This, I have to say, is a major milestone in my life. I'm super happy about finally feeling validated, and actually hitting my goal way before my target date. Huge thanks are due!
First, a huge thanks to everyone who posts on this forum. When you post your failures, it helps me learn. When you post your insecurities, it makes me feel less alone. When you post your successes, it gives me hope for the future. But most important is when you post about your humdrum, punch-the-clock days, because seeing so many guys working so hard, so consistently towards their goals motivated me to rise to the level of the community. I used this pressure to work harder and more efficiently, to push myself mentally and physically, and to remind myself to FIND a way to MAKE IT HAPPEN NOW time and time again. Extra thanks to everyone who posted in my life and Tinder thread with support and advice. In particular, thank you to MakingAComeback . Your constant support and encouragement kept me motivated and consistent, and your own work ethic is truly and inspiration. Keep hammering, you're getting there!
Huge thanks to Rags2Bitches for his invaluable help consistently calling out my bullshit and getting my OLD profiles up to scratch. I'm still working on them, and if you consider them 1/3rd complete right now, I'm absolutely STOKED to see what happens when I make them even better.
Thanks to Radical as well for his style guide, and for pushing me beyond my bullshit anxieties in how I dress. Style is - and probably always will be - my weak point, so having straightforward advice that even a dumbass like me could follow was amazingly helpful.
And of course, a giant thanks to KillYourInnerLoser for writing the tinder guide and creating this community. I have to be honest, and say that I was always pretty confident that I'd be able to get laid... somehow. But the difference between following the guide + joining this forum and doing it on my own was night and day. Before it was like I was tearing though underbrush and brambles, schlepping knee deep in a bog, struggling to move just one step forward. Finding your site was like finding a finely paved cobblestone road through the wilderness full of other pilgrims headed the same direction. The knowledge and community has made the journey far faster, easier, and more enjoyable, and has given me permission to be far more ambitious in my future goals - not only in dating, but also in life as a whole. Most of all, thank you for reminding me of what I already knew - you must go all-in. Not because it will lead to success, as the uncertainty of success is the mark of any goal worth having in life. But because going all-in is the only proper way to live one's life, which would otherwise be the dull, grey, and tepid existence of 1000 regrets on your deathbed.
To anyone reading this who is still struggling, hopeless, and going through hell - keep going! I was able to go from zilch to getting my dick wet with about a month's worth of consistent, moderate effort. But behind that month's effort was about 15 years of struggling to improve myself from an overweight, autistic, smelly, neckbeard teenager into a guy that girls actually want to fuck. However, if I could give my dumbass, teenaged self two pieces of advice, they would be:
First, do stupid things faster. Every cringeworthy thing I ever did with girls in the past, I realize in retrospect, was simply a necessary step in overcoming my own anxiety and limiting beliefs. My progress would have been infinitely faster if I'd just embraced the cringe and kept making mistakes until I figured things out.
Second - ask for help, and then shut the fuck up. I struggled *so fucking much* for *years* because I never wanted to admit to anyone that I needed help. Consistently, every time I've shut the fuck up, admitted I couldn't figure this out on my own, and accepted help from people who knew better, my progress has surged. If you're reading this, you're in the right place, you know what to do - so get to work!
If I'd known that shit back then, it sure as hell wouldn't have taken 15 years to get my first real casual lay.
As for what I'm doing now - holy shit I'm tired! NM girl cancelled, so I'm just gonna take the whole day off and chill like a lazy bum. Since I hit my goal a month early, I'm going to coast on this one and take a psuedo-break where I kind of lazily work on other goals, reading books, side projects, and things like that. Right now I have dates lined up every night for a week out where I've explicitly said we're meeting up casually, and have started scheduling coffee dates in the morning out of necessity. If all these girls want to fuck on a regular basis, threesomes will start happening less out of a desire for an awesome good time, and more out of simple scheduling necessities. So I'm going to start being more selective about girls I actually ask on dates, because I already don't have enough time for the ones I've set up. Of course, I'm going to keep hammering in the gym, and will soon largely shift my focus to squaring away my retirement. Then, post-retirement, it's really on. Max my tinder profile, and AA in my future.
Woohoo!
