DATE
Firstly, she was gorgeous. Italian yoga instructor & dancer. 25.
She arrives. She's already seated, outdoors. We chat, I get a round of drinks. We chat, then head inside to my usual space. She gets the next round.
I am trying to crack her puzzle. Touching her, but she's not receptive. She's into yoga, I suggest we go back to check out this crazy documentary on yoga I was obsessed with. She says she's not the type of person who goes back to someone's place on the first date. I am icey af. Keep chatting. Touching her, she ain't receptive to touch. I try a few diff angles - ask her if she wants to check out where we'll be throwing our house party, she says "just so you know, going back probably won't be happening". I am icey as fuck and like "yeah, I mean it's just casual". And she's like "yeah, of course, I know". We keep chatting, she still is not really receptive to touch. Like I am doing my standard shit but she is showing resistance.
She's a party gal, big time. Hardcore traveller and likes a drink. I try another angle: "I'll make you a g & t?". "Yeah, sure".
We chat. Pull back to mine, 4 min walk.
Try to hold her hand, she holds for about 10 secs, then slips.
She isn't dtf at this stage but I know I'll keep ploughing.
Get her to mine, drink, talk. Where she sits on my sofa it's clear she ain't game. But I keep working.
Physical escalation again, very subtle, just stroking her arm sat on the sofa. She moves her arm just 2-3cm so I'd have to readjust my finger to stroke her again lol. Just subtle shit like this. She wasn't dtf basically, and that's cool.
None of this phases me you already know.
She has her drink, and it's about 10:15pm (we met at 730pm). She tells me she has to go home. Totally fair. Kiss her on both cheeks european style, and she says we should grab a drink, maybe we can go for dinner and you can talk to me about spirituality. I'm like sure.
She rolls out to find her way home.
I'm like, damn, she was beautiful man.
Pulled this hottie back, but no lay.
Few thoughts: she is a very confident gal, party animal, very hot, and is doing research for her PhD in neuroscience. She also expressed clearly she doesn't smash on the first date. I have Italian friends, spent a lot of time with them and their families etc, I know their vibe, it's VERY similar to my own background (I'm a Punjabi Sikh) so I know girls like this can be hard to crack.
Enjoyed the date, gal was great.
Next steps:
Texted her saying had a great time, get home safe and let's do it again. We'll see what she says but if she's up for it, I'll ask her to come for a drink next week. This time, I'll tell her let's make cocktails, come to my place, and we'll drink and vibe.
She said let's go for dinner when she was leaving my place. I'll just ignore all that and push for drinks. We'll see.
Final thoughts:
Was smooth, operated well. Handled biz. She wasn't there to be laid first night. I did screen properly, called her sexy, all that. Girls bring different puzzles. It's part of the fun. The joy of the hunt ;-)
Anyway, onto the next. Sent text to tonight's proposed chick to confirm. Let's see what today brings.
MAC
