I, Ivan, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.
About me:
- 18 year old living in Mexico City.
- Went from virgin with one kiss to 2 lays and 25+ hookups in half a year (During quarentine too).
- Went from skinny to fat to decent build.
- Got my heart broken when I was 14, looking back at it its silly but I got seriously depressed for a year, I cried every night. Then, through my own reasoning I turned into nihilism and eventually positive nihilism (since nothing matters you can do whatever you want and thats a good thing) but honestly I was an asshole, and I wasn't even a good one at that becuase I still cared about others opinions so I tried to act cool. Later, I discovered Jordan Peterson and the Stoics, and I learned about discipline and giving my life meaning. I started working on personal projects like my writing and I became a person with stronger values and ideals. After this my friends and people around me finally started to respect me. However not everyone since I was also acting like a clown to get people to like me, the fact that my parent's got divorced while this happened didn't help much either. When quarentine started, I studied Jordan Peterson again, but instead of looking at his vs. Feminists compilations I went further into values. I also got into TRP thanks to a friend, and I also got into Ayn Rand and her philosophy of objectivism. I developed stronger values and ideals. I no longer felt the need to make people laugh or be liked by others (learning about Mental Point of Origin really helped me with this too). I started taking my life into my own hands and doing cold approaches and trying to talk to people and make friends. I learned how to do this form TUSK, a semiPUA from youtube, who is actually quite good because he has direct game, however it still involves sticking to a script. All the stuff I read from PUAs and TRP, was usefull and helpful and it did get me to get laid however it was a bit of a performance and I acted the way I thought I should act rather than the way I really wanted to act. Not that I didn't get many valuable lessons tho. Finally I stumbled into Andy and learned about honesty, and about being in the same team with others. I am now trying to implement everything I've learned throughout the years with a more honest mindset, and so far I am reall enjoying it.
Goals & Plans:
+Health/Gym:
- Reach 75kgs of muslce. Started my lean bulk at 62, currently at 65 after two months and a bit. Keep tracking my weight every morning. ReTrack my calories if I start losing weight, else keep eating what I'm eating.
- Consistently go to the gym 3 times a week, aim for 4. So far I've been consistent with hitting all my workouts, changing fromm PPL 6x/Week to FullBody 3/4x/Week
helped. Continue going to the gym 3/4x/week. Always go at the same time, either 4pm or 8pm.
+Girls:
- Get one FWB. By-product of approaching girls, taking them on dates, and being honest.
- Have sex in my city. Same as above.
- Be myself with girls, do and say what I feel and think. Usually I'm good at this, but if there is something that I'm overthinking, instantly say it.
+Friends:
- Make more friends. The two ways I will make more friends will be by meeting new people in new events. And by "cold approaching" dudes that look cool and telling them hey, I'm trying to make new friends and you look cool, and see what happens.
- Be more attentive about my friends. For a long thime I hadn't done this for two reasons, a) I felt I was only talking to them to get invited to things, or b) when I wanted to talk to them just to tell them something I thought they would think it was just to make plans. However recently I gave myself permission to talk to my friends whenever I want to rather than worrying about what they may think. This does end up creating more plans to be which is convenient, but I feel comofrtable knowing this is not the reason why I do it.
- Invite my friends to cool stuff. I need to create cool plans, or be invited to cool plans and then invite other friends to them.
- Go to more parties. I think this will naturally be a result of making new friends and being more attentive of my friends. Also I should start asking my friends what are their plans this Friday/Weekend, and then either honestly ask them if I could go, or if they are not doing anything try to make a new plan with them.
+Girls+Friends:
- Go out with friends or girls 2/week. Text and invite girls and friends.
- Alternatively go out by myself or with my brother and do approaches. Self Explanatory.
+Buisness/Money:
- Keep working on my self improvement channel with my brother. Self explanatory. One hour every other day at least.
- Get coaching clients from my self improvement channel with my brother. By-product of above.
- Start another buisness with my brother. Something which more immediatly makes us money. One hour every other day. Alternate one day of Ubermensch Bros and one day of new buisness.
- Make $400 usd/month. By product of the above. I want to complete this before the end of 2021.
+Values/Ideals:
- Be more honest.
- Do and say what I want most of the time.
- Feel proud about what I think and therefore do and say.
- If something is scary, or if I start overthinking something, instantly do it.
+Art:
- Write one hour per day.
- Post a set of three pics once per week.
- Take my camera out twice per month.
Edit:
Probably the main reason why I liked Andy and his writings so much is becaue he advocates two things which I tought were great, one which I hadn't really thought about, and one which I had really apprecieated once but lost in my journey. I'm glad I found it back. The one thing I didn't know about what the team mentality. It's you and me rather than you vs. me. I have been applying this to most of my relationships and while maybe I haven't seen the most massive external results, internally I feel way better with myself and with how I've been treating others. The thing I knew about but lost in my journey was honesty. Andy encourages honesty and I returned to practicing it and I can totally feel how this has a great impact in my mood, in the way I behave, in the way I treat others, and in the pride I feel about my thoughts, actions, and words.
Edit# 2:
I'm moving my progress to my progress log under the Progress Logs tab.
I'm Making big changes to my goals and my plans.