Day & Night Game
“No one loves you when you’re low SMV”
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aLKY2o8XQGM
SAT 28/01/2023
Went to Birmingham to meet a great dude from Andy’s group, K.
K is a great guy, very smart, very pleasant, and I liked him – being around him was a sincere pleasure and that actually means way more to me than anything to do with how it was with the ladies.
K is a guy who has a journey ahead of him, but who will make it if he puts in the work. He’s fricken bright and super hard working, and can be a successful and elite man. He has a lot of weight to lose, I was clear with him, and he will have to learn the inner game of being with women. He’s 37 and is going to push for as long as it takes, and he is determined! Love it man.
Part of me felt so glad he could see me day game. He saw a guy with little to no AA just blast out sets, get into interactions with very pretty women, and he even saw one set where the girl was totally into me, and IMO, she was absolutely gorgeous. If I could get one like that, it’d all be worth it. I have a puncher’s chance, gentlemen, it could happen. No dice the first two years of this, but we have time because I am not yet dead! ;-)
I then felt terrible because we hit the bars and clubs, and IMO, night game is pure hypergamy and all the day game ability goes out the window.
Day game is the equaliser, it’s where a regular man, even a low SMV dude like me who is an outlier of sorts, can get in the arena and have a go.
Night game, is just pure looks IMO. You can’t meet the threshold, it’s ovER! ;-)
I didn’t like that K had to see that, but he needs to know the truth.
This is just the way it is. This is dating. This is woman. This is the sickness of it all.
There are few rewards. There is brutal work. It doesn’t seem to pay off. But then, you get the odd win. They’re mostly dogs. But what if you could get someone worthwhile? That is what keeps you hooked – it’s an endurance game.
DAY GAME
We hung out for a while, and then hit the streets. There were people out, but very very few pretty girls.
Did 1 to warmup basically, she was fucking beautiful. I was shit! But I shook it off and then got into the game.
1 Stopped. Receptive right off the bat. We vibe, and it’s flowing. She crosses her legs, a sign of attraction. Tosses her hair back. This girl was gorgeous, and her whole energy, her whole demeanour, just how she spoke and how she came across, was feminine, sweet, and this interaction just eased the fucking pain for a minute, it really did. I needed it. I don’t know what it is, but interactions like this just make me feel like I am going to be ok. Southing for the soul. She had a bf, but we wished each other well. Funny thing with this one, after I’d approached, K ran over and joined the set, haha. And she was totally cool with it. Angel.
2 Hard deflection
3 Stunning Asian gal. She was really difficult to stop and I had to persist like crazy, push and push, she was actively rushing away but I found her so hot lol. Pushed to exchange, she refused, said she’s getting over a breakup
4 Super hot, in Selfridges lol. She didn’t hook. Pushed, disqualifier, She qualified herself a little. Pushed for exchange, she had a bf. Oh well. She was beautiful, talking to her was fun.
Very hard deflections for a few sets.
Couldn’t find a set for ages! So I just approached a lady who worked in Selridges.
5 She was uncomfortable lol and she kept working, but I rolled with it, pushed for exchange. She had a partner.
Me and K then went for lunch/
We then had one drink at his hotel, just a sip of wine, not even a glass. I was driving!
NIGHT GAME
Some warmup sets as I was rusty, hadnt done night game for months.
1 Hard unreceptive, just refused to interact at all
2 Hard unreceptive, standoffish as fuck
Venue change
3 Totally weird and just stared at me like WTF. Not receptive
4 Not receptive
Venue change
5 Awkward and she was rude, dismissive
Venue change
It’s hours at this point of some super rude, really hostile behaviour. They’re not just unreceptive, they’re genuinely pushing the limits of socially acceptable behaviour. K is approaching too and fuck me I am so happy to see it! LEGEND. I love it when guys have a go.
Venue change again
6 Two very pretty girls, look about 18. This girl actually talked a little! It was hard to get anything going, her friend pretty much aggressively grabbed both of her wrists from the first 10 seconds of the interaction and just wouldn’t allow her to talk to me, but I actually took her by the waist and pulled her towards me, and she kept talking, despite her friend yanking her away the entire time LMAO! Her friend also outright refused to interact with me. I foud this funny. It was going nowhere so I just bounced but I enjoyed talking to her and let he know, she was kinda cool. More on her later...
This set made me feel a lot better and I loosened up and started feeling it.
7 This set also started talking a little, but similarly, her friend ran over, took her by both wrists, an said “let’s go get a drink” and pulled her away. We chatted for about a minute maybe before that happened.
I then went back to girl 6, and chatted again. This time she was a little more open, and I noticed a little something. I think there was a small amount of attraction, and her friend who was hardcore cock blocking was tossing her own hair back.
I’d been getting obliterated at this point, its set after set that is not only not receptive, they’re actively totally rude, disrespectful, like upon seeing her, they kinda swat me away, put their hand in my face, this is just not cool. But this gal talking to me made me feel a lot better about myself. Granted it was, what, 60-90 seconds, but she still gave me the time of day. Which is major for me in the night club environment.
Now I’m in state and feeling good
Venue Change
9 Super unreceptive, she just stared at me with total disgust. I was quite taken aback by this one and just looked at her for a moment in a bit of astonishment. She wouldn’t say anything. I then walked off, and she yelled “DICK”. I could hear real anger in her voice. This one seemed mentally ill?
10 Super hot black girl. I said hi, and she was struggling to hear me. She kinda was akward and a little confused. I pushed, and offered my hand for her to shake it. She didn’t shake it. I asked her if she doesn’t shake hands? She says she does, but this is “random”. She was not vibing, it was goijng nowhere, I just turned around and walked off.
Venue Change
11 Quite hot lady, I approach, and she actually says hi. I get quite physical and pull her in. She backs off and tells me to have a good night. Suspect she isn’t single. Dip.
11 SUPER SUPER RUDE. I walk up to a group of 3 girls, and very warmly introduce myself to one. She screams in my face “NO, NO, NO!”. This was so extreme I had to ask her if she is OK? She told me she saw me over there, going up to a girl. She then tried making fun of me and was honestly gruesome in conduct. I laughed and walked off. This beggared belief but I have done this for a while now, and understand this game better than many. This is just the way it goes for low SMV dudes. Guys who are not mentally strong would be hurt by this. I didn’t give a fuck ;-) I have been through this thousands, thousands of times. I used to be hurt in my early 20s when they would do this, but I kinda just know it’s how it goes.
13 Said hi, she looked totally confused, I was very smilly and super nice, but damn she was absolutely stand offish. I laughed and walked off. I stood there for a bit and she just wouldnt talk!
14 Hard deflection
15 Approach, very warm and nice. She comes over and extremely exaggeratedly says “OMG HEYYYY” in a blatantly dismissive way. I can see she’s taking the piss, and kinda laugh. She waves me off. But I honestly do not care, I just stand there. She runs over to her friend, whispers something in her ear, and she walks over and smacks me on my ass. I look at her and she is pulling a weird expression. This is just friggen laughable at this stage and I genuinely laugh out loud. Walk off.
Me and K do a few more approaches but they’re blowouts and harsh rejections.
We then contemplate a different venue, but decide against it. We instead decide just to talk to the odd girl in the street as it’s super busy at this stage. There are two and K just chats to them about clubs. They’re actually givin him information and behaving in an ordinary way. I join and again, they’re just speaking normally, human to human. They are older women, and that’s cool, it was such a pleasure just to sincerely just not be treated like fucking shit.
We are both so fucking relieved after that. We needed it.
Notes:
All you can do, is DO THE WORK.
LOW SMV MALES, HEAD UP, BE PROUD.
This is how it is.
When I got that one girl in Oxford to talk to me almost 2 years ago, I was stunned, I couldn’t believe it was happening. It took over a year but then I got another gal to actually chat to me in a nightclub, though that was a lot briefer.
The success is just in being a total fucking savage who grinds it out.
Done around 3k nightgame approaches in my life, I’d say 95% of the nights were just like this. This night has repeated, no shit, for 12 years.
Nothing I could do was able to make it better. All I could do was this, and sometimes, somehow run into a chick who’d be willing to chat! After 1 year in London, and many nights, there was ONE gal, on one night, who was willing to chat for a bit – she actually made out with me too.
In Budapest, I did get one conversation going, but that was mega platonic. She follows me on IG and views all my stories, this tiny gal who was very positive and I could tell, one of life’s good souls. I still remember her – people like her matter a lot.
Krakow, was fucking diabolical. Night Game was brutal. As above.
“Why do women treat you lke this, MAC?”
Attractiveness is the foundation of all this shit.
Physically unattractive dudes just are not able to make this work. It doesn’t hit, and essentially, doesn’t work. “Working” here is understood as applying a systematic approach to actually building up your dating life. IMO, it’s not like that. You don’t get that opportunity. Rather, you get a bitter grind and brutal time drain, for women who you will not feel attraction for. You just kinda have to accept them. That or nothing. You’re not promised a rose garden. Sorry. I really am.
We know this and yeah it ain’t ideal, BUT, with sickening levels of grinding, going again and again and again until you can find one human being in how ever many thousand who will give you a shot, you can have some fairly positive experiences sometimes. Without the underlying attractiveness there, women won’t invest, won’t be open to building anything, and essentially just ghost/dip, and do treat you like a scrub. If you’re low SMV and don’t like that, the sex doll industry is looking to really grow in the coming years and I hear they’re pretty realistic now.
The first few seconds tell you everything.
You stop. You’re presenting in a positive, kind, open manner, bringing good energy.
If she is hard, hard unreceptive, there just isn’t much you can do.
You just go onto the next. Then onto the next. And onto the next.
Day Game isn’t so bad. They actually like being approached by guys who can do it well.
Night Game – GAME OVER.
Night Game is hypergamy on steroids, and unless there is something inside of her that means she is inherently attracted to you, in particular, your achetype – it’s over.
Why do you think I just am not able to get past hello?
You got it. ;-)
It’s why I seldom go to clubs, and would never tell others who’re low SMV to. ~3,000 night game approaches, 95% of which were just like this night.
You put in the reps, and do it for YEARS, and you know where you stand.
I’m over it, man. I know I can just grind. Long term, I am NOT going to go to clubs. They’re retardation. Pure and simple. If it NEVER works, and you continue, you’re just punishing yourself.
ARCHETYPE, RECEPTIVITY, HYPERGAMY, SMV: YOU GET YOUR MARKET SHARE. THAT IS ALL.
Screening Mindset.
The lady who chatted to me in day game, actually felt some modicum of attraction for me. The signs were there, she crossed her legs She showed me her tattoo, which was on her neck, a vulnerable part of her body, and she tilted her lovely neck, parted her hair, and let me stroke it. Things is a wonderful human exchange between two people who just shared space and want the best for each other. She had a boyfriend, but if she was single, how great would that have been?
She was very pretty. I have been on one date with a pretty girl in my life. That was lay #2 and I actually slept with her, lol. I would say she was the only gal I ever felt true attraction for, apart from L (RIP/Blocked).
The stars do have to align.
My archetype’s market share is small.
After 2 years of this process, I’ve gathered sufficient data to see this.
This is sufficient justifcation for monk mode and totally rebuilding my product.
I didn’t want to accept this for the longest time, but as the 2 year mark is coming, unless the Universe throws me a bone and there is some sign that I can get something worthwhile in my current state, I am going to monk mode for a while and just forget this for a while.
5 DAY EXPERIMENT: BRISTOL – TIME FOR TOTAL MONK MODE?
Back into a new week, and time to work and apply myself.
That is what must be done.
That is the only way a guy who does not fit the mould can have a go at making it man. I have seen nothing else in 12 years of this shit that can help Low SMV males.
I am now going to Bristol for 1 week. This will be a sprint week, where I’ll approach, push hard, and try to do 150 sets across day and night game.
I’ll do this Mon-Fri.
If I truly cannot get MEANINGFUL TRACTION. That is, some MEANINGFUL EXCHANGE, so a number or something, it’s time for total monk mode.
It’s time to cancel the subcriptions, remove the apps.
Clamp down and make money. 12Hrs daily.
Leave the UK.
Re-build my entire image.
New style. New profiles.
Completely re-engineer it all. Evolution.
THE MARKET DECIDES
Have pipelined for 3 weeks – 500 profiles liked a day on hinge, 2-3 tinder boosts a week, did 1 or 2 hinge boosts too.
0 dates confirmed. And now trip starts tomorrow.
I did get 6 numbers. The dynamics were just weird. On the apps, they would reply typically one every 3-5 days. The same continued on whatsapp. They just do not engage, and 2 simply never responded post after their initial text.
“If she wanted to, she would”
If they’re treating you like a scrub.
If you’re putting in a tonne of effort to get leads and going nowhere.
If you just CANNOT get traction.
And if you’ve truly done the work.
Then sometimes it’s time to face the music. Why would anything change?
If I cannot get any traction at all in the next 5 days – I am going full monk. Doneso.
Again, remember I have done this for soooooooooooooo long.
I know what the “problem” is. And there is legit 0 I can do about it.
The options that remain are:
1) Travel
2) Get jacked
If these also do not work, guess what?
I’ll have travelled. And I’ll be jacked.
….I’ll then just buy a dog and be done with it. We’ll have a blast! ;-)
Taking doggo name reccs!
BACK TO WORK,
MAC