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I, Zack, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.

I'm 32 years old. I first found KYIL about 2 months ago from Andy's videos on youtube. I really related to his back story which has motivated me to be better.

My goal summarized is very simple. Be more confident. But its a little more complex than that so I'll go over it in my inaugural post.

In 2016 my girlfriend at the time cheated on me. I was so into this chick, this really fucked me up. But after the break up it caused me to reflect on myself. I'm 6'2 and was 135lbs at the time. I got really into working out and hired a personal trainer. I got up to 170lbs, lean and shredded by 2018 and thats when my journey really began to take my self more serious and getting into the dating world. I'm now almost 180lbs(dry weight) and still very lean. This has helped my mental state ALOT, I'm not nearly as depressed or suicidial as I was back then but I still have lingering depression. I'm not still into that chick but It was just the self reflection that led me be really hard on myself then and in a lot of ways I still am.

Before I get into my "issues" I'll list some positive things I have going for me;

-My online dating profiles seem to work pretty well, I get about 5-15 natural likes a week and about 10-15 likes when I boost(if I boost at the right time).
-I make 80k(USD) a year.
-I dont really have a problem getting girls I want(I have a problem keeping them and I'll get into that below).

Now onto my issue;

I've only slept with 8 women. I dont actually consider that specifically as an issue but its honestly only 8 because of my own choice which I believe has contributed to the mentality that has led to my problem. I've turned down lots of women. The number rating system is really subjective but I would say all of the women ive slept with are 6+. Two of them I would consider 9's. Honestly all i've really ever wanted is a banging hot girlfriend who cares about me and can give me regular sex. So thats what I've been after. I've always felt like I rather go on a date with a high quality women with no guarantee of sex and work towards sex with that person rather than set up a one night stand. I've never had a one night stand, only ever slept with people I was dating. So this is where the problem comes up, unless a girl absolutely adores me, or if shes extremely attractive and I really like her, when we start to have sex I have performance anxiety(hard to maintain erection during sex). I've used viagra and cialis to combat this but its really hard to me to cum on those drugs and surprisingly this I feel bothers these women I've been with(and frustrated me). I would rather not have to resort to these drugs, I've been in a healthy relationship where I didnt need this stuff and had no problem. When I have performance anxiety with someone I really like, it makes me feel really insecure and women pick up on this I think. Im not sure if its caused relationships to fail but it does seem like my relationships fizzle out after we first have sex and this happens.

What I believe the solution might be;

I need to sleep with more women and knock the pussy of the pedestal(so to speak). My game up until this point has just been be the "cute" quiet guy in the corner and have women come up to me. Which to be honest has seemed to work. But its not going to do me any good If I want to get over this issue. I need to work on my "game" to increase the numbers. I think what would do me good is to sleep with more women who are still up to my standard physically but women I'm not emotionally invested in. Since I've always been after women who are very pretty(my type is short and petite/fit) I've tended to be more into them then they are of me emotionally, which gives me the anxiety I think.

I look forward to now browsing this forum in its entirety and giving 110% into resolving this issue. I'm on Step 15 on here: https://killyourinnerloser.com/performance-anxiety/#solution-15-have-more-sex
 
I, JP3, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.

I've never had intentional success with women. The only times I have ever succeeded were by pure luck, and it dawned on me after I left college that I have never walked up to a woman and said "Hi, I think your cute".

I initially wanted to work on this problem last year, but then a pandemic happened and I took it seriously. Now that it's over where I live in the Boston area, it's time to fix this fucking problem.

After watching a bunch of videos , I eventually found KYIL through his comment on a video that Ed did on a different channel. Then I watched his videos, and I was hooked. Andy deserves to be way bigger than he currently is. He gives meticulous details on just how these things are going to go without sugar coating any of it, and that style works really well for me.

Infact through his encouragement of me through a damn youtube comment that I left here [ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ltx-iXRAOug ], I went and did my first approach ever. Getting past that gigantic wall of anxiety and fear was huge for me. But I'll make that a post on its own.

Anyways, I'm glad to have found this community and am looking forward to growing with you all.

If anybody wants to form a groupchat of sorts to keep each other accountable to getting better, let me know.
 
Hello dudes,

I, Julio (aka ccrvine), commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously."

About me:
28 Years Old
Work In Digital Marketing
Brazilian living in Toronto

First would like to send Andy KillYourInnerLoser some thanks and my love.
I came out of a relationship in March and was going on tinder with no success for about 2 months. While trying to improve my pics I came across his guide and really judged it at first thinking "oh another self-indulgent pickup artist who tries too hard" but for my own luck I decided not to be a prick and listen to the guy before judging him, and shit just by straight up following the ideas/instructions in his guide I banged 4 girls on the 1st date in 3 weeks, never in my life I had girls so easy!!!!! And besides all of that I never felt so confortable in a first date and during first time sex. I even got to dominate (BDSM) one girl and it went pretty fucking well! Because Andy praised ideas like " being honest", "having fun" and "being in the same team", this changed my whole concept on how to go about dates, sex and being way more chill with my insecurities!

Well since than I have had 3 weeks of draught, guess I got too cocky and stopped trying as much , but time to self improve again (constant struggle of life eh!).

Year Goals:
- sex w/ 25 girls this year (at 5 atm)
- Get My own Ad agency Running
- Having my Crypto Mining capabilities go up 5x
- GAINZ - get to 80KG with a BF < 10%, Currently at 76KG with a BF of about 12%

- Be able to play a whole guitar set outdoors (maybe this will be pushing it)
Completed:
- Get a better Job (done last week!)

Short Term Goals:

- Get Better Pics
- Have Better Control of my Focus (I am diagnosed with ADD, or just distracted as fuck )
- Cook my own food
- Finish the sales deck for my Agency
- Get in the habit of running
 
Hey guys. I, Sebastian, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.

I am 26 and a software engineer. Been living as a nomad for the past year or so, and I recently split up with a gf of six months. As of last year I have a job that pays pretty well, and while i have other career and entrepreneurial ambitions, for now I want to focus on pursuing women. It's obviously something I've always cared about, but with college, not having a job, and pandemic, I'm now finally well positioned to achieve highly in this regard.

To that end, I'm currently planning my next move and I think it will be to NYC. Having bumble passported around a bit, I've determined it's the highest value play. There are just so many hot women, in particular who seem interested in someone with my "resume", so to speak.

I discovered GLL years ago, and even lurked in Andy's original forum log there. I've been a coaching client of Andy's for about half a year, and I'm looking into getting involved in the group coaching as well.

My primary mid-term goal is to Get Laid More*

In order to achieve that, my actionable 1-3 month goals are:

- Move to NYC (or another city to maximize getting laid)
- Improve my dating profile pictures (they are about 6-12 months outdated; I'm a lot more fit and have better style now)
- Finish upgrading my style (acquired some jewelery and better shoes lately, but still need better pants and shirts)
- Get a bit more shredded (had abs for the first time in my life starting February, but I still have work to do on that front)

*I know goals should have a clearly defined benchmark of success, but it's hard for me to know when I will feel like I've achieved it. The idea is to just fuck girls until I'm satisfied with my sexual achievement. Quantity is not something I care so much about (I've slept with ~60 girls but I don't feel like that means much), but quality is. Success could include things like

- Multiple threesomes with hot girls
- Having a "harem" situation all with girls I think are really hot

Honestly I just want to validate my ego with women, and the hope though is at some point I will feel like "ok, I've done well" and be able to put the desire past me to focus on other things. I have a lot of ambitions, but it's just so hard to focus on them when I feel like I am underperforming sexually.
 
Hi guys, I'm Dilly. Currently living in Vienna as a software developer.

Most of my life I've been quite socially distant from people, rarely went to parties and didn't (still don't) have any (real) friends. After moving to Vienna last year, for the first time in my life, I started working on my social skills, going to Meetup events and attending Salsa courses. I made some improvements and had some momentum going, but had to take a 6 month break due to a brutal lock down over here.

Things are opening up again and I went out for the first time in a long time. I still suffer from social anxiety when it comes to approaching strangers (especially women). Sexually, I got lucky during an exchange abroad when I turned 23. "Lucky", because the girl did most of the moves on me.

My goal is to get laid and boost my confidence (including my confidence in social settings). I want approach women online (i.e. Tinder) and in person, and get laid until I'm basically fed up with it.

Physically, I'm quite fit and career-wise I'm doing great. But it's troubling me to no end that my love life is basically non-existent. I always get queasy when I'm with a bunch of people and we start talking about relationships and/or girls. I want to change that.
 
KillYourInnerLoser Andy! Would you believe it's about a year now since you ran this forum?

We've got 673 members now! A lot of lurkers, but a lot of action takers, too! You should seriously give yourself a pat in the back; you've grown a really special space for realistic & no BS men to pursue their goals without excuses. This is one of the few spaces that I, ironically, can safely say I can't use excuses to stop pursuing my goals. And other guys feel the same, too.

I also met people here that changed my life & the way I see getting laid & making money.

All hail our lord & savior, Daddy Andy!
 
I, bfg73, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.

Currently I'm spending a couple months in NYC and want to take this opportunity to go on dates and have sex with girls - I'll start by just saying 1 girl.

I'm here for work, so I obviously also want to excel in my career.

For some more tangible self-improvement goals, I want to limit calories to around 1700 per day and lose about 10 pounds of weight as well as work out 3 times a week. I want to buy a few new outfits that I like and start looking into accessories as well.

I also have some wrist issues, which I want to continue looking into by checking out doctors in the area.
 
I, Jon, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.

I think I have social anxiety and was very shy throughout my life. I thought coming to college changed that, but I was still the same. Fast forward and I've graduated for 4 years. Still, I'm finding myself working toward improving my dating life and creating more meaningful relationship with people, both friendship and romantic relationship.

I've tried approaching women in the past for 1.5 years but it never worked out for some reasons. I'm ok with that, because it's a learning and improving process.
 
I, Jeremy, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.

What's up. My name is Jeremy and I recently moved to Detroit, Michigan.
I set a goal for myself at the beginning of the year to average a threesome a month and so far I'm 4/12.
My other goals include

  • Drop down to <5% body fat.
  • Get my own place instead of living with family.
  • Start a dungeon here in the metro-Detroit area.
  • 365 Day challenge playing the cello / uploading to IG.
 
I, Max, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.

I am from Berlin/Germany, currently 34 years young and want to get finally my sex/love live how i like it.
I want to be able to approach evrey girl i think is cut/hot/sexy/... without stoping myself.
I want to bang some more girls (dont need to be a ONS, i like long lasting friends with benefits)
Finding my personal queen that will go with me in a open (maybe Polyamor) relationship.

Max
 
Hey everyone. 24yo from Poland. My main goal currently is doing the AA program and achieving a top level social freedom. I want to be able to approach any girl I deem attractive or interesting and also to connect with people easily and to be a more outgoing person, taking more action. I believe it will greatly enhance my life experiences. Secondly comes getting sex life in order, one lay a week at a minimum but the real goal is whenever I want, even if it’s 7 times a week, and getting at least 2 plates. So far my biggest sex life achievement is fucking 2 girls in one day within like 3 hours, one of them my regular plate, could also have had a foursome but I chickened out afraid of getting ED. Got my gym, financial, health and addictions mostly where I want it at the moment.

I, Mossy, fully commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.
 
Hey Everyone

I, J, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.

About me
- 20 Years Old
- Of Indian-Descent & Grew up in Canada
- 0 Lays
- Working in Door-to-Door Sales


Current Projects:
- Killing Approach-Anxiety (Working in Sales should Help with this)
- 9% B.F. while Maintaining Muscle Mass (Current ~15%)
- Get the Canadian Passport (Just Send the Application)

Long-Term Goals
- 1 Girlfriend & 2 FB's (at the same time) by June 2022
- Location-Independent Business by Dec 2023
- 185 Lbs. @ 9% b.f. (Currently 195 lbs. @ 15%) by Dec 2022
 
I, Svadhishthana, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.

Goals:
I want to get laid because I wish not, when I come to die, to discover that I had not lived.

Currently 29, software dev. Recently became a small-time landlord. Had one girlfriend who I had a 5 year relationship with, but never got laid outside of that.

Goals before I turn 30 in November:
- Get laid at least once. Probably from online.
- Either quit my job and start living entirely on rental income / passive investments, or make a plan for my quit date (within the next year).
- Overcome my history of overuse injuries through strength training.
- Lose 15lbs of fat I gained during covid.

Currently working my way through the tinder guide, stopping where it says stop and doing what it says to do. Bought a dslr and am working at not being crap at using it. Hired a strength coach. Next step is to update my wardrobe, as currently most everything I own is covered in paint an drywall.
 
I, canderson, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.

I'm 27 from the USA. My main goal right now is to lose fat and see my abs.

I love how everyone here is so driven and holds each other accountable.
 
I, Primagen, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.

First off i wanna say i fkin love this community, a group of guys genuinely trying to help each other in all areas of life.

Short term goal is getting laid for the first time, then a second time, then as many time as possible. I also plan to travel the world and get lays in the countrys i go.
 
I, Marcus, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.

25 from Denmark, and someone who want to milk the juices out of life to the fullest.
Goal: From 29.05.21, I want to get laid with 10 girls from online dating before the end of 2021
Count: 1 (updated 26.06.21)
 
I, chelirica, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.
33yo from china.
GOAL:
get laid;
know more about sexual relations;
get over AA;
get more muscle to be more mascline;
be more lean to see my abs;
get laid from street;
get laid from online dating;
get more laid.
 
I, Rust, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.

I'm 28, American. I've been lurking this site for a year now, applying some of it with limited success. At this point, I need to go for it and get serious.

Over the past few years, I've made some great progress on career and fitness goals. I completed a degree and moved into a higher-paying job, with a further degree to be completed soon. I've been lifting weights now for a couple years, and I feel better about my appearance than I ever have before.

However, I feel like dating is the one area of my life I have consistently failed at, and I need to start making it a priority before I fuck up my life again.

Goals for the rest of 2021:
-Get laid 4 more times
-At least try cutting out caffeine for a week
-Shore up social circle
 
RustInPeace a profile pic of you (can be cropped or blurred) is required to post on here as per our rules

Please add one of your account will be banned

Edit: All good dude, welcome
 
I, Fledgling Seed, commit to working on my goals & taking myself seriously.

24-year-old unemployed virgin with Asperger’s from the People’s Republic of Chinada (known to the outside world as Toronto, Ontario, Canada), home to the most oppressive (sorry, necessary & successful) lockdowns & most Puritan people on this (and possibly any other) planet. I live in a suburb of Toronto with my parents actually, not the city itself.

In case I somehow get sent to a re-education camp/disappeared because of Bills C-10 & C-36, Hail Dear Leader Trudeau, & hail the Almighty COVID Variants! Despite living in a GLORIOUS country with “glorious” lockdowns, I have inconceivably tried to kill myself 5 times in the last 6 months! How absurd & “ungrateful” of me! I never want to feel like this again, I don’t deserve to feel like this again.

When I read this website after 4 1/2 months of playing video games & jerking off until 3 AM in the morning, & Andy’s journey, it spoke to me on a level that no other self-development content did. Andy understands what it’s like to be down really bad. The night I read his mental health stuff (Thursday), I went to sleep at 10 PM & woke up before 7 AM for the first time in about 5 months. After going back to my old ways on Friday, on Saturday, I stuck with my new sleep schedule.

My goals for the end of 2021 (my 25th birthday):
- Lose my virginity
- Make money off of an online business
- Learn to stand up for myself & pursue my goals without fear
- Learn to stand up for myself against haters & deal with others’ emotional bullshit
- Get rid of anxiety
- Develop confidence
- Overcome psychological trauma & rage resulting from COVID-19 lockdowns (and other previous incidents) to the point where I can focus & live a happy life (if you couldn’t tell, this is a major problem for me right now)

My goals for the end of 2022 (my 26th birthday):
- Make enough money off of my own online business/a remote career to live on my own, either here or anywhere else in the world, depending on whatever political climate suits me best (preferably one where there’s no COVID-related lockdown restrictions/mandatory vaccine passports)
- Complete self-confidence & assertiveness to the point where I can tell anyone giving me grief to fuck off & walk away unscathed
- 6-pack abs
- My arms to be the size of an average guy my age
- Self-confidence in my ability to handle any new challenge that comes my way (core confidence)
- Eliminating all of my limiting/negative beliefs about life


Let’s do this.
 
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