I have listened the first 50 mins of the first part.
My 2 cents for you: There is no shame in making a mistake, we all do that. (as long as you have not added permanent damage to someone, disfigurement or some other way of non-reversible damage)
But I find it very virtuous that you admit to your mistakes and come clear with it.
I am having huge problems in my life, especially with my father, because he cannot admit to his own mistakes regarding his anger problem and he is so prideful that he refuses to say sorry at the cost of not seeing his only kid (me). That is not a position I want to be in, when I am 65 and I value it hugely that you admit that you made mistakes and you at least try to derive a lesson. This is virtue in and of itself. (of which my father cannot show, for example)
My critique: I was expecting to learn more from this, whereas it was generic advice on how to overcome difficulties and turn them into opportunities. It is nice that you did it, but there are stories that would teach more than your one, because you prefer not to share the background. (Dave Goggins is very open about his past, for example, which is probably why he is also held in such regard)
For me, wrong is wrong. Theft is wrong. Murder is wrong. Arsoning is wrong. And you cannot change the past. Nothing to be sugarcoated about ethical wrong.
What you can do is to admit that it is a mistake, apologize, not repeat and make an example of your past self not to make others do this.
But I would have learnt much more, had I known your motivations, the background story of it, what exactly you did, the values and drives that made you commit that crime and how you reflected on these values and what transformed you to the point where you come to regret it.
Of course, it is your own preference to share it with strangers on the Internet (especially with autistic assholes that lack emphaty, like I do
). But that is what I think.
This podcast is more your own therapy than contributing to me.
And I think I owe you my honest feedback. I have used your guide, you have given away much value to me and if I can contribute a single bit, I would be grateful. That is why I did not click away.
If you do not need my unsolicited "tough love", please accept my apologies. I will refrain from commenting on matters, because I cannot do it without discernment.
