Holden
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- Joined
- Apr 18, 2021
People make fun of the green lines meme but honestly looking at that pic tells you a lot about the dynamics between the two of you. Humans are hardwired to instantly sniff out social hierarchies in any given environment and act accordingly. You're leaning in a lot, she's pulling away.
It's easy to think such details don't matter but my own skeptical ass tried the Mystery Method technique of never talking to girls in a bar when she is with her back against the wall, with myself standing right before her. Rather it should be the opposite: your back against the wall, her facing you. It looks like she's picking you up instead of vice versa.
Point is, such little cues do matter and they do paint a picture.
You still pedestalize women a lot, their reactions determine if you feel amazing or depressed, and you give more power than they deserve because you keep thinking "she won't like me anyway."
You need to develop the mindset and irrational self-confidence that everything a woman does is because she's attracted to you.
Doesn't reply right away? She must be shy.
Doesn't laugh at your jokes? She's insecure about her laugh.
She doesn't want to fuck on the first date? She doesn't want to look like a slut for me.
This will only come with more experience. You've been on 160 dates. I've been on 200+. I don't keep count but it's an extrapolation based on my lay count. Point is, even though you've been at it for a long time, as far as the big picture goes, you're still a newbie.
It's easy to think such details don't matter but my own skeptical ass tried the Mystery Method technique of never talking to girls in a bar when she is with her back against the wall, with myself standing right before her. Rather it should be the opposite: your back against the wall, her facing you. It looks like she's picking you up instead of vice versa.
Point is, such little cues do matter and they do paint a picture.
You still pedestalize women a lot, their reactions determine if you feel amazing or depressed, and you give more power than they deserve because you keep thinking "she won't like me anyway."
You need to develop the mindset and irrational self-confidence that everything a woman does is because she's attracted to you.
Doesn't reply right away? She must be shy.
Doesn't laugh at your jokes? She's insecure about her laugh.
She doesn't want to fuck on the first date? She doesn't want to look like a slut for me.
This will only come with more experience. You've been on 160 dates. I've been on 200+. I don't keep count but it's an extrapolation based on my lay count. Point is, even though you've been at it for a long time, as far as the big picture goes, you're still a newbie.