Yesterday was a really special day man. Hung out with the bros, had my 2nd date with L (amazing experience with this stunning woman), made some memories with my crew and enjoyed the last night Paw will be in London. Will miss him, but I’ll go see him and The Dom in Columbia at the start of next year, and then I will make plans with my bros and set up a 12 month rental somewhere.
That somewhere may be Budapest. My readers know I enjoyed that place a lot.
After Crisis_Overcomer has told me off for the same thing many times, I have revised my day structure and taken his feedback onboard. Actually, it was Paw who pulled me aside to be honest and said “this guy is right Ravi” (lol) and we sat together in a cafe and revised my day structure.
We’re going to do it in focus slots, grouping up key areas of activity.
I’ll outline more later, gotta hustle.
Date with L was just great. Ups, downs, but just sheer excitement. I leave dates with this woman feeling just on top of the world. She’s awesome, and such a beautiful lady. I wanna say she’s about a 7.5 for me.
I’ll do a proper forum post tonight after my hustle is done, BUT, to give you a flavour…..
She tells me to meet her at 515. I set off at 445 (she’s one stop away) and when I arrive, she says she’s still in the dentist, and I can rock up at 530. She tells me don’t rush. So, I just set up at 5 and wait. Time passes, it’s 530. Nada.
More time passes, I text to ask if all is OK?
She replies saying there was an issue at the dentist, and she’s sorry.
I wait longer. It’s almost AN HOUR. I have a beer and chill.
I am thinking, damn Ravi, this lady is an hour late pretty much. Then I process that she was at the dentist, and there was an issue. She rocks up eventually, apologises, but I am a bit blown away that I am on a date with this woman. She hugs me very tight, we chat a little, and we go get drinks.
I get this one. I am low key pissed off, she said sorry, yes, but she was very chill about leaving he hanging for so long. And now I’m buying her a drink, I think, dude am I simping here wtf….
ANYWAY
Take her upstairs, flirt fest, talking all sorts, laughing our heads off, but also making sexual jokes. She is saying some positive stuff: she is talking about how she wants me to meet her friend, who is this guy who looks after her cat and is a season ticket holder who takes her to Chelsea games (think the dude is rich). Sounds like he simps for her a lot, fuck that shit. Guess it’s just hot girl life.
Anyway, date is going well. I go for the kiss, she gets crazy nervous and starts trembling like hell.
I pull back and just play it off like I was going to stroke her cheek. I calm her down. But I’m thinking, WUT?
She’s Bi and I think her last relationship was a gal, may have been a while since she was with a dude. I dunno.
We make more plans, she asks me when I want to see her next, and I just gaze into her eyes, she says “OK, so is that ASAP?”, I say yeah. She says we can do a drink Sunday. I say maybe, let me confirm. I may have 2 girls double booked Sunday. Maybe. Tbh, I’d rather see L any day of the week and will cancel the rest if needs be lol.
….And then….
She says if I want, she can book a day of annual leave off from work, and we can spend an entire Sunday together. That way, she has Monday off.
This is really positive and this assures me, despite her not kissing, she does like me.
Note that I am right up in her grill the whole date, stroking her back, she’s right in close. We end the date as I’ve gotta go for dinner with Paw, Timmy and Carl. We’re stood, I get very close and hold her face and play it off like I’m doing some analysis of her face for mewwing (just banter as she got invisalign fitted today). She is so freakin pretty. She’s cool with me holding her face in my hands, stroking her cheekbones, getting v v close.
L “I’ve got rosy cheeks”
R “I’ve seen better….”
Such a laugh talking to her. Throughout the date, I am kinda pinching myself asking if it’s real. I go to make a very sexual joke about choking girls, and my heart starts to race, in my mind I am literally playing an image of her grimacing and telling me she has to go home now. But no, she just laughs and talks about how girls want to be choked. She talks about how her day was chill, and how her Wellness Wednesday was just her recovering from an epic bender and taking a shower.
“I won’t apologise for the mental image I have right now of you in the shower”
She smiles “Good, I don’t want you too”
All this time, I am kinda in disbelief she is responding to me like this.
L “Ravi, is it too early to ask what you’re looking for?”
R “No, you can. So, I’m open to whatever”
L “And what does that mean?”
R “I want to be happy”
L “Explain”
R “I want to be around someone whose company I enjoy. You?”
L “OK, so I am looking for someone I can build with, someone with potential, but that doesn’t have to be one specific person. It’s what I want eventually, but now, I want to have a good time, have fun, and enjoy”
R “I think we’re looking for the same thing”
L “I agree”
We chat more and I am listening to her intently, but also teasing.
L “Charmer”
R “I try my best”
L “You’re trouble”
R “I am” (my sexy voice)
She smirks and laughs out loud. She’s loving it and I am a bit shocked by the entire thing.
Many times in my life, I would be out in public spaces and see men on dates with pretty girls. I hadn’t been on a date before, and I used to think, damn dude, imagine how good that would feel, imagine how good that would feel just to talk to her, make her laugh. Imagine being in that seat that guy is in.
Often it would, to be honest, give way to deep sadness, and sometimes, blind rage. Jealously, anger, and then self-loathing. I would ask, what the hell would I have to do in order to sit in that seat?
Leaving that date with L, I realised something.
I have now become that guy.
It was a sweet feeling and there was a spring in my step as I went back to see my bros. I walked the streets with such confidence, like a peacock fluttering his feathers.
I cannot express how powerful the feminine can be. True femininity. If I never got to see this, what would my life have been?
I am blessed.
Went home. We ordered in Lebanese food, we helped our boy Carl plan his next photoshoot, and I helped him hire some models that I know (3 stunners V hired for a music video). We found Carl a great photographer, and he is cool with me also doing some shots during his shoot with the models. So my bro will allow me to participate in the photoshoot he’s getting done and maybe get a new photo for myself, with some very pretty ladies. The power of a tribe. Me and Timmy help him a lot, because he is our little bro, and he helps us back. That’s called brotherhood. We expect nothing, we just offer value, and all the help and support we give others comes back. It is natural, I call it good karma. Your private victories precede public ones, as Steven Covey said.
Earlier in the day, me and Paw bought 20kg of ice and filled the tub for an epic ice bath!! We did 5 min rounds, and then did some chanting.
After dinner, we slugged a few drinks, and watched a documentary. It was a bromantic day.
Today, I will hustle and get shit done. Date scheduled for tomorrow but I feel she’s gonna flake, she flaked last time and also ghosted for weeks. Sat, date with a new gal & it feels solid. Sun, I may cancel on the other chicks and just see L.
I am willing to invest time and energy into L to get to know her more. Am I worried she’ll friendzone me and not want to have sex with me? Yes. BUT, talking to her, being around her, and also just the fact that she wants to know me and is awesome, heals me a lot…..I need this right now……...
Thank you for reading. I am not the finished product, yes I crack sometimes. But I have redeeming qualities: I show up grind, make incremental progress, and also can see when I am wrong and I will apologise and do my best to course correct. I will get there in the end.
I will reply to your comments. The new day structure will help. I will get all my work done and then I should have 1-2hrs to read, surf the group & forum, give value and just chill.
RAVI
