Ravi, Year 3: Self-Improvement Log - Data-Driven, Incremental Growth [HAPPY NEW YEAR]

[Ravi]

Day 59

Closing in on the end of the spring

Many, many areas of my life got better

I had insights, I had real learnings

And I have definitely improved

Because I’ve been focused, invested in myself, and put my wallet on the line and MADE myself get better outcomes

They come….

You just have to keep chipping away

And you being brighter horizons and possibilities to your life than you could imagine

Doing the work from a place of flow, for 6 months, always creates a significantly different outcome in life

Get shit done today

And well enjoy the fruits of our labour in 6 months

-Ravi

 

[Ravi]

Hardcore gym session today.

145kg deadlifts x 13. No straps, no belt, no chalk. Just focus.

That was hard work!

Did some lat pulldowns, set the selectorised stack to 9, it's heaviest weight is 12, so this is not far off the full stack. Blasted 12 clean reps. Strong,

Then leg pressed, 4 plates a side + a 10kg, for a deep, deep set of 20. And then 5 plates a side, for a deep set of 8. Really changed my form up, to get max ROM.

After this, I had two hamstring exercises I have on my program, but was simply destroyed. My coach says, the deadlift and leg press is a priority on these days, if I have smoked those, it's OK to head home at that point, because the other movements will not create comparable levels of gains.

Why I am proud of this, was I went to the gym to do this workout Friday, and had only slept for 5 hrs the previous night. As I was warming up, I was doing 2 plates a side on deads, and it was just far heavier than it was supposed to be. So I knew, if I go for it in deads today, I will not be moving the needle.

Instead, I gutted up, took the short term psychological hit, and went to bed EARLY last night, got great sleep, and hit it this morning instead.

I didn't allow myself to lose the war in the head. Got up, and did the work. And was successful at it.

It will be these bone crunching workouts, which I just dread, which I will perform, month after month, for a further year, that will turn things around..........

I want shorter men to actually be grateful for a moment.

Building your looks as a 6ft5 guy, is long, long journey.

But it can be done................

There is a future where I have:

-A great biz
-A great body

That is all I want at this point in my life.

Changed my plans on NYC trip. Will only do 1 month there. I am not a believer in Game (bullshit IMO), and am not interested in learning that further, but I could get matches there, there were some women who I approached who were open to chatting to me, and I think I will be able to just improve my social skills and energy 0.01% if I am there hustling daily for a month.

I'll continue my development thereafter. I think this journey will just be a biz & body one from now.

-MAC

 

[Thrice]

I am not a believer in Game (bullshit IMO)

we talked about this some months ago, i have to say that I never stopped thinking that attraction is created within one-tenth of a second when a woman first sees you. Every time I said otherwise, it was just because I didn't want to be called blackpill or disrespect the guys who believe in game and work hard to learn it like Pancake. But my belief never changed through the years, even when I wish it did.

 

[Ravi]

we talked about this some months ago, i have to say that I never stopped thinking that attraction is created within one-tenth of a second when a woman first sees you. Every time I said otherwise, it was just because I didn't want to be called blackpill or disrespect the guys who believe in game and work hard to learn it like Pancake. But my belief never changed through the years, even when I wish it did.

I agree, and there is just no force more powerful than raw physical attraction and desire man.

All we can do as men, is just do whatever the fuck it takes to see if is possible for us to get that attractiveness and raw essence.

I try my best to be open minded, and to try to keep the forum a place of open debate and respect for different ideas. So, I have to be careful, and just encourage guys to do the work, and see what works best for them.

I have tried this stuff, at the lower end of looks. As a male 5, nothing really works. You can do all the approaches you want, it just goes nowhere.

You have to, at least, get yourself to be a 6/6.5, for any of this stuff to work IMO. Something I was unable to do. But, may be able to do with a massive body transformation and cosmetic surgery.

Game, I used to believe in. No matter how much I wanted to believe, I could not get any of my actual metrics to improve:

-0 difference in women stopping for me now, vs at the start of the journey
-0 difference in the quality of women, it stayed the exact same as it was year 1
-0 difference in number of times women would exchange numbers
-Match quality and volume, GOT WORSE in year 3.

I learned the hard way man, having worked hard, and just hit at another dead end. Pivoting out of that chapter, I nowadays just work on my SMV, and think when I become a shredded and jacked bodybuilder looking mofo, things will improve man. In the 2 years that will take, I'm just going to chill, work on myself, and work on my business.

It's all learning at the end of the day. And I will keep improving, and getting better!

-MAC

 

[pancakemouse]

Ungrounded. How much sleep have you gotten in the last 48 hours?

 

[Ravi]

Ungrounded. How much sleep have you gotten in the last 48 hours?

Not even man.

Thur was iffy due to storm. Fri, Sat, very solid as per - same rising and to bed time, has been solid for months.

-R

 

[Ravi]

ON MENTAL STRENGTH

I want to share this amazing UFC fight, because it really mirrors my concept for how to achieve success in life.

Why I loved this: Jiri was getting his ASS BEAT. Rakic had a superb strategy, nailed the leg kicks and took Jiris base out. Every time he landed, his corner was celebrating, because they were one step closer to victory. You can see, Jiri's leg is gone by the end of round 1, and he couldn't really move, was wobbly, and obviously has been smashed.

Why do I love fighters, soldiers, warriors, people like this?

Not for even one second, did he think he was going to lose, or that he can't win. He didn't care. He prepared to fight until the bell rings, or the referee stops the bout. You can see how steely a human being he is.

Smashed up, damaged, but resolutely determined to get the job done, no matter what he has to do.

Survives the first. 2nd round, still getting his ass beat. Finds 1 opening, lands one powerful shot, and then just unleashes hell.

The job is done, again.

Victorious. Though you'd have counted him out on the basis of how it was looking for him, he didn't quit, gutted up, and just pushed himself forward.

Rakic was superior in skill and game plan that night, but Jiri had way, way, way, way more mental strength.

That is why he won.

I love that, more than you will ever know.

This is often how my journey feels like.

Working like a god damn demon, for years. Year after year, diligently chipping away, and just not giving in.

Often, it does sincerely look like it just isn't going to work out. Relationships wise, I am just not the guy I was, and don't even want that like I used to. I got the fuck over it.

But in terms of my life, and where it can go, I know there just are so many levels I can reach yet, and they will be done, through consistent hard work, and not giving in.

One thing you may not understand about me, is that I love self improvement.

I love the grind, I love the work, and I love doing the process. Day in, day out.

It's the process that matters to me.

Knowing I have given everything I can give.

I know I will succeed in business. I know I will build an elite body. I can give a f**k about the way women see me, because I know how I see myself.

I know, if I grind like this, until the end of my life, it will be an incredible life.

That is what success is about for me.

Knowing I have pushed my human potential to the f**king very limits of what I can possibly do.

It's going to be about business and body with me, because that is the only place I can compete.

So be it.

-MAC DADDY

 

[Ravi]

This week, as I start it out, I feel f**king great.

The weekend, saw some truly bone crunching workouts completed. I hit a bunch of PBs. FUCK YES.

This week, I will do the work, and truly show up and push myself.

Life and the Universe, will reward me, for my ongoing dedication and commitment.

More you put in, the more you get out.

Every month, my physique and looks get better.

Every month, my biz develops.

Every month, life gives me what I need to suceed.

Suze is back on Thur. Gonna just be straight up and honest, and tell her the things I didn't like, which are why I think we'll just be friends. I'll GTFO of this location, and go see big man V in Mexico City, learn some shit about biz, improve myself further, and keep fucking grinding until I get to the next level. No problem with her, she's a great gal, wish her well - she just ain't for me! No stress.

Too much abundance out here.

TIME TO GET IT

-MAC

 

[Ravi]

DAY 62

 

[Thrice]

Amazin fight, it shows how much you can achieve if you have the mental strength to endure the pain and keep pushing

It reminds me of my favourite fighter Nate Diaz, he can get a beating and still win. He can lose and still win. He's the gangster version of a guy like Yuri. He has mental strength + IDGAF attitude

 

[Bman]

@MakingAComeback
I seen in Thrices log you mentioned not wanting a wife a kids anymore. Maybe I missed your explanation somewhere, but could you elaborate why the change of heart? From what I remember, that was end game for you.

 

[Ravi]

Day 63/90

Great morning doing my own coaching, and then having coaching done to me with my body recomp coach, Adam

Winners invest in themselves and it’s one of the most proven ways to get ahead

I’ve learned tonnes since working with him, and at many points, I’d have made decisions which would have thrown me off and caused another year of slow progress

Experienced hands, know the deep inner game, and the small layers and tweaks you need to add, the things you need to pivot out of certain sticking points, the correct way to think to get through a area that is lagging

It makes all the difference

The way I see it, you can gut up, focus, invest, and have real concrete outcomes in 1 to 2 years time

Or you can plunder around in your own, feel good and think you’re gonna be fine, and find yourself exactly where you were in 2 years

Because humans just don’t want to do hard things and their mind will always give them a way out

But for those who’ve travelled the road and found ways to win, they just know so many things about that road, that we ourselves don’t

Having systems and structures in place to create a container for achievement is how you win. I'm going to give a plug to my coach, Adam, because he is just top notch:

ADAM HAYHOW

Adam Hayhow is a Body Recomposition Specialist & Certified Recomp Coach. Discover how Adam has transformed hundreds of men and women through customised training programs and nutrition plans built for rapid fat loss and muscle gain. No guesswork; every weight, every rep, every set, every meal - a

www.adamhayhow.com

@adamhayhow_recomp_coach

I would bet my entire life savings on him knowing more about physique development than 99.99999% of the worlds population. I have never encountered a human being such such deep knowledge, insight, and passion - dude has been training for 30 years and has been at elite levels in strength and body composition the whole time. Having calls with him every week, has just been so useful it's ridiculous.

Why, as a goal oriented winner, who wants to get an elite body and business, would I not have this in my life?

This level of focus is what we are about in IronWill

So, what have you got for me today?
-Ravi

 

[Ravi]

Just pasting this one from my daily post in my free group, out here HUSTLING today. Coach switched the workout up and cut 100kcals from the diet. Workout is huge huge levels of volume now. My lord. Masses of work. Curious what it will do to my body and muscles for the next few months, and what it will do to my strength capacity when we get back to adding muscle. Body recomposition, like goal achievement, is a marathon, not a sprint, and consistency, execution, and performance should be expected for 2-3 years to build a truly fantastic physique IMO. And I do believe, a fantastic physique can be developed, it will just require the individual to get dramatically stronger. Which, I will do.

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Day 64
Look, high performance is a brain state
It’s easier to be focused and productive than it is tired, bored, under stimulated and not engaged
It’s easier to focus on living your fucking dreams and soaring to the highest of your human potential, than it is grinding away at menial soul crushing jobs that are a means to an end, as you tell yourself, some day, you will go out there and take on the world
To become an asset kicker and joyful performance legend, it comes down to one thing:
Momentum
You have to outwit your brain and the biological tendency to minimise energy and effort by having habits routines and systems that make you TAKE MASSIVE ACTION
You cannot give your mind the space to just dominate you and allow the negative voice in your head to get louder
Instead, our process needs to be tailored to us and aligned with our internal success blueprint
You do that, and you will solve your puzzle
And you will make more progress in 90 days than most will in a year
Consistency is a brain state you have to learn to get into
It can take me a few hours or hustling each day to enter deep flow states and I’ve done this for years
That is the way this game works
You need to understand this deeply and each day do what you can to generate momentum
If you do that
Well both smash our goals and celebrate together at the winners table
Show up again guys and let’s finish this sprint like we said we will
To your success,
-Ravi

 

[Crisis_Overcomer]

I do not see family oriented women, who like children, want to raise a family, and are "ride or die" quality.

* coughs in Filipino *

 

[Bman]

But I struggled to see how I could sustainably create this setup, with a woman who has values and integrity, is reliable, trust worthy, and a person who I would invest in. It's not to say, all women are of poor quality, but increasingly, I do not see family oriented women, who like children, want to raise a family, and are "ride or die" quality.

I largely agree with about general society and the ziegiest. And I'm someone who doesn't want to be married or have kids.

However, these qualities you seek are cultivated in her by you over time. You model what you want.

When my ex wife and I first started dating she lied about her starting to take birth control because she was scared to tell me (I don't even remember why). However I cultivated honesty and trustworthiness in her over time. She was completely ride or die at the end and would have kept going, had I not been the one to end it. We're divorced now and still have each other's back if we ever needed.

I just watched one of my best friends from my mens group get married this last weekend. During the speeches, everyone went on and on about how much integrity, honesty, and commitment these two had for each other. I already know they want kids in the next couple years. Because he's in my men's group, I know how much time he's invested in cultivating the relationship.

I also just visited my best friend from childhood yesterday. He had it rough like I did growing up. Now he's got two kids and lady who's been amazing partner in building their family. She always speaks well of him, was a stay at home mom during the infancy years, and always supportive. Neither of them were stand up citzens at the start of the relationship. However, having kids matured him, he started getting life together, and she followed suit alongside him. I think they are going to be great parents.

My point is, in those 3 years, how many positive examples of marriage and parenting did you see? How many people in your inner circle are happily married with kids? No offense to the dating communities or PUAs, but they are not exactly model citizens for marriage.

I believe there is an abundance of marriage and mother material out there because those are roles that require maturity and maturity is cultivated. The more mature the man, the more mature he can help the woman to become.

 

[Ravi]

Will circle back gents in hustle mode.

Up @ 5am. Morning process done. Meal 1 done.

Coach Adam chopped the kcals down, again, we dropped more weight. 217lbs today, down from 223lbs last week. First 3 week are just fliuid loss from reducing carbs he says.

Went to the beach, 2hr of biohacking, on the beach doing grounding, getting super high quality UV light, and on my phone, coaching the shit out of my tribe in the private group. This level of hardcore accountability and hands on, daily, structured coaching, is producing some mega results. One of the guys, an agency owner, whose agency was doing 1 million a year, just got engaged. I was STOKED about that. Another one of my guys, is going through a serious transformation of his inner world, got several job offers, and is awakening to his potential, which will be elite.

Trained hard yesterday. Apparently need to up the weights considerably. New change, still finding the right intensity. Will adjust for the next session.

All habits, getting nailed. Sleep, self improvement, biohacking, etc.

Very very curious to see what my outcomes are like by the end of the year, I expect my body will have changed a lot.

Will send my check-in, gotta get clear on how to maximise the day. Good so far though!

Onwards.

-MAC

 

[Ravi]

* coughs in Filipino *

You are a fucking legend

And please, please, please, write a full post for the forum when you can

You have inspired me like you cannot believe

 

[Astronaut]

In short, after deliberation and reflection, asking myself the question of do I truly want this, I became quite hazy and doubtful of the idea.

As I questioned it more, and asked myself why I wanted this, I could see the benefits from the perspective of depth of the human experience, belonging, community

But I struggled to see how I could sustainably create this setup, with a woman who has values and integrity, is reliable, trust worthy, and a person who I would invest in. It's not to say, all women are of poor quality, but increasingly, I do not see family oriented women, who like children, want to raise a family, and are "ride or die" quality.

So you're saying here that you still want it, it's just that you still need to level up before you can get there. And there's gonna be a few levels in between, you'll need to have a "serious" relationship or two for practice, so still a long road ahead. Basically you're saying if the right chick falls in your lap, you're down for it.

Just need to figure out the puzzle pieces. Level up. Fill the gaps. Find your niche. Have a socially-acceptable story without too much weirdness. In real life, nobody cares about that self-improvement and spirituality stuff. They just care about who you are right now. How many "attractiveness" boxes you tick in their heads, and how many "red flags" you don't have.

Most women want to settle down and have children in their 30's. With the right guy, many wouldn't mind doing that at 25 either. I've met many girls who match all those characteristics you outlined. I've never dated in UK or USA so IDK how the things are there. In Europe, when you hit 30's, relationship/apartment/kids/career are what most people are thinking about.

They also optimize their filters for the guy they're looking for. Good genes, successful at work, financially secure, is mature, has a stable life, fits into the society, established, takes care of himself, has a mission. The whole "player/cool" vibe becomes less important, detrimental even.

You're not there yet, and that's okay. But that's no reason to discard the vision of what you want your life to be like.

 

[Ravi]

BACK FROM A FEW MONTHS OFF......TO DO DEEP INNER WORK & HEALING..................

I learned a lot.

Even warriors of self improvement have to take time to reflect, rebuild, heal, and grow.

A great psychologist I met, Dr Gavin, was able to help me make very important inner game progress. I record the sessions, and will be released them to this forum ONLY.

To follow, will be a big MAC life update post.

I started this journey, to achieve excellence and greatness and to find what I seek.

And I decided I will either make it, or die trying.

It has been hard to build on a cracked foundation. I never went into it, but the damage done to my mind from a hellacious, traumatic childhood, in an abusive situation, was so severe, I could not confront it until 3 years of self improvement.

I began doing the work on it. And my mind began clearing up, to where I am ready to return.

But this one, will be with balance, logic, reason, and objective, careful work.

Mindful of language and syntax, and concerted efforts to rebuild my inner world towards the true potential I have.

I want to give special thanks to Coach Dante, Pancakemouse, Rags2Bitches, September, Arcade_Fire, Crisis_Overcomer, Radical, The Dom, Paw, Ralph Anthony, and my boys who have been a major help this year when I was finally able to begin to talk about my childhood trauma and begin to heal.

And whose unwavering support and belief in me, has meant I have not stopped my journey, even when I did not believe in myself.

The inner work chapter, was hard, many tears shed, much pain felt, and it was with good reason I stayed away from the forum. I was doing my level best to do the work and remain sane. Confront my demons was beyond agony. There are no words.

These things, should never be done to children.

And I spit on any individual who puts children through this. Shame on them.

I will rise from this, and attain success, and make sure the next generation who I produce, will not go through the madness I had to.

And hence, the cycle will be broken. BECAUSE OF ME AND MY IRON WILL ALONE.

KEEP HAMMERING,
MAC DADDY

 

[Ravi]

The IronWill Project: Chapter 2 – Rebuilding The Psychological Foundation

Monday 19/08/2024

Actions

Block 1: Landing Page [90m]
Block 2: Landing Page & VSL
Block 3: Landing Page & VSL
Block4: Messaging
Block 5: Content – Long Form
Block6: Content – Long Form


Notes:

Work to catch up with for 2-3 days.

This is not the daily format I will be using. This is my first day back on the forum, and I am going to work on a new format for checking, in alignment with my psychological work.

My day structure, will then feature more focus on the psychological work Dr Gavin wants me doing, starting with a piece of work called “The Presenting Problem”. My task, at this time, is to complete this, and to continue to bring awareness to my thinking and patterns of behaviour, including reassurance-seeking behaviour, and inappropriate language and syntax use, which is a form of subconscious hypothesis testing.

The time I spent away,was serious inner work, which was so draining, I could barelyfunction as a human being. I had no strength in the gym and had totake 2 weeks off at one stage. Needless to say, I am not a quitter,but the mind work I had to go through, was a lot, and I had to do itin a focused manner.


I am now glad I did it,because I can get on with my life, and keep getting better.


Inner game is king.Because we need inner peace as men.


To rise to the best version of ourselves.