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MrGainz said:
What's up people.

I, MrGainz, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.

About me

- 25 years old
- Born and raised in Australia
- 51 lays to date
- Software Engineer



Goals for the end of the year

- get more pro-looking photos taken
- get down to 10% body fat
- have first MFF threesome
- make 1000 bucks online
- bang a red head and a latina



Longer term goals

- become a senior engineer within 4 years

Great
 
I, Jaybird, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.

About me:
- 30 years old
- Currently in Scottsdale, soon to be in New Jersey.

Long Term:
- Get to 25 lays (currently at 3)
- Make $100k/year

Current goals:
- First and foremost, take care of my mental health. I am close to finding the right combination of medication, and I've made big strides over the last year.
- Nofap
- General self-improvement goals (lean-up, style, etc.). I'm going to read and implement the lessons learned from "Atomic Habits."
 
I, James, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.

Simply looking to get laid regularly (I have lots of dry spells that get frustrating) and continue to work on my fitness goals. In sum, looking to have more confidence with women and in myself, which I’m sure comes with more experience.
 
I, arcade_fireee, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.

My main goal right now is overcoming "nice guy" behaviors wherein I am overly concerned about what other people think, being very conflict-averse, unassertive, and afraid to polarize people by being the real me. I'm planning on making a separate topic where I can get advice for this and see if anyone else has dealt with it!
 
I, Flash Bang, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.

Hi all and great job Andy setting all of this up

I'm a 31 year old English guy that has been in Australia since at least 2016. Professional bartender and low-key autist.

I've had an absolute roller coaster of a year and the pandemic ended possibly the roughest period of my life getting through a breakup. Between March and June this year I founded and ran a relatively successful business which did wonders for me. Turned over approx. $40k AUD in its first 8 weeks or so but had 3 other partners.

Posting my photo here publicly is something uneasy for me but I'm getting past the point of caring about judgement.

Despite losing all income again, I'm trying to keep an abundance mentality and my short to medium term goals are as follows:

Annihilate my social anxiety
This fluctuates massively between me being fairly cocky and not being able to speak to retail staff without flushing. I'd like to think this will translate to improving my dating life and approaching more.

How? This one I'm really not sure on. I've definitely got a lot better in more recent years but I'd expect this to be a byproduct developing myself further across the board.

Start another business
I need to get some regular income going. Fast. Covid completely killed my industry. I welcome the pressure

How? I think I have a good eye for effective marketing though have minimal experience with online marketing. It's something I'd like to develop. With the current climate and my visa status as shaky as it is I need to find employment or work on this again asap.

Stay consistent in the gym
Currently sat at 70kg with approx. 320kg / 700lb total. I don't really train for 1rm and this is a close estimate but with my previous experience I'm confident I could increase that by at least 25% by the end of the year. I'm eating approx. 2750cals a day and long term I'd like to get to 80kg body weight, at least.

How? Continue doing what I'm doing while being more disciplined with logging and planning for the future. My biggest potential pitfall is more likely to be sleeping patterns. Need to establish a bed time and stick to it.

Up my style game
Hard to do with no income but I'm thinking about it much more nowadays

How? Income comes first.

Kill it on dating apps
I don't like counting lays but I've done 'ok' with girls in the past. Online not so much. I can do a lot better. I think mainly because my photos suck. I've been going through Andy's article's a lot and am making improvements. I'd love to find a partner but I'm very ok playing the field until I find one or two girls where I think that's a possibility.

How? Currently following Andy's guide and I'm working on getting better photos. Have been speaking with friends to get some quality dslr photos and have been asking for brutal feedback. More to come.
 
I, ihnskko, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.

Hey guys, I'm a 25 year old Italian guy currently living in London.

Background

I have been a disaster with women in my teenage years, mainly due to low self-confidence and lack of experience caused by a troubled upbringing and a lack of a strong paternal figure.

I lost my virginity at 21, to a girl in my college that kept throwing hints at me that I was too afraid to act on. After sealing the deal I went all beta on her and drove her away. After discovering the Red Pill and reading classics such as The Rational Male, I started to develop an understanding of female (and human) nature and began noticing patterns in my everyday life.

Knowledge was helpful, but didn't fix my underlying issues. Next was a 1 year LTR, where the girl was immensely into me at the beginning due to my newfound confidence, but my behavior got more beta until she got so comfortable and bored that she demanded an open relationship. I broke up with her and felt devastated for months. I then downloaded Tinder and had one or two lays out of dozens of failed dates. I took a sweet shy girl's virginity, and became so needy that she ghosted me.

I re-evaluated my behavior and tried to improve every part of my life. I had been lifting for years, and was very unhappy with my body. I started using anabolic steroids (just Testosterone) as I wanted to have an impressive physique, but they didn't help much as I wasn't fully consistent and likely didn't push myself hard enough.

At that time, I met a girl on Tinder and we clicked really well. She ended up becoming my LTR for 3 years, and we genuinely loved each other and shared many great memories together. She made my life much better and I was happy to have her. Except for one major problem: I felt like she was my only option to get laid, and even though the sex was very frequent, every time she rejected me made me feel like a complete loser who was out of control. The pain caused by the rejections spiraled into me becoming more needy, and the frequency of rejections rightfully increasing. That led to me (dishonestly) using Tinder during the relationship, as I felt like I had to prove myself that I could get laid.

Even when I did, I still couldn't help but feel that I wasn't in control of my sex life. I always felt that I was constantly the one initiating or desiring sex, both in my LTR and outside of it. Even if I did get laid, it didn't feel right. I realized that I really wanted to experience proper genuine desire from a girl, I wanted to experience what it's like to turn a girl on so much that she wants to desperately jump on me. My LTR wasn't giving me that, despite her amazing companionship and frequent sex.

At the same time, a girl from my social circle that I was interested in started stalking me on Facebook and contacting me. She held eye contact very strongly when we saw each other and I was sure she wanted me badly. I saw this as an opportunity to finally experience the "genuine desire" I was talking about above. Such opportunity, combined with the feeling of "lack of control" in my LTR's sex life, led me to tell my LTR that I wanted to "fool around with other girls on the side" as I was "not feeling 100% satisfied". She was devastated by my demand and broke up with me on the spot, taking all of her stuff and leaving my apartment.

That was about two weeks ago. I loved and still love my ex and it has been extremely difficult for me to come to terms with the fact that I'll never be with her again. We had experienced so much together and our connection was genuine. I have strong feelings of regret and loneliness every day. One part of me wishes that I never initiated a break up with her, and wants to get back with her as she truly improved my life. The other part of me knows that I would end up feeling the same "lack of control" and I would keep interpreting her (infrequent) rejections as lack of genuine desire. I am still very torn, but I feel like I am not ready to have an LTR like that. I feel like I have deep issues with my self-confidence, body image, and sex life that I need to address.

Since the breakup, I have been seeing the girl from my social circle I was talking about before. Turned out she was a virgin and, despite a lot of back and forth, I took her V-card and I am seeing her somewhat regularly. She is affectionate and sweet, but I do not have any strong feelings for her. My ex still lives in my mind.

I have also downloaded a bunch of dating apps again and started getting matches. I have been on 4 dates. The first girl was way less attractive than her pictures, and I ended it short. The second one was OK, but nothing special - I took her home but she bailed during escalation. Third one was cute, but rejected my attempt at kissing her halfway into the date, then rejected me again a bit later, and I just ended it at that point.

Last one was, again, a bit less attractive than her pictures - however I could sense a strong desire from her side. I escalated heavily and ended up having some of the kinkiest sex in my life on the first date. She was all over me. Despite finally experiencing "genuine desire", all I could think about during that time was how I wish my ex would have been like that with me. I will try to see this girl again, but just for fun.

And that's basically the story of my sex life. Despite many good experiences, and an LTR that enhanced my life, I am very unsatisfied with it.
I never felt in control. I never felt like I could get what I wanted, easily. I always felt like I had to put a disproportionate amount of effort to get laid or get a relationship, just to end up unsatisfied in some way or another.

Goals

My main goal is to become a man that girls find sexy, and that has no issue getting laid whenever he feels like, no issue finding a quality LTR, and no issue turning on his partners so that their "inner slut mode" is activated for him. Basically, I want to have a satisfying and memorable sex life.

To reach this goal, there are many things I need to work on, but I feel like the primary ones are (1) my physique, (2) my self-confidence, (3) my inner game, (4) my game, (5) my ways of obtaining leads, (6) removing bad habits.

Regarding (1), quarantine has fucked up my body as gyms have been closed for months. I (inconsistently) worked out at home but lost many of my gains. As soon as the gyms open up again, I want to maximize my gains and work towards an outstanding body, no matter what, even using anabolic steroids and spending money on personal trainers.

Regarding (2) and (3), I am currently talking to a CBT therapist. I am trying to understand where my lack of self-confidence comes from, and how I can improve my mentality, especially when getting rejected or when feeling inferior to others. One of the things that has been bothering me the most is my height: I am 5'6" and I've been rejected several times for it, both explicitly and implicitly. I need to come to terms with the fact that I cannot change that and that I will always have a disadvantage, but I find it very hard to accept.

Regarding (4), I need to figure out how to get laid while minimizing wasted time. Many of my leads end up in flakes, dates that get nowhere, dates where the girl bails out right before sex happens, or dates where I can't even get a kiss. I need to have a plan for the various types of girls I meet, and I need to figure out how to genuinely express my sexuality and my desire to get laid without scaring off the girls or playing the long game.

Regarding (5), I want to maximize the value I get out of dating apps by improving my photos, bios, and approaches. I am currently doing OK on Tinder, as I can get a lot of matches and numbers, but I feel like I am getting too many flakes and that the quality of my matches is sub-par. On other apps, such as Bumble and Hinge, I feel completely invisible. I also never used Instagram, and many girls have explicitly asked for that - I feel like I am missing on some social proof due to that.

Regarding (6), I want to completely stop watching porn and I want to reduce how much I masturbate and procrastinate in general. I have tried to quit porn multiple times, but the urges get extremely strong especially after a bad date or when I feel lonely and like a loser. I want to be able to feel in control of myself and not have to look at pixels just to get off and get a temporary sense of pleasure that later becomes shame and disgust. I don't want to stop masturbation altogether but I am doing it way too often, and as a means of avoiding work or uncomfortable situations. These are things that I am discussing in my CBT therapy, but I really have no clue how to stop as many of the techniques I've tried have resulted in failure.

On the business/monetary side of things, I am doing quite well and I don't have much concern there.

Conclusion

The reason why I am here is because I am seeking help and - hopefully - a sense of community. All my friends are "blue pilled" and don't really understand intersexual dynamics as I've learned to during many years of experiences and knowledge consumption.

I don't have anybody I can talk about my goals, issues, and desires with. I keep everything bottled up inside all the time. While I understand that a man needs to be "a rock", I feel like my mental health and my progress would be much better if I had likeminded people to discuss with, that are just trying to improve themselves and succeed at life.
 
KillYourInnerLoser said:
@Flash Bang - Awesome man. From your pic you're attractive with good style - you'll kill it once you have some decent Tinder pics.

Social Anxiety - tried this?

Oh my god this could be massive for me. How much I fluctuate is ridiculous. You could ask 2/3 of the people I know and they would possibly say I'm at above average confidence but the issue is my ridiculous fight or flight response with fluctuates massively. I can get caught in a negative feedback loop and end up burning up red in the most ridiculous situations if I've met an attractive girl for the first time or get into some kind of low level conflict. It's so dumb.

I'll be going back through this article and will make a log at some point. Thank you.

I've already set up a date with a mate tonight to try and get some good shots with a dslr I've had collecting dust. WIll be posting a feedback post very soon
 
"I, bigDICKGOD, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously."

Goals for the year:

1) Fix my neurochemistry and issues with discipline -> Finding a good psychiatrist who does genetic testing for precision medicine and work on creating structures that improve my work ethic.
2) Find out a way to create a social circle despite this fucking Coronavirus shitshow here in NYC.
3) Get down to a 155lbs or 12% body fat. Whichever comes first.
4) Get a software engineering job making at least $200K
5) Get another half inch of girth on my dick
 
Ah my favourite GLL username has made it on to here

Welcome dude

140 odd guys willing to post their picture is crazy
 
I, Mac, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.

My overall goal is to consistently attract/date/have sex with beautiful women. I've done this but pretty rarely - I want to make this something that I can consistently do with little to no effort.

I've been reading this site for a month or two now, and putting a lot of it to use. I'll continue to work on the following (which I have specific goals/dates for):
1. Have a positive outlook on life. Specifically, meditate and use CBT/gratitude exercises daily.
2. Exercise & diet in order to reduce bodyfat. Eventually get my BF% measured and re-evaluate.
3. Take new pictures. Become more proficient at Photoshop, post the results on here for feedback.
4. Update fashion: buy more accessories, buy a new outfit or two, get a tattoo and a piercing.
5. Plenty of other goals that are smaller and/or further in the future.
 
Sup guys. You all might know me from GLL under a different handle..

Goals: smash hoes, get money. Study computer science.

I, l0vebone commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.
 
Best of luck buddy. If you read the site you will see that master KillYourInnerLoser was in the same boat, maybe even worst. Start fixing stuff one by one. Apply for jobs, join a gym, find some hobbies... Also, post an avatar before he pulls out the whips.
 
fugly

Your first step is to post pictures of yourself so you can get feedback to address that from the guys who have turned it around. Can do it in the private section if you're worried

With this specific issue none of us can help ya if we dont know where your looks are at.

Also good to go over your style
 
I, Aaron, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.

Hi guys I'm Aaron from Texas. I have been fortunate enough to get attention from and even be approached by girls for a long time (even more so now), but I've always been too shy and lacked the confidence to ever close the deal. All of that changes now.

Goals
10 lays by February 2021
Get a real job and move out of my brother's place in a year
Take my musical projects more seriously
Continue improving my physique
Learn how to fight
 
I, Luke, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.

Got kicked out of mom's house when I was in last year of college. I got a pass but I list it as incomplete on my CV. But no worries because I still got a crappy IT job. Then I realized that I'm 23/24 and very alone with no real accomplishments. My first goal was to get a dev job and I did :D Now I'm 25 with a software engineering job. I consider getting the dev job my first big win. The next big wins: getting fit and starting a business.
 
I, Crisis_Overcomer, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.

Heya fellas, I was active last year in the GLL forums. While reading Andy's log I discovered this forum so I decided to sign up. Not sure if I'll be active both here and there but I shall see.

I was gonna take my dating life seriously again in February. Then corona happened and I got scared with both the virus and my government's measures (I live in Greece). Focused on my biz but was missing the sex. When in one of my dreams, I dreamed about having sex (inception?) I knew something had to change.

I was getting coached by Andy last year and did well with cold approaching. Alas now I've lost my flow. I tried starting again but it's tough. I end up spending hours walking aimlessly. Plus I sweat a lot for a skinny guy and this annoys me even more.

So I decided to install Tinder again, along with Bumble (my 10th world country doesn't support Hinge yet). I even asked a guy I know to take some professional photos but he's probably gonna flake. Anyway, I installed the apps today, got a few matches and I might go out with a girl tomorrow. She seems like a time waster but I feel warm and fuzzy communicating with a female that might be open to chocking, spanking, blindfolding, and face fucking .

Despite my sex-less intro, my main goal in 2020 is to make $5,000/month with my coaching business. However I realized that I miss sex. So, unless I fix this part first, my mind won't focus.

If I had to give a few checkpoints regarding my goals, they are:

  • get laid and continue doing so with online dating
  • start running FB ads to attract leads
  • convert leads into 4-figure customers
  • set a system that brings leads in consistently
  • retain enoug customers to be making $5,000/month consistently
  • move out from my crappy appartment

Anyway, that's all from me. Glad to be back and here's to a kick-glute rest of 2020
 
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