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Gabi
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- Dec 31, 2020
Hi, i'm french, so excuse my poor english.
I, Gabi, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously !
My big goal :
- Getting laid, at least, 52 time.
I want to achieve my first goal trought online dating and aproch
I started to read the tinder guide a around month ago and started to prepare my self (clothing, dslr, hairstyle, bodylanguage) at the same time.
All i need now is to take some good pics (1~2 out of 6) and setup my tinder account !
Peace
I, Gabi, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously !
My big goal :
- Getting laid, at least, 52 time.
I want to achieve my first goal trought online dating and aproch
I started to read the tinder guide a around month ago and started to prepare my self (clothing, dslr, hairstyle, bodylanguage) at the same time.
All i need now is to take some good pics (1~2 out of 6) and setup my tinder account !
Peace
DeathToBoyfriendMaterial
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- Dec 31, 2020
Hi
I'm Evan, 33M. I just found KYIL and then GLL in the past 2 weeks. I've always put off handling my sex life because I used the "I'll get everything else in my life handled and sex will take care of itself after I have everything fixed" line of reasoning instead of admitting I have anxiety and insecurities around being a sexual man. I've read plenty of PUA stuff in the past, could never get any success with it and always felt stupid doing it. I've had 2 relationships in my life, each only lasting 3-4 months, and 4 other sporadic women throughout my life that I've had sex with since I was 18 (always women who are very forward with their interest in me, never women that I approach and initiate interactions with).
I am committing to accomplishing my goals and taking this seriously. I will really need accountability help.
So, my goals are:
ultimate goal- be able to get sex ANY time I want it, preferably from having multiple fuckbuddies, but also to be able to go on Tinder or cold approach and have a woman THAT night.
get AA handled-I'm doing the GLL AA program
get rid of my Nice Guy/"Boyfriend Material" vibe
have 2-3 fuckbuddies at any given time
Have a great social life. I'm new in my town, been here for 4 months, haven't really made any friends. I also have trouble maintaining ANY relationships, not just sexual ones. I haven't really had anybody I consider a very close friend or best friend since I was a kid. I have signed up for Meetup.com to begin addressing this goal.
I'm Evan, 33M. I just found KYIL and then GLL in the past 2 weeks. I've always put off handling my sex life because I used the "I'll get everything else in my life handled and sex will take care of itself after I have everything fixed" line of reasoning instead of admitting I have anxiety and insecurities around being a sexual man. I've read plenty of PUA stuff in the past, could never get any success with it and always felt stupid doing it. I've had 2 relationships in my life, each only lasting 3-4 months, and 4 other sporadic women throughout my life that I've had sex with since I was 18 (always women who are very forward with their interest in me, never women that I approach and initiate interactions with).
I am committing to accomplishing my goals and taking this seriously. I will really need accountability help.
So, my goals are:
ultimate goal- be able to get sex ANY time I want it, preferably from having multiple fuckbuddies, but also to be able to go on Tinder or cold approach and have a woman THAT night.
get AA handled-I'm doing the GLL AA program
get rid of my Nice Guy/"Boyfriend Material" vibe
have 2-3 fuckbuddies at any given time
Have a great social life. I'm new in my town, been here for 4 months, haven't really made any friends. I also have trouble maintaining ANY relationships, not just sexual ones. I haven't really had anybody I consider a very close friend or best friend since I was a kid. I have signed up for Meetup.com to begin addressing this goal.
Steven_v_d
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- Jan 10, 2021
Hallo,
I’m Steven, 22 years old. I’m Dutch and study physics at a university in the Netherlands.
Strong doubts about my own appearance and attractiveness towards women / ability to attract women have been a burden I carry for many years starting from my teens.
In the past years I have been improving a lot in this field, having had my first lays with 4 women now.
Still, this area of my life is a big source of dissatisfaction.
The last two years I’ve been gaining a lot of momentum. Together with a great friend I have been conquering my anxieties (that are still not completely gone) for talking to women. We have used the current lockdown to our benefit and got a shit ton more buff through bodyweight training.
Seeing a psychologist for a bit more then half a year now, I have been able to go from a place of depression and huge continuous negative thinking to a better place with more frequent moments of joy, happiness and calmness. Looking back at the prior years, there is almost a sense of grievance for all the pain, negative thinking, self-hatred and foremost continuous anxiety that was my life experience.
Leaving all that drama behind, here are my goals in specific areas of my life.
What I am currently doing to keep me in a good place and have to continue:
- Regular workout (without excuses) 5x a week
- Not numbing myself with weed, alcohol or social media AT ALL
- No caffeine and daily meditation to reduce anxiety
- No masturbation (40 days now) to recover from porn addiction / drive my sexual development
- Cold exposure
Mentality:
- Commit fully to getting laid
- Become more assertive, present, alpha, manly (and lose the ever present “nice guy”)
- Get more edgy (feel like boyfriend material as fuck)
- Stop procrastinating
Mental health:
- Build a more positive self-image
- Lose anxiety, through meditation and habit
- No drugs (weed, mdma, xtc, …), No alcohol, No masturbation
Appearance:
- Lose 15 kg of body fat trough intermittent fasting (20 hours). I came from 100 kg and am currently 97 kg. My goal is 85 kg.
- Clear up my skin
- Develop a fashion sense and act on it. Dare to ware something different and edgy.
I feel strong, confident and more manly, knowing I can and will achieve these goals.
I, Steven, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.
I’m Steven, 22 years old. I’m Dutch and study physics at a university in the Netherlands.
Strong doubts about my own appearance and attractiveness towards women / ability to attract women have been a burden I carry for many years starting from my teens.
In the past years I have been improving a lot in this field, having had my first lays with 4 women now.
Still, this area of my life is a big source of dissatisfaction.
The last two years I’ve been gaining a lot of momentum. Together with a great friend I have been conquering my anxieties (that are still not completely gone) for talking to women. We have used the current lockdown to our benefit and got a shit ton more buff through bodyweight training.
Seeing a psychologist for a bit more then half a year now, I have been able to go from a place of depression and huge continuous negative thinking to a better place with more frequent moments of joy, happiness and calmness. Looking back at the prior years, there is almost a sense of grievance for all the pain, negative thinking, self-hatred and foremost continuous anxiety that was my life experience.
Leaving all that drama behind, here are my goals in specific areas of my life.
What I am currently doing to keep me in a good place and have to continue:
- Regular workout (without excuses) 5x a week
- Not numbing myself with weed, alcohol or social media AT ALL
- No caffeine and daily meditation to reduce anxiety
- No masturbation (40 days now) to recover from porn addiction / drive my sexual development
- Cold exposure
Mentality:
- Commit fully to getting laid
- Become more assertive, present, alpha, manly (and lose the ever present “nice guy”)
- Get more edgy (feel like boyfriend material as fuck)
- Stop procrastinating
Mental health:
- Build a more positive self-image
- Lose anxiety, through meditation and habit
- No drugs (weed, mdma, xtc, …), No alcohol, No masturbation
Appearance:
- Lose 15 kg of body fat trough intermittent fasting (20 hours). I came from 100 kg and am currently 97 kg. My goal is 85 kg.
- Clear up my skin
- Develop a fashion sense and act on it. Dare to ware something different and edgy.
I feel strong, confident and more manly, knowing I can and will achieve these goals.
I, Steven, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.
What's good guys.
I, kalamity, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.
18, from the UK.
I am a beginner, having done only a single cold approach and I have not made a tinder account, which I aim to do.
My goals are:
1. to get girls from both, and to improve my social skills in general
2. stay consistent with my lifting (I bought weights even though gyms in the UK are currently closed)
3. get girls again
4. figure out ways to make money
5. remove the limiting beliefs and negative thought patterns
Honestly I don't even want a relationship rn, just plenty of lays... And by plenty I mean a lot.
It's time to move onto the next stage of life.
Much love
I, kalamity, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.
18, from the UK.
I am a beginner, having done only a single cold approach and I have not made a tinder account, which I aim to do.
My goals are:
1. to get girls from both, and to improve my social skills in general
2. stay consistent with my lifting (I bought weights even though gyms in the UK are currently closed)
3. get girls again
4. figure out ways to make money
5. remove the limiting beliefs and negative thought patterns
Honestly I don't even want a relationship rn, just plenty of lays... And by plenty I mean a lot.
It's time to move onto the next stage of life.
Much love
MoeZart
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- Jan 15, 2021
Hey i'm Hassan and I commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.
I'm 24 and live in central europe.
Goals for the next year:
- Put on Muscle since i'm currently underweight and have been my whole life
- Start to a good job after finishing uni
- and be more comfortable around girls
Nice to meet you all.
I'm 24 and live in central europe.
Goals for the next year:
- Put on Muscle since i'm currently underweight and have been my whole life
- Start to a good job after finishing uni
- and be more comfortable around girls
Nice to meet you all.
thegreatroast
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- Jan 15, 2021
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Salsasurgeon
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- Jan 19, 2021
Hey Andy and everyone,
So happy to have found this forum and we'll get through this as we're soldiers in the same struggle.
I, Omar, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.
My Goals:
-Receive better quality matches on dating apps (ie: Bumble, Hinge, Tinder, Coffee Meets Bagel)
-Enjoy some casual relationships
-Eventually find the one
-Continue growing throughout the process as I always have been
Ready to do this and feel free to ask me any questions as I'll do my best to offer my perspective from my end and anything I can do to help.
So happy to have found this forum and we'll get through this as we're soldiers in the same struggle.
I, Omar, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.
My Goals:
-Receive better quality matches on dating apps (ie: Bumble, Hinge, Tinder, Coffee Meets Bagel)
-Enjoy some casual relationships
-Eventually find the one
-Continue growing throughout the process as I always have been
Ready to do this and feel free to ask me any questions as I'll do my best to offer my perspective from my end and anything I can do to help.
Sapere_aude
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- Joined
- Jan 21, 2021
Hey guys,
Goals: Defeat my depression, become more confident/less anxious, start learning the game, lead a more fulfilled life (find a better career, become better at my hobbies), and meet lots of girls for the betterment of myself and, hopefully, them.
Achieve: Have sex with at least 100 women in the next 10 years.
"I, Ty, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously."
I'll likely edit this as my goals become more defined. Let's get it, boys.
Goals: Defeat my depression, become more confident/less anxious, start learning the game, lead a more fulfilled life (find a better career, become better at my hobbies), and meet lots of girls for the betterment of myself and, hopefully, them.
Achieve: Have sex with at least 100 women in the next 10 years.
"I, Ty, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously."
I'll likely edit this as my goals become more defined. Let's get it, boys.
GinStone
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- Jan 20, 2021
Hello everyone,
"I, GinStone, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously."
22 y-old guy from Italy. Doing fairly decent well with girls and getting laid, but I want to take it to the NEXT LEVEL.
Goals for 2021:
- Having sex with 20-30 different girls;
-Getting better at sex;
-Gaining 5-6 kgs of LEAN muscles;
-Improve in every other aspect of my life
Cheers!
"I, GinStone, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously."
22 y-old guy from Italy. Doing fairly decent well with girls and getting laid, but I want to take it to the NEXT LEVEL.
Goals for 2021:
- Having sex with 20-30 different girls;
-Getting better at sex;
-Gaining 5-6 kgs of LEAN muscles;
-Improve in every other aspect of my life
Cheers!
Sergio7
Member
- Joined
- Jan 20, 2021
Hey Sergio's here, 26 years old.
My goals are:
- Improve my numbers (only 2 lays) with internet dating apps
- Keep pushing on daygame
- Reach 9% bodyfat (starting somewhere around 13%)
- Do my first perfect form pull-up and hold a perfect handstand
- Reach the top of expertise in my job (software engineering) [ long term goal]
"I, Sergio, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously."
My goals are:
- Improve my numbers (only 2 lays) with internet dating apps
- Keep pushing on daygame
- Reach 9% bodyfat (starting somewhere around 13%)
- Do my first perfect form pull-up and hold a perfect handstand
- Reach the top of expertise in my job (software engineering) [ long term goal]
"I, Sergio, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously."
double_trouble
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- Joined
- Jan 22, 2021
Hi everyone.
I've been lonely my whole life. Had a lot of ups and downs. Recently I was rejected by a girl who I've been interested in for 6 years... ugh. That was the final straw. I, Gabe, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.
I've been lonely my whole life. Had a lot of ups and downs. Recently I was rejected by a girl who I've been interested in for 6 years... ugh. That was the final straw. I, Gabe, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.
kodec
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- Joined
- Jan 23, 2021
Hey All.
I, C aka kodec, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.
28 in the US.
Have always been the long term relationship guy that had it burned into his head early on the adage "happy wife, happy life" and as a result have always ended up in relationships initiated by aggressive/dominant women, Last significant relationship ended in cheating after 7 years. Was able to bounce back initially and used it as fuel to secure a career opportunity that had me relocate across the country.
What started ambitiously has become ~2 years of isolation (in part due to COVID) and no strong social/intimate connections being made since. Realizing I'm the only person that can change my situation is what brought me into self improvement and this community seems to be exactly the type of accountability from like minded individuals I'm looking for.
Goals:
- Build reference experience for my social/approach anxiety (AA program)
- Build dating profile that serves as "passive income" to compliment approaches
- Finish my cut (175lb/79kg -> 155lb/71kg) then lean gain back to 165lb/75kg
- Have a clear vision where I want my career to be in ~5 years by EOY 2021
I, C aka kodec, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.
28 in the US.
Have always been the long term relationship guy that had it burned into his head early on the adage "happy wife, happy life" and as a result have always ended up in relationships initiated by aggressive/dominant women, Last significant relationship ended in cheating after 7 years. Was able to bounce back initially and used it as fuel to secure a career opportunity that had me relocate across the country.
What started ambitiously has become ~2 years of isolation (in part due to COVID) and no strong social/intimate connections being made since. Realizing I'm the only person that can change my situation is what brought me into self improvement and this community seems to be exactly the type of accountability from like minded individuals I'm looking for.
Goals:
- Build reference experience for my social/approach anxiety (AA program)
- Build dating profile that serves as "passive income" to compliment approaches
- Finish my cut (175lb/79kg -> 155lb/71kg) then lean gain back to 165lb/75kg
- Have a clear vision where I want my career to be in ~5 years by EOY 2021
dolan
Member
- Joined
- Jan 26, 2021
I, dolan, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.
My goals have been changing pretty actively since I hit rock bottom early Fall 2019. Before that, every relationship I've ever been in kinda just fell into my lap without me having to really do much. I got lucky in one relationship (purely because of how good a person she was) but I had been dealing with depression and other things, so I wasn't really able to see what I had and how the problems we had could be fixed. I made mistakes with people who weren't as good as I thought. From August to Summer 2020, I had some ups and some downs, but mostly downs. It took a long while for feelings and anxiety to stabilize. I started lifting again in June after having essentially 3 years off. I've been going consistently and have put on pretty significant mass (160-->190 @ 6'1").
Despite being in relationships for the overwhelming majority of the time since I was 16, I have been on exactly two (2) dates with women I wasn't already in a relationship with. There's a lot in my life that I have going for me, but the romantic aspect is not where I want it to be.
My goals include, but are not limited to:
-improve my dating potential by improving what I wear and my profile
-cutting out the stupid shit I do IRL to have more time for working on my PhD and improving my well-being
-continue processing what happened in 2019 that got me in this position so that I can move on
-actually go on dates and, ideally, find either a good FWB or relationship (depending on where I'm able to be, dependent on my previous goal's success)
-improve how I handle being unhappy in relationships
I would include lifting and whatever goals that come with that but it's just part of my life (my avatar is old and from when I was doing really not well, ~160lbs) and I don't really feel like I need to actively chase those goals.
My goals have been changing pretty actively since I hit rock bottom early Fall 2019. Before that, every relationship I've ever been in kinda just fell into my lap without me having to really do much. I got lucky in one relationship (purely because of how good a person she was) but I had been dealing with depression and other things, so I wasn't really able to see what I had and how the problems we had could be fixed. I made mistakes with people who weren't as good as I thought. From August to Summer 2020, I had some ups and some downs, but mostly downs. It took a long while for feelings and anxiety to stabilize. I started lifting again in June after having essentially 3 years off. I've been going consistently and have put on pretty significant mass (160-->190 @ 6'1").
Despite being in relationships for the overwhelming majority of the time since I was 16, I have been on exactly two (2) dates with women I wasn't already in a relationship with. There's a lot in my life that I have going for me, but the romantic aspect is not where I want it to be.
My goals include, but are not limited to:
-improve my dating potential by improving what I wear and my profile
-cutting out the stupid shit I do IRL to have more time for working on my PhD and improving my well-being
-continue processing what happened in 2019 that got me in this position so that I can move on
-actually go on dates and, ideally, find either a good FWB or relationship (depending on where I'm able to be, dependent on my previous goal's success)
-improve how I handle being unhappy in relationships
I would include lifting and whatever goals that come with that but it's just part of my life (my avatar is old and from when I was doing really not well, ~160lbs) and I don't really feel like I need to actively chase those goals.