Spider Jerusalem
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- Oct 11, 2021
Day 78: 28/12/2021
️ Podcast with Andy ️
Last night I had my Podcast with Andy where we had a good lengthy discussion for over 2 hours regarding self-improvement, my journey and some of the struggles that I'd faced so far along the way. I cannot state enough how useful I found this last night and I am grateful to Andy for his input and the time he took to go through things with me. I learned a lot from him and he gave me some solid advice. I think I had a couple of epiphanies during our discussion which I reflected on after. I woke up today feeling refreshed, ready to take on the world and to keep going with my self-improvement journey
KillYourInnerLoser I have subscribed to your Patreon - it's not much, but I wanted to do a little something to say thank you for sitting down with me last night. It is much appreciated
Andy gave me 2 exercises to do to help confront my feelings of inadequacy and not being good enough which I have started on:
- Looking in the mirror and stating positive affirmations for 7 days (1/7)
Did this today when I woke up. I confronted myself in the mirror and stated to myself 5 times 'I like you'. I found this quite difficult as it's something I haven't done before. There was a time in my life where I hated looking in the mirror at myself as I had this weird notion that I hated myself and didn't like what I saw. I did this with my blinds shut as I kept thinking 'what if the neighbours look in?'. I will do this 6 more times this week as I think this will be a worthwhile exercise. I'm going to try to work up to saying 'I love you' to myself, but I don't think I'm quite ready for that yet.
- Writing down a list of 50 things I like about myself
I have started on this today. I've got a few things written down, but not many. Andy has suggested I ask friends and family what they like about me (not why they like me) and write down some of the ideas. If anybody on here has any insights form my posts, I would be most grateful for things to add as I'm not very good at complimenting myself.
- Dealing with confronting my past trauma
When I think about the past trauma or bullshit situations I've been in, sometimes I mutter and swear under my breath. Andy has suggested taking myself away from the situation and looking at the root cause of this and confronting it. I haven't done this yet today, but next time it happens, this is something I will do
- Listened to Episode #95 of Andy's Podcast - Day 95: What Tricks/Shortcuts Have Helped Me Get Laid More?
Some solid advice here. Particularly confronting your nerves and accepting you'll suck at it. I liked the Slight Edge aspect too - just keeping at it consistently. Using the forums for support is also a good idea - It's worked very well for me when I've posted on here and received good advice from the forum members. Appreciate the support from everyone
- Listened to Episode #96 of Andy's Podcast - Day 96: A Typical Day in the Life of a Guy Who Gets Laid
Interesting to hear how Andy's daily routines and habits work in getting him laid. I'm hopeful that at some point in the future I will get to a stage of abundance once I have self-improved enough. I understand that it will likely take a good few years before I get to 'elite' level if I can get there, but I'm willing to have a good go at it
- Listened to Episode #97 of Andy's Podcast - Day 97: How Do I Be More Outcome-Independent?
I've done this in the past and still do to some degree and in some aspects of my life. I'm happy to say this is something that I have gotten much better at though, particularly with talking to girls. If things don't work out with a Tinder match, I just brush it off and move on. Having an abundance mindset has definitely helped me out here. I no longer beat myself up if things don't work out and accept it as 'it is what it is'.
- I have started reading The Slight Edge. Finished Letting Go: The Pathway of Surrender yesterday. Brilliant book. I've now started working on this one on Andy's recommendation. I'm already really enjoying it and I think I'll find it very useful. Andy posted on my log a little while back with a link to an article to use whilst reading the book which I am putting to good use now I have started work on it
- I have written a shopping list for my new healthy bulking diet. This consists of 4 meals which total 2,700 Calories. The ingredients are fresh and nutritious. It's also quite cheap if I shop at a budget supermarket. Going to McDonalds to bulk is unhealthy as well as expensive
The meals are as follows:
1. Breakfast protein smoothie
2. Egg Stir Fry
3. Chicken Fajita Bowl
4. Ground Turkey and Sweet Potato
I am looking at adding 1 or 2 more snacks to get up to the nice round number of 3,000 Calories as well (Possibly nuts and fruit). It's about time I started eating properly as I'm almost into my 30's and it's gonna screw me over if I don't take action on this. I've got the food prep containers on the way from Igluu and when these arrive, I'll get on this. Should help fuel my gym and Jiu-Jitsu workouts too. If I combine this with getting enough sleep and cutting out the crap food, I reckon I'll really see improvements in my health and fitness
- I've been inspired by my Podcast last night, so I've arranged a date with a local girl on Tinder. She's okay looking. Haven't been on a date in a long time, so could do with getting back in the game. She seems nice so I'll see how it goes. Been using the Tinder Guide template and it's really working. No harm in having a coffee date for an hour when the coffee shop is a 15 minute walk away ️
That's it for today's update
Photos have been posted for accountability purposes
Thanks for reading
Spider 🕷
️ Podcast with Andy ️
Last night I had my Podcast with Andy where we had a good lengthy discussion for over 2 hours regarding self-improvement, my journey and some of the struggles that I'd faced so far along the way. I cannot state enough how useful I found this last night and I am grateful to Andy for his input and the time he took to go through things with me. I learned a lot from him and he gave me some solid advice. I think I had a couple of epiphanies during our discussion which I reflected on after. I woke up today feeling refreshed, ready to take on the world and to keep going with my self-improvement journey
KillYourInnerLoser I have subscribed to your Patreon - it's not much, but I wanted to do a little something to say thank you for sitting down with me last night. It is much appreciated
Andy gave me 2 exercises to do to help confront my feelings of inadequacy and not being good enough which I have started on:
- Looking in the mirror and stating positive affirmations for 7 days (1/7)
Did this today when I woke up. I confronted myself in the mirror and stated to myself 5 times 'I like you'. I found this quite difficult as it's something I haven't done before. There was a time in my life where I hated looking in the mirror at myself as I had this weird notion that I hated myself and didn't like what I saw. I did this with my blinds shut as I kept thinking 'what if the neighbours look in?'. I will do this 6 more times this week as I think this will be a worthwhile exercise. I'm going to try to work up to saying 'I love you' to myself, but I don't think I'm quite ready for that yet.
- Writing down a list of 50 things I like about myself
I have started on this today. I've got a few things written down, but not many. Andy has suggested I ask friends and family what they like about me (not why they like me) and write down some of the ideas. If anybody on here has any insights form my posts, I would be most grateful for things to add as I'm not very good at complimenting myself.
- Dealing with confronting my past trauma
When I think about the past trauma or bullshit situations I've been in, sometimes I mutter and swear under my breath. Andy has suggested taking myself away from the situation and looking at the root cause of this and confronting it. I haven't done this yet today, but next time it happens, this is something I will do
- Listened to Episode #95 of Andy's Podcast - Day 95: What Tricks/Shortcuts Have Helped Me Get Laid More?
Some solid advice here. Particularly confronting your nerves and accepting you'll suck at it. I liked the Slight Edge aspect too - just keeping at it consistently. Using the forums for support is also a good idea - It's worked very well for me when I've posted on here and received good advice from the forum members. Appreciate the support from everyone
- Listened to Episode #96 of Andy's Podcast - Day 96: A Typical Day in the Life of a Guy Who Gets Laid
Interesting to hear how Andy's daily routines and habits work in getting him laid. I'm hopeful that at some point in the future I will get to a stage of abundance once I have self-improved enough. I understand that it will likely take a good few years before I get to 'elite' level if I can get there, but I'm willing to have a good go at it
- Listened to Episode #97 of Andy's Podcast - Day 97: How Do I Be More Outcome-Independent?
I've done this in the past and still do to some degree and in some aspects of my life. I'm happy to say this is something that I have gotten much better at though, particularly with talking to girls. If things don't work out with a Tinder match, I just brush it off and move on. Having an abundance mindset has definitely helped me out here. I no longer beat myself up if things don't work out and accept it as 'it is what it is'.
- I have started reading The Slight Edge. Finished Letting Go: The Pathway of Surrender yesterday. Brilliant book. I've now started working on this one on Andy's recommendation. I'm already really enjoying it and I think I'll find it very useful. Andy posted on my log a little while back with a link to an article to use whilst reading the book which I am putting to good use now I have started work on it
- I have written a shopping list for my new healthy bulking diet. This consists of 4 meals which total 2,700 Calories. The ingredients are fresh and nutritious. It's also quite cheap if I shop at a budget supermarket. Going to McDonalds to bulk is unhealthy as well as expensive
The meals are as follows:
1. Breakfast protein smoothie
2. Egg Stir Fry
3. Chicken Fajita Bowl
4. Ground Turkey and Sweet Potato
I am looking at adding 1 or 2 more snacks to get up to the nice round number of 3,000 Calories as well (Possibly nuts and fruit). It's about time I started eating properly as I'm almost into my 30's and it's gonna screw me over if I don't take action on this. I've got the food prep containers on the way from Igluu and when these arrive, I'll get on this. Should help fuel my gym and Jiu-Jitsu workouts too. If I combine this with getting enough sleep and cutting out the crap food, I reckon I'll really see improvements in my health and fitness
- I've been inspired by my Podcast last night, so I've arranged a date with a local girl on Tinder. She's okay looking. Haven't been on a date in a long time, so could do with getting back in the game. She seems nice so I'll see how it goes. Been using the Tinder Guide template and it's really working. No harm in having a coffee date for an hour when the coffee shop is a 15 minute walk away ️
That's it for today's update
Photos have been posted for accountability purposes
Thanks for reading
Spider 🕷