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I, Musashi, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.

Short about me:

College grad, work in NYC finance, extremely focused on my career, but it has come at a cost of my social life. Here to improve myself and find balance--be good at all things.

Short term goals:
Overcome my ex...my first gf, my first everything. I have so far not have been able to get over that hump. I see a lot of motivated people on this forum and see a path laid out for me that I want to follow

Long term goals:
Live a sexually satisfying life, make a lot of friends, continue to nourish my family ties, and continue the progression of my career (#1).

Improve my body, I came back from the dead this summer...had an accident and was fucked up to the extent that I could not work out, even read for a month. Now I am fucking back with a great appreciation for life and my body, let's do this!

Concrete goals:
-1 lay by the end of the year
-make 1 new friend
-<20% body fat
-revamp wardrobe
-revamp dating profile
-most importantly, build a social circle so no need for dating profiles
 
I, Sean, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously. My goals are to improve my tinder account, get better pics, get out of my comfort zone more, and meet more women and get laid more.
 
I, noname, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously. My primary goals are to get my body in shape and meet prettier women.
 
Heya
I'm Sam
I, Sam, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.

I want to explore my sexual fantasies with as many hot chicks as doable and I want to have the confidence to know its repeatable
Current short term goals
- drop below 70kg, started at around 77
- have a threesome
 
Hey,

I, Sunday, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.

GOALS

Porn
Quit my addiction to porn

Women
Develop an appealing, ethically non-exclusive dating life

Career
Grow in my career while developing a sustainable freelance side-hustle

Social
Build relationships and social life I am proud of
 
Hi, I'm Greg and I'm here to solve my single biggest problem: girls lose interest after dates and communication fizzles out.

My stats:
32 yo, get regularly clocked at 23-26 due to youthful face.
6'2'' (6'4'' in thick heels, insoles), jacked, tan, 200 lbs or so, bf ranges from 12-15%.
Head full of hair. Good style (I've improved wardrobe over years and even had a stylist).
Hobbies: various sports, gym, reading books, did some dancing.
Have enough money and my own small business and am constantly improving it.
Life Purpose: My purpose is a company / startup I'm working on, so I have that part handled.
Current dating goal: Improve my phone, date to lay conversion with 7/10s by 25%.
**I currently match with, cold approach and date girls in wide range of 18-33.**

Some datomg background:
Right now I have little problems getting numbers on Tinder and even getting first dates.
I even get numbers from cold approach on street sometimes.

My problem is usually girls rarely want to do second or third dates.

Sometimes they go on second and third dates, but over time usually like 95% of those relationships fizzle out.
There are a few girls I've been seeing for a few months and we've been on a date every few weeks and I even kissed them, but they refuse to come to my place and basically show little interest, never message me, etc.
Even though I tried to escalate with these girls, touching, even kissing and they seem excited on dates, they are very hesitant to meeting over again and going to my place.

My shirtless pic mostly gets me the Tinder matches and girls generally acknowledge that I have a very good body.
I've been complimented on my physical attributes (mostly body). Regarding face: I have whitened teeth, tan, full head of hair, good skin.
Still, my body is my selling point though.

When girls have sex with me, they will always want to stick around, but I VERY rarely get to that part.

I am not needy and text mostly for logistics only (once or twice a week) as recommended by pretty much everyone "pickup artist" in the industry. Although I'm not sure how good of a suggestion it really is...

I tried listening to friend and being more of a nice guy and telling a girl I liked her after the date and messaging very soon, but they lost interest immediately, so I don't do it anymore and take my time so they get to wonder. (although I have suspicions they just lose interest).

I don't know what I'm doing wrong.
I don't have oneitis or anything, it's just the general trend I've seen over the years that I'm not happy with.
I've had had 3 girlfriends before from LTRs (1 hot 8/10 from cold approach, 1 above avg 6.5/10 from cold approach, 1 average 5/10 from Tinder), but it was a pain in ass to get them (had to go on so many dates and through so many numbers).
I've had one first night lay when Tinder girl basically took me, so I have the body and looks to pull those.
I've had second date lays and I've had beautiful girls (8/10 20yos) come over to my apartment to have sex on first date, but I fucked up by being anxious that time.

If I had to make a guess the problem for another person in my situation for a chance to win a million dollars, here could be the possible reasons:

1) I might be too jittery and don't have a really low, super masculine voice (my voice is average, but its not "sexy"). It's lower in the mornings and when I'm relaxed or on a xannie. I have taken some SSRIs recently that have made me way more chill, but I'm still not getting dating results.

2) I maybe appear too cold or distant? Maybe girls expect me to message them after dates, maybe they expect flowers or some more fancier stuff on dates? I don't know how to fix this. Russian girls especially, they have different culture. I date both international and Russian girls. I don't discriminate.

3) I think problem is either related to body language, communication nuance or voice, but I'm not sure which and combination of which. I even went so far as to send examples of my voice so vocal surgeon who does voice lowering and they said I already have reasonably low voice and if they lower it, they would reduce resonance and I would benefit most from vocal training if I want to perfect it, but its generally good if I'm relaxed, so idk.

If I had to choose ONE thing that might be a problem for this person (me), my inclination would be that it's somewhat related to behavior, communication via TEXT. I think maybe they want me to write to them more, but I'm not sure this is a good idea, since it's almost never recommended by dating coaches.

On dates, I LISTEN a lot to these girls, speak very little and make observations about emotional stuff (It seems you like to travel a lot, it seems you value X, etc...), I try to talk about their relationships, what men they like, try to get a bit sexual, increase intensity, talk about emotions, travels, etc...

Where do I get help and how to fix this?

How do I identify the problem?

I even asked some girls what was wrong, they said they didn't feel the "spark", which probably meant I was not escalating for sexual tension. I fixed that in last dates and touch girls, carry them around, do a quick dance or pat them on the head (if they are shorter) and do playful stuff like that. But the results are still not there.

I just don't know at this point. I've gotten hundreds of numbers, been on like 90+ dates and only had sex with 9 girls during my lifetime (I must admit I had a lot of quality sex in my LTRs) and I'm in my 30, this sucks.

I do reject the girls that are very ugly (usually rotten teeth or obese or something like that), so I guess I have some "standards", but I don't go only for models, although I've been on dates with model tier girls, too.
If a girl is 6.5/10+ I will consider her as long as teeth are in relatively good shape.
The problem is most of the time they just get unresponsive.

Looking for any help at this point.

Thank you so much!
I hope this forum finally helps me get over this hurdle and help me build a solid rotation of 3-5 hot girls. I'm tired of LTRs at this point.
 
I'm 53, recently divorced, splitting time between TX and CO where my kids are. Professionally, I've developed software for more than 30 years. I've been fortunate to enjoy a modest degree of professional success and financial stability. In addition to spending time with my kids, I like to hike, read, and play chess.

The name "Kill Your Inner Loser" seemed harsh at first, but this seems like a great community and resource for accountability. I'm glad to be here.

My top goals are:
- Get back in shape
- Learn to use dating apps (apparently that's where all the women are)
- Continue prioritizing my kids, whatever happens with dating

I, George, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.
 
Hello from Europe. My goal is get better with anxiety and build software business/company.

I, Willey561, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously
 
Hey guys, I’m Chris from Texas. I’m ready to eliminate my inner loser. I’m tired of being skinny fat, having no friends, and being socially awkward.

I, Chris, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.

My long term goals:
-Have 5 ambitious close friends in my circle.
-Get down to and maintain 14-17 % body fat.
-Be the life of the party and host at least 1 party a year.

Right now:
-No close friends
-At around 25-30% body fat.
-Have no social life and never hosted a party.

I’m open to suggestions on how to reach my goals as fast as possible or tools you think will help me. Thanks guys. I’m ready to put this loser in the ground.
 
I aim to eliminate any anxiety I have regarding women, get 25 lays, and later become a successful entrepreneur.

I, Serhio , commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.
 
Hello

I, TheAscendentOne, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.

I am a 19yr old student in the United States.
My goals are:
-to bulk up in the gym, get to 175-180lbs lean (currently at 161 at around 15% body fat)
-get good grades,
-get a paid business internship at a firm that will look good on my resume for the summer or even the upcoming winter break,
-work on my music projects and writing music with my band
-Get laid a lot (I want to fuck at least 2 girls by the end of the academic year or find a healthy LTR)

I am currently in an approximately 1.5 year dry spell. I was desperate for a while but have put getting laid on the side for a while and want to make it less of a focus but still pursue it a bit (I've come to the conclusion I'm trying too hard). I figure that coming here will be great for working on this and also on my other goals.
 
I, mountmitchell, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.

I'm looking to improve my looks in order to improve my quality of life from the Halo Effect.
 
Hi all,

I, Mike, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.

I'm here to connect with a like-minded tribe.

Cheers
 
Hey y'all, I’m Lord Wilmore from Texas. I'm here to help others but to also discuss with other members the finer points of non-monogamy. If you read some of the posts I will post here, you'll see why I'm being secretive with my identity. My avatar is me, but it's been highly edited with a filter to achieve a comic look.

I, Lord Wilmore, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.

My long term goals:
-Have more non-monogamous sex.
-Get down to 12% body fat.
-Improve my income
-Improve confidence

Right now:
-Regular sex with 1 other couple
-At around 23% body fat.
-Finances are tight
-Confidence is high but I still have issues

Overall, I am here to talk about my experiences and to help others, but would definitely love to improve my game and confidence.
 
Hi everyone, I’m Jack from DC.

I, Jack, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.

My long term goals:
-Move to a different city (NYC, LA, or MIA)
-Have a sick body,

Short term goals:
-Get from 128lb to 150lb
-Get laid 3x
-Catch up to speed with my new team at work
 
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