I, Eljas, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.
Cheers everyone. I'm Eljas, soon 30 years old. I've had an awesome life but I'm not ready to settle to ordinary things.
I'm robotics M.Sc. and currently working in a well paying and satisfying job in tech & AI.
I live in Helsinki, Finland which is a nice place to be.
I have lots of money and status but I miss the bitches and parties.
I've basically been a serial monogamist for 10 years now. I was in a LTR for 7 years. I broke up with her because I got interested in another girl with whom I was for 2 years. Then I broke up with her because of many reasons. First, she was crazy af. Second, I had the urge to start cold approaching girls and start using Tinder because I never had tried it. Third, she didn't want an open relationship.
That was in 2021, just in the middle of pandemic. That was also when I found Andy's awesome tinder guide that helped me to get my lay count from 2 to 9 in a matter of months. I changed from a chubby, depressed loner to a cool, confident dude who has kinky BDSM sex with hot women.
My progress in my last tour:
- May 2021: my first tinder dates. I got matches quite regularly even though my images were shit and my text game was shit. However, I kept improving.
- June 2021: my first lay from tinder. Took me about 1 hour since meeting to kiss her, then took her to a hotel room and fucked with her 3 times. We were fwb for a couple of months before I dumped her because she was needy af
- July-August 2021: 4 more lays. Lots of dates. Lots of me making the move, inviting her to my place and making out but didn't fuck her. But I kept trying.
- September 2021: I travelled to France, got a date there and fucked her. We met later and did it again. Then got a match from tinder in Finland. We had an awesome and crazy date. She was super into me and I took her to my place and we fucked many times. The best date I ever had. She was super openminded and chill and horny. We ended up being in a relationship for 1.5 years before I broke up with her. Our sex life was amazing and she was up to all kinds of kinks but she was also too needy and attached to me.
So I have had 1.5 years pause from Tinder. Now it's time for me to go back. Feels a bit difficult but I know I'm gonna get it right.
I never fixed my approach anxiety even though I've had sex with 9 women, went for date with like 20 and kissed half of them. I still sabotage myself from getting those perfect fuckbuddies and sex adventures because I think I can't do it or they will reject me. This is a thing I NEED to fix if I want to be 100% of a human being.
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Goals in 2023 regarding sex and relationships:
- Reach 10% bodyfat
- Increase the amount of muscle to get those bootybuilder bitches
- Find some people to do BDSM with
- First threesome
- Go to a local BDSM meetup
- Start cold approaching girls again (I fucking hate it because I suck at it)
- Get first lay with a girl I met offline, like in a bar or public place
Other goals for 2023:
- Play a solo guitar concert (scheduled for June)
- Go bikepacking in 2 new countries (been in 13 so far) (scheduled for June)
- Take dance classes (scheduled for June)
Taking myself and my goals seriously:
- Stick to a calisthenics workout plan and a diet
- Find my own style & upgrade clothing
- Constantly improve myself. 1% every day
- Stick to the fucking plan. Even if it's hard.
- Start small to go big
- Find the best places to hit on women and do it regularly
- Grow the social circle to get to the best parties and success in life in general