I, dbl4z3, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.
First of all hello everyone.
I am dbl4z3 and my primary goal is to build a fulfilling life.
My short term goals are:
-Lose my virginity i am kinda embarrassed to admit it but i have never had sex. This is due to multiply reasons: being an awkward shy teen, didn't care about my appearance until i got 17, my upbringing - distant father always at work and too tired to teach me "man things" - my idea of relationships and love came from movies (like Disney, romance movies etc. - lame, yeah i know) . I had a gf but we never had sex since she thought sex is "dirty" and we can love each other without having sex (this is my fault since i was a typical nice guy no boundaries, getting emotional etc. - i am still working on it looking back at it i could be better at screening her right from the bat but i had zero abundance mindset )
- Working on my mental health and wellbeing (i have fears that i need to sort out like fear of getting in trouble or getting told off, fear of getting lost while driving)
- Loosing a little bit of fat so i can get visible abs and building more muscle
- Finish my thesis
- Taking better photos for both social media and dating apps (tinder and badoo might not work for me since i have used them and there are not many girls near me since i live in a small town. so i want to try instagram and cold approaching to meet new girls)
- Approach more girls (i have cold approached one girl in my life)
- Improve my social life ( have more guy and girl friends)
Since i have a deadline i would have to prioritize some goals over others:
I have to prioritize my thesis and i have to work and study consistently (which is a problem for me since i get bored and distracted easily) . To do this i would try different studying techniques like the Pomodoro technique (study for 45 minutes and then get a break for 5 minutes. i will try to get at least 4 Pomodoro sessions a day for start and i'll try to increase it.
I have to prioritize my mental and physical wellbeing . For my mental wellbeing atlest a light session of working out (like walking since right now i can't work out hard due to some issues , i will probably be able to properly work out (calisthenics , body weights training) 2 weeks from now). I will put myself to uncomfortable situations (expose therapy) . Lastly i will pick up journaling everyday (to write about what went on the day , what i did wrong , what i can improve etc.) .
Taking better photos and improving my instagram account . I will have to learn how to take good photos (read on the internet , then practicing by taking more photos) .
Losing my virginity: i will have to plan this out since i don't know what i am doing ( after i take some decent photos i will sing up for tinder and badoo again but i will have to give myself some time to figure it out like 2-3 weeks max)