DEBRIEF W/ THE DOM
This morning, got up, did my myofunctional work (mewwing), core work, drank coffee with The Dom and chatted. Timmy asked what we’re up to, Paw wasn’t up, Dom getting his beard trimmed, and me doing core work. T went off to do some tourist activity with folks from the hostel.
Paw gets up, him and The Dom are chatting.
I finish core work and go over to chill with the bros for a bit.
I then raise the question of feedback. So, The Dom had a date with a gal I went on a date with. She didn’t like me, and his date with her went well (closed). He probed her a little and got feedback, but also, as he does know me, was able to make the judgement that it does in fact check out.
So anyway, we’re just hanging out, chilling. We’re talking about Paw’s spine actually, lol, and I pop a question.
MAC: Hey man, let’s talk feedback. How about you give me the feedback that P gave you about our date?”
The Dom: OK, Ravi, we can do that, but it might be good if that’s something we do 1-1, it might be something we do in privacy which you may not want Paw standing right there for.
MAC: No, I am OK with it, we can do it here and now.
For me, success is a team sport, you find your tribe, you win together. Paw already knows so much about me, The Dom already knows so much about me, they’re both men I respect, my friends and part of the G crew, we push forward and fuck anybodies reservations.
Same applies to YOU – if you read this log, you must understand that success is the only option. No one wants it more badly than me. No one will sacrifice more. You are witnessing a man on a mission. My day in the sun will come. My golden era will come.
The Dom: So, Ravi, take a seat.
I know this is going to be a bit of a gut punch.
The Dom: So, her feedback, and having spent a lot of time with you, I think it’s accurate, was that you’re too heavy. You’re too logical, too dry, and honestly, she said she didn’t have a good time. She was bored, she said she just tagged along with you because you were a nice guy. Yeah, you are a nice guy, and I’m not telling you to be a son of a bitch, but it’s your vibe that is a problem in this game, man.
I pause for a moment.
The Dom: We’ve had many conversations, and we communicate man to man, and that’s good. I have time for a man who is consistent and truthful, and when he says he is going to do something, it gets done, no excuses. To be honest, this is the one of the things I respect most in men. That is a sign of someone I am willing to invest in. Why would I invest in a man who is not absolutely truthful with his word? That is a waste of time for me.
I thanked him for his praise, but as ever in life, with a teaspoon of sugar, comes the medicine. And the medicine is a bitter one today.
The Dom: Ravi, the journey you have ahead is going to be the most challenging of this entire process, man. I will tell you the truth about your situation: you have a mountain to climb, man. And the only person who can climb it is you. We can work on this together, and when I say we, I mean all of us. I am happy to listen to your audios and help you with technique, brother, of course. But the work that will get YOU personally ahead in this game isn’t about technique, isn’t about getting very good at the stop, and isn’t about gimmicks. It’s about your vibe, man. That’s game.
Your execution and technique will improve, and I want you to keep pushing and working. Do 600 more cold approaches, of course. But Ravi, once you’ve mastered the stop, once you’ve squared up, once your posture is where it needs to be and your holding laser eye-contact, thereafter, you will need vibe. It is vibe that will unlock this game for you, and it is the dragon you will have to slay.
Ravi, women do not respond to logic or to reason. Women respond to RAW MASCULINITY. Your tendencies when you talk to us are very telling – your tonality, your expressions, your thought process, it is a super power when it comes to work, but you convey no emotion, your energy is always stable, and there is no peak, no low, just flat-line.
When you are logical with a woman, it’s like you have lured Count Dracula out of his den. The light has pierced, and the moment it touches skin, it eviscerates. It is absolutely repellent, man. Women do not like in the world of logic and reason. They live in the world of emotions.
Guys like you make the world go round. But strong men, with true masculinity, built this world. And that is what women respond to. They do now, they will tomorrow, and they will until the end of time. It’s how they’re built.
MAC: I understand, and have a concept for what you’re outlining. But, these traits of focus, consistency, and also reliability, being solid and professional, are also the reason why many men like me, and I have usually had a lot of friends and connected with men easily.
The Dom: Sure, and I can see why. Man to man, your tendencies are great, for the man’s world of work. Man has to work, that is true. But Ravi, what I am talking about is attraction, and this is far removed from the world of work. This will involve you doing a lot of work on yourself, peeling away layers of your personality, and going deep. You may need to find a psychologist or hypnotherapist, and have them help you pull this out. I will be honest with you, when I did this myself, a lot of emotions that were trapped came up, and there were times I cried, man. It is hard, and it is going to be the hardest thing you will ever do in this game. But this is what will allow you to succeed. There is nothing else that is as important in this game for you. I want you to focus on this, and find a way to make it work.
So, let’s do something for a moment Ravi. You will have to destroy yourself entirely, Ravi. You will have to break yourself down, absolutely and entirely, and build yourself up again. Think about that. Really think about it. How does it make you feel? Pause on it. How do you feel right now?
MAC: Honestly, I feel anger. I feel a sense of injustice, that a man has to completely re-engineer himself to connect with woman. A man has to totally destroy himself and build himself again, climb mount Everest, and woman can simply exist. That angers me.
The Dom talked about the differences between man and woman, the different roles we play in the world, and how when a man works EXTREMELY HARD, he can totally, and he meant totally, transform his destiny. Women only win in the SMP. Outside of that, unless they’re 7s and 8s, they aren’t winning. Being born as a 5 as a woman is a tough card to have been dealt. Their options are limited, and often culminate in resentment, anger, cat ownership and feminism. The Dom emphasised that it is actually a gift to be a man, because if we truly, truly grind, and do so effectively, strategically, we have a shot at greatness, and a great experience of life.
The Dom: See, follow those emotions Ravi. How does it make you FEEL?
MAC: To be honest, I feel a bit of rage-
The Dom: But WHERE do you feel it? Where is the sensation? Where do you feel the rage?
MAC: …..I am processing it, I am thinking about it
The Dom: SEE?
A smile stretched across his face.
The Dom: Ravi, you have emotional blocks. Your expression, your tone, your entire being hasn’t changed at all. Do you think this is how a person experiences the emotion of rage? THIS IS RAGE
He slams his fists into the table and is palpably enraged, like Emporer Augustus when Varus was ambushed in the Teutoburg Forrest, when the impossible happened, the invincible Roman legion lay massacred, the betrayal of Arminius. Empires fall from within.
The Dom: This entire week, your communication, your energies, were logical. You can fuck around sometimes, sure. But you will need to learn how to be man to woman, and to convey emotion and stimulate attraction. When you are logical with a woman, there is nothing stimulated in her. I listened to your date when you kicked the girl out the other day. You are too diplomatic. And diplomatic is good for society, but it is not good for this. Why do the Disney films do so well? There is a reason. They have utterly nailed the male – female archetype. Beauty and The Beast, Jasmin and Aladin the street vagabond. Why is woman’s porn erotic literature? They need to FEEL, Ravi.
The work for you will be about bringing up your emotions that you have repressed and sent underneath.
If you do that, you will climb this mountain. But I do not want you wasting your time doing another 1000 approaches and still being a diplomatic nice guy. If you nail your vibe, when we do our trips next year, you will be a completely different animal, dude. But this is one mountain you are going to have to climb yourself. So get ready to peel yourself down.
Paw agreed, and we all chatted for a while.
FINAL THOUGHTS
-The Dom outlined that this is actually what game is. Game is 80% vibe. Attraction is emotions. Game is not logic, reason, diplomacy. Game is about letting the beast out, becoming a masculine man, allowing your wild nature to come to the fore. Killing the beta, the nice guy, but getting out of your own way and connecting with your own masculine essence and emotions. Robots need not apply. This is not for such men. This is for men who can feel, and convey their feelings to woman, and hence stimulate them and create intimacy and sex.
-Why do you think Patrice O’Neal got so much pussy? He’s big, he’s fat, but he has a million dollar mouthpiece. Every time he opens his mouth, emotions, colour, texture, hues, and feelings came out. You don’t even need to be watching his standup, we can listen to an audio of a joke and it will paint such a colourful picture he doesn’t even need visuals. That’s game.
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MAC THOUGHTS:
I am sharing this with you, and when I do my project report for The Phoenix Project (.pdf to come), I will consolidate all of this, because the only way I can become one of the best guys on planet fucking earth is if I take my journey dead, dead ass serious.
Feedback can be harsh.
But if you DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT, you can unlock levels.
I will make this work.
Believe me, I will.
KEEP HAMMERING,
MAC