern and more accessible than ever, and you're here talking about approaching, travelling and dating 9's like it's no big deal.

9.8/10 is the dream, even more impressive is your ability to think "I can do better". That's a winners mentality.

 

[Crisis_Overcomer]

And the crowning moments have been these past two weeks dating a girl who currently sits at 9.8/10 - that's 98% my type: hot, fashionable, feminine, into fitness, classy, we have similar values. Unfortunately, she only wants 1-2 kids so probably won't wife this one

If she's a DD cup size and you end up wifing her, you can name your first born.
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R2D2

Really happy for you man.

That thing about you following the rules really resonated with me. Right now, i have no prob breaking them as long as a person doesnt get in trouble.

 

[RogerRoger]

Serious Action Day 11

What I did well
[*]Booked a flight to Orlando for the weekend.
[*]Shared photos from this past weekend with S3nga for editing (or moving on to the next photos).
[*]8+ hours work (stopped tracking after 8 hours): generated all the data I need.
[*]Neck exercises, PT exercises, ran, some core.
[*]Consumed 3k+ Calories and 130+g protein.

What I could do better
[*]Go to sleep earlier: switch to KYIL/GLL post in the morning since I've been spending too long == 1+ hour past two nights.
[*]Leg machines at gym.
[*]Need to pay taxes + start side hustle to keep up this lifestyle.

The plan moving forward
[*]Tomorrow: MWP dogecoin trading bot.
[*]Tomorrow: 5.25+h work.
[*]Tomorrow: min. 1h taxes (do before work).
[*]Tomorrow: schedule gym time first thing in the morning.

To Do Eventually
[*]Edit that Austin bar photo.
[*]Self-reflection - what I was going to do 13 days ago (kinda forget now).
[*]Return nike air max (+ deal with other returns + open rest of packages).
[*]Deal with chicago photoshoot photos.

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Crisis_Overcomer, that's pretty much a requirement for wifing
On the rule side of things, well, I did break my declaration of only one date with her.
But for the kid thing, that is pretty serious. Absolute minimum is 4. But probably I'll find my dream girl and have 7+

Anyway, still a lot of fun to be had with this girl. She's tiny enough I can actually imagine mile high club being not only feasible but possibly fun beyond just crossing it off the list.

play_time_is_over, well, given that my first few posts I was 23, never kissed, and after maybe 100 posts I had lonelyisland's song ft. Akon stuck in my head after my first bang, fair enough. I would also admit, that you, me, and Andy are late bloomers on the GLL success track. But then again, I think it's ~2 years from when you decide to really get serious more so than when you start slightly trying. I'm still just getting started.

 

[Spazdig]

If anyone on this forum deserves a smokeshow gf and success, its you man. Your persistence, tenacity and all out balls for feats like your 124 approaches in one day are pretty inspiring. And despite your lows, they've never stopped you from raising other people up with your encouragement and striving to do better.

 

[RogerRoger]

Serious Action Day 12

What I Did Well
[*]Took care of a few Orlando trip details.
[*]Booked a flight to Miami first weekend of June (buddy's birthday weekend).
[*]Neck exercises, PT exercises, sled walk, great core workout.
[*]Wrote a dogecoin trading bot (the first two versions).
[*]Worked on taxes.

What I could do better
[*]Didn't do any research today (or work besides taxes / doge bot)
[*]Didn't track calories - had around 2k probably less and prob not enough protein.

The plan moving forward
[*]#1 priority tomorrow == meeting prep.
[*]Pick up dry cleaning tomorrow.
[*]Send my advisor an update.
[*]Track calories tomorrow.
[*]If time permits, work on taxes.

To Do Eventually
[*]Doge bot v3
[*]Edit that Austin bar photo.
[*]Self-reflection - what I was going to do 13 days ago (kinda forget now).
[*]Return nike air max (+ deal with other returns + open rest of packages).
[*]Deal with chicago photoshoot photos.

Spazdig, cheers dude! And congrats on your recent lay. Too bad she wasn't as hot without clothes on but I imagine you still had some nice validation from walking around the city with her.

 

[Crypto]

Ayyy fucking onya mate. Killing it, can't wait for the day my greatness arrives. For now, it still awaits. Just reaffirms me that joining this forum was a good idea, lots of people like you to be inspired from and lots of people to lift each other up.

 

[RogerRoger]

Serious Action Day 13

What I Did Well
[*]7 hours work.
[*]PT exercises, ran/walked 5k in 27m, core workout, neck exercises, 2xRogaine, read a page of Think & Grow Rich.
[*]Bought ergonomic (split) keyboard + (vertical) mouse
[*]Picked up drycleaning
[*]Decent amount of calories ~3k and 150+g protein.

What I could do better
[*]Prefacing this with I'm quite happy with today, the following are somewhat just the problem of there being only so many hours in a day and I would say they were appropriately lower priorities today.
[*]Work on doge bot.
[*]Work on taxes.

The plan moving forward
[*]Go to sleep ~now, wake up early, pack, fly to Orlando.
[*]Few hours on taxes tomorrow.
[*]Finish taxes Monday.
[*]Prep Tuesday meeting on Tuesday morning (already pretty good shape).
[*]Wednesday = prep Thursday meeting (get 2D plot done, make nice growth criterion plot for paper, add trajectories to paper, revise results section).
[*]Thursday = clean room and deal with chores.
[*]Friday = make money (not wedded to doge bot, could explore sports betting bot).

To Do Eventually
[*]Doge bot v3
[*]Edit that Austin bar photo.
[*]Self-reflection - what I was going to do 15 days ago (kinda forget now).
[*]Return nike air max (+ deal with other returns + open rest of packages).
[*]Deal with chicago photoshoot photos.

Crypto, cheers dude. Your greatness is waiting for you to be ready to seize it. Get after it.

 

[RogerRoger]

Serious Action Day 14
I'll need to do a more detailed reflection tomorrow.

In brief, I banged my first dime-piece three times in 24 hours (well, the third time was a hand/blow/titjob and I didn't cum) Friday-Saturday, I was walking on cloud nine on Saturday, suffered a nuclear breakdown Saturday night, and dumped her Sunday night after some manipulative shit she did that I'll break down tomorrow.

I felt pretty down most of today but I did a lot of positive things for myself today that I did want to post here before going to bed.

What I Did Well
[*]6 hours 20 minutes work.
[*]Absolutely crushed my work meeting today.
[*]Sent an important email to my collaborator.
[*]10 minutes jogging (1 mile in 7m50s), core workout, neck exercises, PT exercises. 2xRogaine, read a page of Think & Grow Rich.
[*]Picked up packages.
[*]3640 Calories and 150+g protein.
[*]Took good care of myself today: worked with window access to an abundance of sunlight, went outside a few times during the day, dressed well + great hair, ate food roughly on schedule, listened to music, caught up on my sci news podcast, got groceries, enjoyed a nice cup of milk with dinner, watched two episodes of "Year in Space" during dinner, talked to a friend (planning Miami trip early June), posted on GLL, and now on here.
[*]I've now reviewed all Chicago photoshoot photos.

What I could do better
[*]An attractive girl smiled at me and I didn't say anything. She did look kinda flat but still wish I had said something.
[*]Should be going to sleep earlier.

The plan moving forward
[*]Wednesday = prep Thursday meeting (get 2D plot done, make nice growth criterion plot for paper, add trajectories to paper, revise results section).
[*]Thursday = clean room and deal with chores.
[*]Friday = make money (not wedded to doge bot, could explore sports betting bot).

To Do Eventually
[*]Doge bot v3
[*]Edit that Austin bar photo.
[*]Self-reflection - what I was going to do 20 days ago (kinda forget now).
[*]Return nike air max (+ deal with other returns + open rest of packages).
[*]Deal with chicago photoshoot photos: edit some (also give one more sweep for prospective good ones).

 

[RogerRoger]

Story time gents! I'm going into the fully gory tale of how I wooed, banged, and then jumped out of what was becoming an undesirable relationship with the HOTTEST girl I've ever banged.

The Hottest Girl
This girl (I'll call her B) worked as a model in Colombia (doing commercials for different products), 24 with the tiniest wrists I've ever seen, but she had okay biceps and clearly hit the gym regularly. She was also my dream girl: long shimmering hair, flawless face (with makeup) and the perfect hourglass body. When I first approached her she was wearing a sweater and I thought she was that uber rare case of thin with a nice rack. Turns out she had a boob job, had work done on her ass (which was heavenly too), liposuction for good measure, lip job, those were the things she mentioned, maybe more.

Rich Guy Game in Brief
I spent a total of something like $10k in the three weeks I was dating her. My biggest lingering curiosity is if she would've banged if I had been less extravagant, as well as if I could've retained her while spending less (but I don't do drama and she wasn't worth holding on to).

The Approach and First Day: $1k
First weekend of May I was visiting family in Chicago. As par usual, Saturday I was doing photoshoots with Sunday shopping. While I'm waiting for my photographer by a tourist trap I do a few approaches because SamJ_ was saying he was approaching around then and I figured I might as well too. So, I see B taking some photos with her friends. Even with a sweater it was clear this girl had a great rack - so I just HAD to approach her. Ed_ knows the type.

I just walked straight up and introduced myself. Her eyes got super dilated, kinda crazy. Wanted her number, her friends translated and they all agreed instagram. Fine - I had just started fixing up my instagram for this exact reason.

So I hit her up later that day saying we should get drinks and she says not into that (thinking I just want a ONS I guess or playing hard to get) and she's shopping. So I tell her I'm going shopping Sunday we should hit up Zara. Uploaded an epic photo taken by joe_ronimo from my Austin trip the next morning and she's down (I later learn that's the photo she sent to friends and family to introduce me). We ended up meeting at a maller closer to where she was staying, also closer to where I was staying north of the city. She's pretty late but that gave me time to buy a pretty awesome pair of ripped jeans and edgy shirt. Also scouted out a pretty dope looking chain and I was planning on buying one for a while. Haggled it down to 50% (but probably still was few 100 overpriced).

So when B finally shows up with her friend chaperoning her I get my two chains and buy her a necklace and a bracelet too. That was $1k which is what I budgeted on. B is fresh off the boat, visiting the US for 3 months and hardly knows any English so I mostly spoke Italian and her friend helped translate a bit. I had to run shortly after as I had another photoshoot. I'm trying to get B out to dinner that night but she was pretty slow responding. I ended up bringing wine and McD (lol) to her place. Again her friend chaperoned which helped with the translating. B was wearing Balenciaga sweats and a popping sports bra. Knew it wasn't going down but made out with her a bit and drove home.

Second Day: ~$3k
We chat a bit on whatsapp during the week, wanted to meet in the middle for the tulip festival. She was busy Saturday with family (which reflecting now I wonder what that was) so we go to Willis Tower in the morning. She's late but it was cloudy so we got rebooked later. I checked out the tulips on the way and they were pretty awesome but not worth the drive. So instead we go shopping. Got a pretty sick pair of red + black adidas that work well with two shirts I have and bought her a few things. But what really dominated the total was the damn shoes. Maybe $1k there. Went to victoria secret and bought her two things, few 100. Had a few meals then back to Willis Tower after dinner.

Unfortunately, the glass floor was facing sunset so we didn't get any good photos. It's also ridiculously short and although B and her friend did a good job ignoring the dude working for a bit, we get shoed out, try again. I messed up here in not scheduling it earlier before sunset, both for the photos and to drop off B's friend to have a scheduled nice dinner alone with B - and she was happy to get wine back to my place after (if google translate was correct). So I end up dropping B and her friend back at their place kinda late. Made out with B but I wasn't worried, I was sure it would go down the next date.

Day 3-5: ~$6k
The following weekend I fly to Orlando. I wanted to go straight to the hotel to change and eat something but in a somewhat strange turn of events, B's uncle's friend who is acting as chaffeur takes us to a mall. So we go to under armour and B helps me pick up some pretty sweet shorts and compression shirt, I buy her a few things two and we both like the same pair of shoes, lol, total ~$1k. After lunch I buy her a new iPhone which I was going to do in Chicago but wasn't down to drop another g back then. We must've hit one more shop because I know I spent about $3k in three or so hours there.

Back to the hotel and I unpack and crash for a bit while my girl goes to a hair salon to handle a work call (?) She's late for dinner, kinda upset about several plans of mine that day getting upended but I played it cool. Think and Grow Rich: I was in it to win it. I was wondering the whole time if she was a pure gold digger and would peace out on me at any moment. But she eventually got back to the hotel and we got back to the restaurant at last seating.

After dinner she starts talking to her mom (?) and says she needs some privacy (?) so I grab a bottle of wine and then fucking wait outside my own hotel room for 15 minutes. I fucking hate waiting. My phone is at 1% battery so I message her that. After my phone dies I knock on the door, and I'm doing my best to keep myself together but was really not into what a disorganized wreck she was. Still, I kept up to myself that I was in it to win it and this is the price to pay for me to bang a model (this time).

First Bang
She lets me in when I knock, we have a sip of wine, start feeling her up and she insists we brush our teeth and gets on the phone with her dad...Anyway, with clean teeth she strips and tells me to get on the bed. She's wearing a piece of lingerie I bought for her at victoria secret. Looks crazy hot. I took a cialis a few hours earlier so I'm rock hard, put a condom on and she starts riding cowgirl - first time I've had ~zero foreplay with a girl and been so hard. I was going to cum within like 60 seconds so I pick her up and I take a 5 second break before doing missionary. Again going to cum rather early so I pull out and eat her out for a bit. But she just wants the D so back to cowgirl for a bit, push her off, and we get to doggy which is my favorite. At this point it's been at least a few minutes so I just enjoy that perfect bubble butt to the fullest.

Second Bang
I could kinda tell she was more of trying to please me than that she super enjoyed our first bang - partly she kept saying her boobs hurt (she needed a touch up surgery) so she didn't let me play with them much. Wasn't very fun cuddling, I guess she slept on her back because of the boobs/pain. The next morning though she got kinda turned on by how hard I was and I also lasted longer than she could take (forgot lube and she got sensitive after I pounded her doggy). She only blows with condoms on (kinda weird but I guess good she's safe) so that wasn't a ton of fun but she starts rubbing her pussy and rubbing my dick saying "Dami leche! Leche! Leche!" (which is cum/milk in spanish) and I cum all over her perfect tits, which she's super into.

More Shopping: $1k
Her new iphone didn't work so we went back to the mall. Also wanted to get a new dress for her since I wore two suits the day before and all she had was sportswear. But I spent a lot of money the day before and still wanted to eat nice, go to disneyworld, and stay within my $5k credit limit (that's a necessity since I self-limited luckily in that my bank with all the cash I never activated that card and it didn't work). So I let her know how much we have to spend that day and tomorrow. And she just kept on wanting to buy all this random stuff. She did start checking price tags as the total dipped lower and forever 21 is a godsend. She got a skirt like a cheerleader there (only like $20) and grabbed my dick over my jeans she could tell I liked it. Anyway, she pretty well flunked that test of her financial management - we didn't even get her a dress which was the objective (sadly everything was too big for her although the one dress she tried on - most perfect figure I've laid eyes on).

Soccer Stud
I wanted to hit up disneyworld both days but her friend (?) she hadn't seen in 5 years who played on the National Men's Cololombia soccer team connected with her on IG and was playing in a match. So we head over there since it was free/cheap. And I thought it was going to be a legit match but it was indoor and semi pro. I have to cancel our first uber since B is wishy washy about staying after she can't find S at first and then I help her find him - big mistake as it turns out.

Nevertheless it was interesting to observe how this dude acted - total chad energy. Like there was no doubt in his mind he was top shelf and he strutted his stuff. Anyway, B is happy to leave pretty early which I was happy with. We get back to the hotel and have a nice dinner. S invites us to a party and I'm down to check it out as it was only like 7pm. We end up hanging at this guy's apartment complex for like 90 minutes waiting for his friends and then B's uncle's friend.

Night on the Town: Pain & Drugs
We eventually all get in the car heading downtown. Dudes start passing around a vape - so I say nah, easy. My girl says she kinda wants to (day 1 she said she didn't do any drugs) but she doesn't want me to judge her (she said this in spanish, not thinking I would understand - the whole weekend was in Spanish and learning by immersion I caught up pretty quick). I said I didn't care so she took a hit (she later claimed she didn't). Anyway we get to the club and I enjoy the music for a bit but B didn't love my dance moves (lame) and wasn't into dancing with me (lamer). She also kept on disappearing with one or two of the other dudes. I was wondering about that until one of the guys came back with coke on his watch and snorted it. I don't really care if she does coke (heroine and meth prob would be dealbreakers) but this is like the 4th or 5th lie she's told at this point - and this one a straight lie more so than issue with translation.

I just try to enjoy the music but after a few hours (I realize now I got super dehydrated) my ears start hurting, my feet start hurting, my head starts hurting, my shoulders start hurting, my stomach starts hurting - not feeling good. But they all want to stick around and hit up an after party after. I've never done something like that so at first I'm down but I feel worse and worse. Finally at 2am the concert ends and we're on the streets. I keep saying that I'm not happy but I'll go with them. They look kinda unsure about that. Eventually I'm able to ignore the pain enough to put on a convincing face and that pleases them. Takes us an hour to get to the after party - it's some warehouse with music thumping - I guess another DJ event. The wait's like an hour so they decide it's not worth it but for some reason they're hanging out talking in the cold while I'm in pain, pretending to be fine whenever B asks but apparently not hiding the pain well enough from my face. At one point B asks "estas bien?" for the 50th time and I walk under a 16 wheeler to neither lie nor admit failure. I don't understand why we were there so long and when I return I say I want to go (which I had said a few times) and I don't understand why she can't comprehend that.

So we go back in the car dejected I feel like an asshole but also like I'm going to keel over. I hear B tell S about disney the next day and something about he should come. I get to my room and B has some work calls. I slept 5am - 7am. I wake up and B is still not back. I'm feeling like death. B gets back when I say I'm not doing great, I feel like a royal douche for throwing a fit the night before (although I now feel it was rather justified and weird she didn't care about my pain at all although I did keep trying to grin and bare it). Anyway, we have an okay breakfast I apologize for the night before. I shower, she takes work calls (?) Then tells me S is in trouble and she's worried about him.

Scammed by Soccer Bro
So I meet with S and B, S claims his wallet got stolen. Now that's not impossible as a bouncer went around the crowd mentioning a dude was stealing phones so keep them in your pockets or hold on tight. But the way S said it, the look in his eyes, the sound of his voice, was pretty much exactly the same vibe as I've experienced dozens of times from homeless(ish) guys telling a sob song asking for money. B says S should go to Disney with us and I realize from the night before this was their scheme. I felt bad about the night before so I was fine with it. The strangest thing is that once we got to disney S walked up to a vending machine and used the same card he used the night before.

I didn't call them busted, and overall enjoyed disney a ton. But I knew that I didn't bang B that night she had more than enough red flags and I was done. Fastforward to that night: we leave disney agonizingly slowly, get back to the hotel, S uses my phone for like 30m to get a ride - which won't show up for 2 hours. We go to Walgreens to get B a painkiller (and I was thinking about buying lube). What should've taken max 5 minutes took 30+m and I set a timer to force myself out of there. Another kinda weird thing is that S bought B stuff a few times - I never saw B spend a dime the time I was with her (although she wanted me to mail $2k cash back to Colombia (???)).

Ending it All
We get back to the hotel around 10pm - I'm waking up 6am for my flight so I get packing. Finally S's ride is there so B goes to send him off - 20 minutes go by and she's not back. And I also realize then that she took my last condom. That was the last straw. I asked the receptionist and two dudes at the hotel bar for a condom and all three were super weirded out by it. Whatever. I'm headed to a restaurant where the dudes waiting can maybe help me out - and I run into S, B, and S's gf. S says he'll give me a condom he bought at Walgreens so B hands me...my condom! Not the same brand S bought. So I go back to my room, pretty furious. It's now 12:30am and I message B I'm locking the door. She comes back with S's newly ex-gf saying they want to go get food (do these people never sleep???) so I say she can take her bags with her.

She denies taking the condom. I now reflect there is a minute chance she's klepto and didn't realize she took it. Anyway I mention a few things I was unhappy about over the past weekend, and end with her just wanting me for money. That hit home and she's finally gone.

I slept a few hours and was very happy to make it out of that heart of darkness. I was still pissed at her for two days after and sent her a list of the reasons I dumped her after I landed (it was probably 20+ bullets).

Aftermath
She's messaged me a few times saying it's cultural differences and we can work things out. I really kinda liked this girl - during the daytime she was fun to hangout with and I was hoping she'd join me for my next pro photoshoot and I'd actually get to wave her around my IG. The sex was not the best I've had (mostly points off regarding blowjobs) but it was pretty awesomely validating walking around with her under my arm. I knew I wasn't spending sustainably but on the plus side that lit a fire under my pants to make a ton of money that has cooled off some.

I didn't mention all the sketchy stuff but I don't think I could meet her again after dumping her like that - for one thing I'm still mad about her dishonesty and manipulative behavior (succinctly, she's a total narcissist) - and for another thing pretty sure she rolls with a dangerous crowd/family. At the very least very sketch.

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Lessons Learned
[*]Rich guy game can lead to a lay with a top shelf chick - but you might end up paying in more way than one.
[*]Learned I have bad posture when I get stressed out.
[*]Learned I should practice acting calmly and charitably / deal with pain better - I can practice by doing a Ramadan-like fast maybe once a week or whenever I decide it's time to work on this.
[*]I should probably start therapy - straight up avoidance Saturday night and my own dishonesty (which I did admit and apologize for whereas she has not admitted any faults or apologies) should never happened.
[*]If you're not in it to win it - then you're going to lose. Friday I had a definite goal and I had mission accomplished. Saturday I was walking on cloud nine feeling my the past six years of improvement was complete. To some extent that is true but if I had had a concrete goal maybe I could've held myself together better. Or better yet, ordered an uber home at midnight and averted catastrophe completely.

Overall, I would say it was worth it: I didn't break the bank and accomplished a few of my life goals shortly after I had a different kind of mental breakdown getting turned down by a girl below my league.

This again goes to show that there's always someone looking to buy higher (fat girl turned me down) and always some willing to sell low (Colombian barbie girl).

In other news, I have a pretty hot Hinge prospect that should help me forget my Colombian beauty.
This whole experience also has lit a fire in my pants to make my 10 million way sooner than later and start living that Mr Yotta lifestyle.

 

[Sin Silver]

This is a great story, thank you for sharing.

I still need to catch up on everyone's back grounds, so my analysis/feedback might be a little off, but it sounds like you started really strong with her, and made a fantastic good impression with your approach.

By the time you meet 'S' though, it reads like her perspective of you has 180'd. You went from this exciting, confident guy who approached her out of no wear, to a guy who is following her around as she leads you around doing she wants to do.

When she went to meet S, that time was about him and her, and you probably felt like a third wheel. If you had known how this would have played out, I would have said toddles, and hit her up later once they're done. Thought to be honest, it sounds like she had a long list of other people to she wanted to see and hit up.

Honestly thou, this sounds like you're turning this into a good learning experience. Thanks again for sharing

 

[Crisis_Overcomer]

Man got mixed feelings about the entire thing.

On one hand I'm happy you bedded a complete stunner.

On the other hand, it seems that getting a Hot escort would have costed less, financially, emotionally, mentally and physically. You deserve a better girl.

 

[Radical]

Sounds like the worst sorta bullshit dude. Sorry you got treated like this

 

[Holden]

I don't know how rich you are, but $10k on a girl sounds crazy to me. Especially if you're dealing with bullshit like language barriers -- can't even have a normal conversation?

It's not that I'm opposed to spending money on girls on principle, but for $10k you could pay two escorts to be your sex slaves for a week.

With the wallet-scam it also sounds like they were just using you.

I'm also not sure why you started spending money on her. Did she ask? Or did you do it because you think you had no other choice to bed a girl like this?

 

[MILFandCookies]

Yo! Props my man. Sounds like a roller coaster adventure of excitement. Props for writing it all out here.

Mad respect for diving in and experimenting way out of your comfort zone! You do deserve more - you deserve girls who are excited about you, with your money being a nice bonus.

Part of that will be qualifying her, and drawing boundaries early in your interactions... Having standards for a girl will force her to respect you, which will prevent a lot of the weirdness she did here. The only way you learn how important it is though, is to make mistakes so mad props for going for it!

This girl (I'll call her B) worked as a model in Colombia

My man discovered how awesome Colombians are!

I spent a total of something like $10k in the three weeks I was dating her.

Daaang. You can spend as much money as you want on girls, but if you spend a ton super quick then you're going to attract girls who want you for your money.

Uploaded an epic photo taken by @joe_ronimo from my Austin trip the next morning and she's down (I later learn that's the photo she sent to friends and family to introduce me).

Yeee boi. Happy to help

Haggled it down to 50%

My man.

So when B finally shows up with her friend chaperoning her

I think this is a Colombian thing. I've had that happen a few times here in the states and in Colombia. It's weird for sure...

We chat a bit on whatsapp during the week

Everyone but us in America love WhatsApp... it's weird.

I was wondering the whole time if she was a pure gold digger and would peace out on me at any moment.

Yeah man... you attracted her with your money. Of course you'd be nervous that's all she wanted. Good lesson to learn.

"Dami leche! Leche! Leche!" (which is cum/milk in spanish) and I cum all over her perfect tits, which she's super into.

Hehe. I love the things Spanish speaking girls say during sex. I once heard "que rico! que rico!" which means "how rich! how rich!" ("rich" like "decadent" not like "stacked")

I have to cancel our first uber since B is wishy washy about staying after she can't find S at first and then I help her find him - big mistake as it turns out.

Good lesson to learn... You're on a date with this girl, letting her involve another guy - even a friend - distracts from the chemistry you're trying to build, and makes logistics so much more complicated. I only do one-on-one dates. Period. Full stop.

I just try to enjoy the music but after a few hours (I realize now I got super dehydrated) my ears start hurting, my feet start hurting, my head starts hurting, my shoulders start hurting, my stomach starts hurting - not feeling good. But they all want to stick around and hit up an after party after.

Bring a water bottle - or even better, ask the bartender for water! It's free. Water in any civilized country is everywhere.

She comes back with S's newly ex-gf saying they want to go get food (do these people never sleep???) so I say she can take her bags with her.

Yee boi. Setting boundaries!

She's messaged me a few times saying it's cultural differences and we can work things out.

"Cultural differences" yes and no. I've spent 2 months in Colombia, went on at least 10 dates while I was there (probably more) and dated a few Colombians in the states. She's right that this happens with some girls, but most Colombian girls I dated didn't do this. This is 75% her and 25% cultural.

Overall, I would say it was worth it: I didn't break the bank and accomplished a few of my life goals shortly after I had a different kind of mental breakdown getting turned down by a girl below my league.

Lots of lessons learned and some fun times and good memories. 1000000% a win here man, respect!

This again goes to show that there's always someone looking to buy higher (fat girl turned me down) and always some willing to sell low (Colombian barbie girl).

You've got interesting things going for you man! Your PhD, your ambitions, your travels etc... Why is her getting with you a low sell? Give yourself some credit.

In other news, I have a pretty hot Hinge prospect that should help me forget my Colombian beauty.
This whole experience also has lit a fire in my pants to make my 10 million way sooner than later and start living that Mr Yotta lifestyle.

Yeah man! Props on moving on.

 

[Thebastard]

My dude!

What an epic fucking story! I tend to agree. It was worth it for the experience. I think about how I lost 42k in a mere fortnight and speculate how much better losing it to a situation/experience like this might have been. Well 10k isn't 42k but still.

Man I can tell you one thing. The only true '9's A-classes I have banged were hookers and each set me back £150/hour each. Money well spent. But of course we want to bang A-class girls by virtue of who we are, not cash transactions. Getting such girls is outrageously difficult, so we expect to need to 'go all in' (in whatever context) in order to make a perceived 'once in a lifetime' experience come true.

Despite the rollercoaster of an adventure that this was, you lived bro. You really did. When you are on your death-bed (hopefully in your billion dollar palace surrounded by chambermaids), you will smile about this.

This heart of darkness is a classic albeit extreme case of 'oneitis.' Only girls of her level can make us feel this deadly cocktail of emotions. And this is mostly because of a lack of abundance mindset. The only known cure is being able to bang more girls on her level with an acceptable level of effort. Once you reach that stage, you won't settle for harpy personalities. Because you will have options.

The heart of darkness sucks ass. But it will make you very, very, VERY strong.

 

[play_time_is_over]

Awesome story man, completely unbelievable to what I would have read 3 years ago. You have a healthy amount of entitlement but could probably use a bit more. Glad you had that experience but as.many have said, she was acting badly towards you.

I doubt she was doing it on purpose, that just might be the type of person she is. You deserve her hotness but with a girl who is going to put you as her #1 priority. Although it does take time to build that bind, so I won't judge her harshly for having options.

People are saying $10k but a fair bit of that was on yourself right? The S guy made the whole thing crap, should have been just you and her at Disney land. Still, you got the lay.

 

[RogerRoger]

First of all, cheers for all the feedback mates! Definitely cheered me up a bit. Although I've been in a funk since Orlando, this past weekend in Miami hanging with a bro definitely helped.

But now the time is clearly to go all-in on ONE goal at a time. I only have ~31 days left to submit my thesis and I haven't written it yet. More importantly I have to submit two articles (which then become chapters in the thesis) and then I just need to write like 10 pages apparently and the thesis is done.

This is my following day routine:
7am - 8am: wake up, shower etc.
8am - 12pm: work
12pm - 1pm: lunch
1pm - 6pm: work
6pm - 7pm: gym
7pm - 8pm: dinner
8pm - 10pm: work
10pm - 11pm: free
11pm - 7am: sleep

Today I did a fairly good job being self-complaint: I ended up doing dinner 7pm - 9pm so only 10 hours work today. Also I just realized I only have 11 hours work/day scheduled whereas I was planning on 12 hours/day to get to 84 hours / week. So I'll have to drop gym to 3 days per week. That sucks. But I take ~3 minute breaks every 20 minutes so I'll just do a better job of exercising during those breaks. Which I was planning on anyway but didn't do today.

I also went to the office for 8am - 12pm and 1pm - 6pm, which sucks since I have to wear a mask most of that time - that's another reason the few breaks an hour are ~mandatory just to get some fresh air. But I'm definitely more productive at the office so it's what I got to do.

The other bit of non-compliance is that it's now 11:30am so I'll skip GLL/KYIL tomorrow.
OR I'll only post in my log and I'm not allowed to look at other people's logs tomorrow (that's what takes up the most time - but I also have some reluctance posting in my log for some reason).

play_time_is_over, actually I had more fun at disney at S than her - she had previously said (on our first date night) that she liked roller coasters - and then at disney said she was afraid of them / gets sick... And regarding $$$ I think the split was something like 6-7k her, 3-4k me. I definitely got a few nice items and memories out of the experience!

@Glasgow, indeed the heart of darkness was not fun. But I don't doubt I'll bang another girl as hot as her - and it's really lit a fire in my heart to make money in my 6 weeks free. I have two product ideas I believe are winners and know someone who was already developed all the skills for dropshipping - we'll be testing out something boring before my two products. I'll also go all-in on money-making in general rather than tie myself to one idea though.

joe_ronimo, so I actually did draw out boundaries (100s dollars is okay, 1k is like once a month and 10k never) and pretty early on but I didn't stick with them. And I'm okay with it this time because I would've died of curiosity if I didn't get the lay for going cheap. Now of course I'm curious how much cheaper I could've netted her / retained her but that's a curiosity to satisfy on the next girl of her caliber. Lot of solid insights what you posted.

Holden, actually, the fact that she spoke principally Spanish I considered a major plus since I definitely picked it up way quicker than the YEARS I've been putting into like 5m/day of Duolingo French. And I don't do escorts. I overall enjoyed spending the money. I'd say I was principally curious if "rich guy game" could work - and evidently it can. I also just felt like a boss dropping that dough - and it massively motivated me to get to my money goal which I previously had little inclination for.

Radical, appreciate it dude! There's a better girl in every possible way out there - and I'll find her soon enough!

Crisis_Overcomer, agreed that shortly after the Orlando trip it definitely didn't felt like an overall negative emotionally. But that's more of an indication I have to work on some mental aspects still. Definitely getting a bit better at asking for what I want - and sticking to it rather than bailing immediately - but still work to go for sure.

Sin Silver, yeah still a bit hard for me to assess what exactly I would've ideally done. Earlier on Saturday when we went to S's soccer match, my girl seemed like she was just being courteous and I thought it was cool she was showing me off to her friends. For the night out, on the one hand I wanted to develop my night life but on the flipside I should've done a better job of taking control of the situation rather than just experiencing the moment. Failing to plan is failing to plan, and a ship without a destination is lost at sea.

 

[MILFandCookies]

Hold the fuck up...

Why will a girl “of that caliber” choose whether she likes you based on how much you spend?

Why won’t she like you because you’re a boss ass PhD student who travels a ton and has huge goals?

Something’s broken with how you see yourself. You’ve decided “hot girls won’t like me for me. I’m not enough so I have to pay for them with money.”

Fix that shit. You’re enough man. The money should be a cherry on top, not the reason they stick around.

 

[RogerRoger]

joe_ronimo, in my experience, being an academic is seen as a negative by most girls. I still recall girls saying "ew" etc. when I said I was a physics, math double major in undergrad. Not that I care.

Why is traveling a ton and having huge goals enough? You agree I would think that that's clearly not enough if I was 300 lbs of obesity with three chins. Whereas I'm still on the flipside being too skinny/weak (and apparently nevertheless somewhat fat).

We don't tell guys on here - nah don't worry about losing weight, just find a girl who likes your obese ass. So what's wrong with the money equivalent? I think it's pretty interesting seeing what the high life is like.

In any case, it's true I have self-confidence/esteem/mental issues. Banging that colombian girl definitely helped, and banging other hot girls will help too. I'll also work on living anachronistically - living like all my goals are already achieved. But anyway, I just try to get a little bit better every day.

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Today I worked 10 hours. Had physical therapy for an hour and my last personal training session for a while that took up 3 hours. Great compliance - only downside is I overworked 0.5 hours so no time to get groceries. Will do so tomorrow. Should be good for 12ish hours work tomorrow.

 

[MILFandCookies]

Not saying you can't enjoy spending money on girls. It just can't be the reason she stays.

You're wicked smart which is why you rationalized your mindset very very well.

Sure, maybe girls are attracted to you because you're well-off, just like I'm sure girls look at me for my muscles, physique and comedian-busting humor

There's a key difference between qualities like physique/humor and money though.

If I have muscles and humor, I can have fun with a girl and feel like we connect because of ME. She wanted to fuck me because of ME... Sure maybe because of qualities I BUILT that I wasn't BORN WITH, but it's still something I did.

If the only value I think I have is money, there's no connection. Any guy with money would get her too. She fucked me because of my cash, not because of my humor or body. I may as well be hiring a prostitute... and heck. I probably should have. I could get much more for $10,000 with much less drama.

No judgement at all if you want to hire a prostitute, go right ahead!

I just don't think it's what you're truly looking for. Even for purely casual flings it's much more fun and validating if you feel like YOU attracted her, even if you had to practice joking around or work on your body for years.

Except for prostitutes, let the money be the cherry on top, not the main dish.

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P.S. "being an academic" will appeal to some girls, and not to others... but your intellect? Your discipline? Your passion about your research? THAT will be attractive to almost any girl! You need to give yourself more credit!!! IT takes so much discipline and passion to pursue a PHD! That's impressive as fuck and attractive.

Why did you phrase it in the worst possible way? Do you not deserve to love yourself? To focus on your strengths? To feel like you're attractive?