Hey hey hey. Joe here.
I, Joe, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.
Quick bio... Although it turned out to be longer than I expected.:
I moved around a ton in my childhood and was really good at talking to strangers - I had to fly by myself across the country (USA) at the age of 11 to see family, and got used to trains. So I talked to random people.
But I was (and still am more than I would like) pretty inconsistent with girls... I can be nice guy and people pleasing but sometimes bitter and jaded... I've been on a journey to be assertive and empathetic, but I'm having trouble - a lot of it because I don't know how to get sex when I want and feel in control of my sex life.
I'm pretty short (5'7") and was 215 lbs, and on medication I didn't need (long story behind all that) in 2013. In 2014 I finally got angry enough to get my shit in order, and in that year I ran every day, lost tons of fat, got my Associate's degree with a fucking awesome GPA and started hitting on girls. I kissed my first girl too! And I went on my first solo trip out of the country. I went to university and lost my virginity early the next year.
I went on to have some awesome fucking experiences (~100 girls at this point, traveling in 6 countries outside the USA total, some on my own), started building my content empire, and I'm building my life here in Austin.
But I've been in a rut for a few years. I've been trying to solve my money problems, but having issues with that - decided to put content creating on the back burner and get a Software Development job. $80k+/year starting salary, and either my first job or my second job will be remote- then I can travel all I fucking want, at least 50% of the time and live like a king and not be worried about money.
Creating content on the side right now, but eventually after building a large savings, quit my job and make content creating my focus again, but this time without money getting in the way.
Anyway here are my goals:
1) Start getting laid again. It's been too long. Embarrassingly long. I have been with tons of girls, but I'm not in control of my sex life - I need to figure it out... Probably just talking to more girls will do it, I also started GLL AA bootcamp to put myself out there and build momentum.
2) Once I'm bored of having tons of sex, I want to create a one-sided open relationship and have tons of threesomes, see girls together and apart but no other guys... Kinda like Andy and Imogen. Funny thing was I knew I wanted this for years, and a mentor showed me this blog and I'm like "Fuck yeah!!! Somebody's doing exactly what I want!" Before I heard of Andy I had this in my head and didn't know it was possible so it was a huge relief to see someone else who's done it successfully.
3) Get my iOS Dev job, do a boss ass job and switch to a remote job (if it's not at the start), start traveling 50+% of the time, save up $$$, invest it, and then focus 100% on lifestyle content again.
Here's what I am doing to get there:
1) Following Andy's advice and cutting fat. I'm 154lbs right now (70kg) and about 14% body fat. I'm counting calories every day and working out a lot, training martial arts (Muay Thai and 10p Jiu Jitsu) and other stuff - I should get to 10% by the end of 2020!
2) I joined Andy's 365 challenge and am writing a line of code every single day. I also have been applying to one job every single day and got my first phone screening call this morning!!! Even though she didn't like that I dropped out of college, I was and am so happy that I got a bite at all! I'm building momentum!
3) I don't have AA when it comes to talking to any girl, but I do have AA when it comes to escalating, and I want to build momentum and put myself out there so I started the GLL AA Bootcamp thingy. Day 3 tomorrow.
Totally happy to hear constructive feedback from anyone and everyone. I have much work to do.
Internal changes I want:
1) I get too cocky when I start seeing results and end up losing gains by stopping the constructive consistent things I did to get there (it's why I haven't been laid in a while amongst other things) I want to learn to be more humble
2) I want to become even more comfortable being a sexual man. I have sexual shame, feel like I'm a "creep" sometimes and etc. I act in spite of these insecurities, and over time I think they'll go away but I still want to change this
3) I want to learn and get really good at the "You AND Me" mindset with girls. I've been somewhat bitter, but also revert to people pleasing with girls too. Open to suggestions on how to embody this.
My Strengths that have and will continue to help me:
1) Quick action - I have been to tons of seminars and watched Youtube videos where the speaker will suggest some form of action... If I can do it on my phone, I do it immediately. If I can't, I immediately give myself a reminder for the first step.
2) Consistent action - I have a morning, midday, and nightly routine. Small but super achievable things. I've kept up with it for months.
3) Jumping into the unknown - I'm not as good at this as I was before, but I've jumped into lots of new things, like overseas trips with minimal preparation, leadership roles in clubs at university and other stuff. I do need to re-learn this I've been a bit rigid and unexploring recently.
This was super long, thanks for putting in the time and getting to this point in my post. I was pretty vulnerable and I always appreciate when people read vulnerable things I write - even though it's pretty scary to write stuff like this.
I'm excited to join a supportive community! I have a good feeling about this.
Cheers,
~Joe
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