PinchePendejo
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- Dec 11, 2021
Get after it. Knowing the life you’ve already built in Japan…there is no doubt you’ll become the man you want to be. It was a pleasure meeting up with you. Thanks for showing us the sights!
colgate said:why do i care so much about sleeping with japanese girls? it's because in order to do that, i have to live up to how my frontal cortex imagines itself. i have to drop the NEET stay at home nerd lifestyle, i have to love to talk to people, i have to be in touch with what normal people are into (and not be some fucking edgelord coping by saying "what normies are into is so lame!"), i have to become masculine, i have to take control of my life
the banging japanese girls part for me is just a reflection that i am indeed living a life congruent to these ideals. i know (now from personal experience!) that when i am actually trying to get laid, i am becoming my best self. because banging chicks (especially if you can't get it in autosex mode) is what cuts through all the bullshit. you can't cope and you can't cop out.
which is why i am posting these rambles on my log out of desperation. because right now i'm coping and copping out
colgate said:my brain is honestly deluding me into feeling accomplished so i don't have to evolve. because evolving is scary and means you have to suck.
Zug said:You are accomplished. The real issue that no one talks about is the accomplishments don't mean anything other than in a short few minute window where theyre happening or bragging about it later. People are not unhappy because they haven't won, they're unhappy because they live like a loser.
yeah wow, like i think up until now since i was so "goal-oriented" i was totally ignoring the effects of my actual lifestyle and only tunnel visioned on what results i was getting. i really did think that my life satisfaction was a function of my results, which is why i felt such a schism recently.Zug said:80% of the value is in changing yourself and how you live. The other 20% is the meaningful relationships and experiences you can have as a result.
colgate said:i should be focusing on HOW i live my life to BE in a STATE of life fulfillment, as opposed to "achieving a specific milestone to reach the peak of life fulfillment"
colgate said:. i should be focusing on HOW i live my life to BE in a STATE of life fulfillment, as opposed to "achieving a specific milestone to reach the peak of life fulfillment"
Zug said:3. Start the even longer-term process of realizing you really don't give a shit about most hedonism. Hedonism doesn't make you happy most of the time. Sometimes it really can, but it's not super common. We delude ourselves a lot on this. We keep telling ourselves the extra donut or chain masturbating is going to solve some existential crisis around how we feel, but its virtually never the case. When it does happen it's rarely, almost never, as a result of directly chasing it. Knowing that making progress up the hill you are climbing makes you happy. Knowing that you've failed to take the required steps, or that what you're trying isn't working, or not knowing the method to climb is what makes you miserable.
Zug said:Finally, I'd put forth another reason. What the fuck was the point of getting your life together and pulling yourself out of despair? Is the end goal just to just more optimally pursue hedonism? I didn't do all this shit just for me. I did it so I could spread this success outward to those around me. First to my immediate friends and family, and then to my local community and beyond.
Society is crumbling because all the people capable of fixing it are choosing not to. This site exists because Andy turned around and tried to show his path to other people. Sure, he had other personal goals too, but it would have been easier to not do this and just find some other job. I suspect he realized all the work he did was wasted if he wasn't able to share it with others like him.
/quote]Antonio44 said:I superlike this. Did you always feel this way
Antonio44 said:Perhaps we have different definitions of hedonism but I think it's great. Like the past week, my highlights were taking my girl skiing for the first time and a late night visiting some old friends drinking and reminiscing about past stories, I laughed so hard that I cried. I just think the examples you give aren't really hedonistic - eating that extra donut when you're already full isn't really pleasurable.
More and more I identify with the quote from the book "into the wild", "happiness is only real when shared".
Zug said:The real issue that no one talks about is the accomplishments don't mean anything other than in a short few minute window where theyre happening or bragging about it later. People are not unhappy because they haven't won, they're unhappy because they live like a loser.
colgate said:ok give me a hug
she reluctantly gives me a weird side hug. oh hell naw
i pull her chin into mine and give her a quick peck on the lips.
!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
yep i stole yo first kiss. sorry what u gon do about it
her face turns into a scowl, mouth agape
hmph!!!!!!!!!
she storms off through the train gates, with no parting words
next day in class, she FREEZES ME OUT ..... ICE COLD!!!!
not a fucking word or reaction to my existence!
this is just like approaching japanese girls in the station!
colgate said:however, the thought of being so chipper in the face of pull rejections (or any rejections that aren't "nice") feels so foreign to me. i get way too affected by it. how tf do you just keep going?
so let's finally put the nail in the coffin about how "brown guys have it bad". yeah maybe we don't have "autosex" and the JBW game on hand/chicks purely liking us for our looks, but that's really not an achilles' heel. and we can realistically make up for it. i think every time a brown dude (including myself) struggles hard, it's more like we have some really shitty inner world beliefs and perhaps even just a shitty lifestyle where we have nothing to be proud of. which are actually both whitepills and fixable things, but you must have self-awareness to even identify what exactly is making your inner world shitty, and then commitment to actually go and fix those.
yesMakingAComeback said:you have to make attraction happen, you need good vibe, presence, energy, and charisma.
colgate said:IMG_20240405_220621(1).jpg
- my gf who told me that i look so cool and whipped out her phone unprompted to take this pic of me