Going to kind of think out in the open about what I need to do. Might be some rambling and unorganized.
My top priorities right now are
1. Moving out
2. Getting finances in order
3. Getting the Sherriff Deputy job
4. Approaching and getting laid
5. Creating new healthy life habits
First off I'm planning on moving out from home very soon. Hopefully like end of April beginning of May. I got a spot lined up in SF. It's a little bit small, but honestly I think I can make it work and having my own spot will really improve my chances of getting laid. So not really a big deal for me at all. Hopefully I wont have to fight off bums on my front doorstep to get home at night. Its not in the worst neighborhood, but SF is fucked so everywhere sucks lol. Its gunna put some stress on my bank account, but I have a some money saved up and my credit card isn't maxed so that's good. Since I don't know exactly why its going to cost per month in Rent, Groceries, Utilities, and other expenses. I'm going to try and see how much per month I can afford and what I'm going to live off per month.
April I am planning on trying to re-evaluate what my monthly costs are, and cut back on all of the non essential spending. I don't really have too many unnecessary expenses, but I might need to change some things and eliminate some reoccurring costs. I'm going to sell my van and that will reduce the insurance cost per month and get me a little bit more cash. I also have a motorcycle I need to rebuild the engine and also sell. So hopefully I can fix that up and make some money off it as well. If not I may just end up selling it for parts. I'm putting a halt on updating my style for now since I feel like I have a decent baseline for what I wear most days.
Deputy job does not really take much effort on my end, besides working out and filling out paperwork. So hopefully that just solves it self. Currently i passed the initial test phase, Now its on to the Physical test and Oral interview. Both of which are happening at the end of April. Woo hoo. Things are finally moving along on that front
Approaching and getting laid will most likely happen passively. Ill still go out and approach, but I don't think it will be my main focus. Maybe one or 2 days of the week ill go out and approach. Moving out and focusing on that is my main priority since it will help me on the getting laid front.
Healthy life habits include
-Teeth whitening routine
-Better skin care routine. Face wash in morning and at night
-Changing my pillow case at lease 1 time a week to improve skin quality
-Running at lease 3 times per week.
-Lifting weights at lease 4 times per week.
Added habits after edit
-10k steps per day
-10 min morning walk
-intake mirco nutrients better. ie, zinc, iron, calcium, fiber etc.
-Fuckin flossing every night
-consistent bed time. 12pm or 1 am
-consistent wake up time. Hopefully 9am, but would like to start waking up at 8am
Right now I just use a Cetaphil face scrub and moisturizer when showering. I want to start scrubbing my face at night b4 i go to bed as well.
Going to hop back on the couch to 10k program. Idk how this will go when I move into SF. The presidio is decently close so i may just run at Crissy Fields. Which is a giant Bay side grass field where people bike and jog.
My home gym will be a 40 min drive from the city to home, so I'm going to have to see how much in gas its going to cost and how much time its going to take to make the commute. I don't really want to spend money on a gym membership when I've spend close to 1k(with some friends help) on a home gym.
I don't think ill have a problem cooking for myself at home, or spending too much on eating out since I'm a fairly decent cook. Just don't really know how much money groceries are going to cost. May have to stop eating fancy shit and just go back to basics and eat a shit load of low cost proteins and vegetables.
I'm planning on picking up some extra days at work, so hopefully that will help with my situation. Going to talk to my supervisors when I go back to work.
~Edited Section~
Something I realized is that I don't eat breakfast until like 12, but I wake up at 9ish. As a result I end up doing a fully fasted workout, or only coffee and preworkout, which probably attributes to power loss in the gym. Idk if I should like force-feed myself in the morning to get some food in my belly. Maybe the coffee I drink in the morning is causing me not to be hungry? Something that may help is getting out and going on a 10 min walk in the morning to get some sunshine and wake up, instead of relying on caffeine.
I also really wanna get back on learning Japanese, but I don't want it to distract me from my other goals. I can see studying Japanese taking up a hour block of my time as either a good or bad thing in my life. On one hand it could replace time that is already wasted watching YouTube and turn that hour into a productive time. On the other hand could that time be better utilized for other productive things? Since I haven't moved out yet, I don't fully know what my schedule will be like.
Accomplishments Thus Far
Since listing all of the things that I need to do makes it seem like I have a lot more to accomplish, which I do, I want to also list the things that I have accomplished to think back on what I have achieved so far. The list may not be large but every success is one step closer to becoming a giga chad.
-Completed AA program - This by far is the largest success of my journey and has had the most impact on my life. It has given me a new outlook on what I want to do and what I think I can do. Really has rocketed my life in a great direction and I don't know where I'm going to end up, but I have full confidence in my self that its going to either be fun as fuck or somewhere that I will be happy.
-Lost 30 lbs to date - I was 215 at the end of 2020 when I started my self improvement progress and started counting calories. Today I weighed in at 185.3 in the morning. I haven't been this weight since like 2015 or sum shit.
-Kissed a girl - Its been quite a while since I've had any fun with a chick. last time I got laid was probably 1 or 2 years ago. oof. So this is a good step in the right direction
-Working out is very consistent and all the weight I'm pushing are Personal Records. I was working out in 2016 and I was doing well, but my friend slipped a disk while deadlifting and we both quit after that. I'm back to where I was then but even better now.
- Updated my style and looks - This one is huge as well. I always dressed like a dork, but now I've gotten confirmation from some people and girls that I actually look good. My friends have given me compliments, my coworkers have noticed, and I think I look a lot better as well.
-Mega confidence upgrade- I've always had a fuck it kind of attitude, or one where I'm pretty nonchalant about everything. That has changed into something else where I am now extremely confident in my self. I think that I have a strong as fuck mindset where if I dedicate my self to something I will get it done. The AA program has shown me that I can truly dedicate my self to doing something with full commitment and do it till its done.
Improved Work Ethic - I feel guilty when time is being wasted now. I feel the need to fill my day with productive activities. Time is the most precious commodity of our lives, and I spent a lot of it just having fun in my 20s. Now im primed to have a successful and invigorating 30, and I'm honestly excited for the future.
I hear very good things about Texas and San Diego.
