SUP BROTHERS!
To clarify, I am legit not joking, I got the exact same text from every girl post-date, apart from a few girls who completely ghosted altogether.
It kept happening, like none of them really wanted to know me, and then with Danish girl, I thought this could help build me up and get some experience. Show me there will be a girl one day who will be interested. We fucked a few times, like on 3 diff occasions, then she ghosted for 2 weeks, and sent the exact same text!
Went on 2 dates after that, they just totally ghosted.
And then had a bit of a gap, then went on a cold approach date. and she actually hasn't ghosted yet, which is great.
Then there was date #16 yesterday. She was nice and receptive, then sent the same text about this isn't going anywhere.
At that point, I was pissed. Like I woke up today feeling so good, then boom, she's not interested. That triggered me and I was pissed, but it was WAY WAY weaker than it used to be. It was not so powerful, it was actually kinda easy to work through.
Just hammered forward, and JUST WENT ON 2 MORE DATES AND MADE OUT WITH BOTH OF THEM! MADE OUT WITH 3 GIRLS THIS WEEK.
Previously, on dates, I would NEVER go for the kiss. I am now able to do that, get that, and it's GREAT.
Writeup to come. We'll figure it out.
Rags2Bitches I will legit record my next date, very happy to. Also thanks for the reassurance brother, truly, this means a lot. it has FUCKED with my head getting that text almost every time, as you know I have always been that invisible dude so it often brings forward this idea that I am not right and somehow my creator made a mistake with me and left something out of it. This is one of the most painful thoughts and sensations you can experience, I assure you, I am not joking around - it is a feeling that can truly wound. But I am just going off SHEER FAITH that one day, if I just keep working my fucking ass off, one day I will be better. I am thinking of booking all of July off work to hammer hard, and then go to get a hair transplant in August. It will improve my looks a lot. I will research this A LOT as I know if I don't, Crisis will come down from Mount Olympus and throw me into the river Styx. But more / better hair and more muscle / less fat, as well as mewing and posture work, will get my looks about as good as I can get them man. I am also open to a tattoo. That'll be all I will be willing to do. I can't do surgery and shit. If that is the only option left, I will reinvent myself and create a different vision for my life.
Man, these were good dates. They were very nice and receptive. If these also ghost or send me that text tomorrow, I am going to have a field day. Because these girls were legit actively expressing they wanted to see me again. It would defy logic. And I am sorry but they were not blessed in the looks department to put it charitably, I ain't much, but even I know I can do better.
BTW, these two today, they were very cool and nice girls, and they both expressed they liked me and want to see me. Transparency: both were not the bel of the ball, lookswise they're perhaps a bit below average, but fuck me were there beautiful humans. Legit LOVED these days. These girls were WAY better than the girl yesterday. Date #16 was prettier than these, I mean, she was not pretty by any stretch (sorry just being honest, why should I lie) but she was quite expressive and decent. She did talk about how men are toxic and how Trump and Putin demonstrate why men shouldn't have power and if women were in charge the world would be a better place. I just nodded and agreed. She has no idea of the literature on female leadership and female group dynamics, women actually have a very developed body of research on their group dynamics and they bully and scandalise and damage the reputations of other women to a degree which is legit almost evil. And their are many case studies of women in power, with no overall improvement in stability of systems. Human nature will remain what it is. And btw, the modern male is a product of female's selection preferences. I will maintain that the human MALE is a special creature and is the most dominant creature that has ever, ever existed on this earth. Why? Because we are the most adaptable organism God ever created, and because of that, we will always outlast, outcompete, outwork, outperform, out manoeuvre them all. That is why we survive. And why we will continue to thrive.
Some men's spaces are toxic AF, like Lord Voldermorts group chat, groups echo the level of energy of the leader, and if the leader is a psychopath, the members will go in that direction.
Our tribe is supportive, united, and we move each other forward, even if we're at different levels, we can ALL push each other no matter what our position and outcomes
Writeup to come
Manganiello thanks for your thoughts here they really really helped. But I am not nervous on dates, like at all, I am confident as FUCK on dates and totally in control, in the zone, and can easily and adeptly move the convo around. I am quite savvy and astute and also a good communicator. Those I've hung out from here can attest (my housemate is a KYIL member, I've hung out with Radical, and will hang out with many more). I think it is actually really about those probing questions and physical escalation, shit like that. I am tired now after hammering all day bit I will write i up and then go to bed.
Crisis_Overcomer you are so right man, fuck. I must prioritise cold approach. I feel like dating apps create a weird dynamic, the girls have FIFTHY THOUSAND MESSAGES, unless you're their perfect man, why would they even care? What do you matter? Danish girl told me some crazy shit man abou girls experiences, she was 70lbs overweight but legit got hit on daily, multiple times a day, and it did make her think she was absolutely beautful and she would make remarks about it. She was a beautiful human being, trust me, I liked her tonnes, but damn dude, I knew that just being a guy from the apps puts me in there with these loser cunts who are simping over an obese chick. Madness.
I know I will need to get cold approach down. I will be out there tomorrow bro hammering like a mofo. It is actually so good for you as a man. it is truly a great development tool, I must admit, I can see myself loving it one day. Thanks as ever Crisis.
All of you have been amazing so thanks for this discussion it has helped a lot.
Will write up the dates now and go to bed.
MAC
