THE PHOENIX PROJECT WEEK 16
JACK HAMMERING!!!!!!!
Got up, visualisations, sunrise, accountability call was postponed today due to Andys coaching call last night meaning us in Europe go to bed at 2am LOL. I didn't do the call, I do it once a month, or twice if I need a lot of help, but my accountability partner did.
Breakfast. Dermapen.
Work, remotely.
GYM! Hammer like fuck. The day after fasting gym is hard and you can get lightheaded. Still worked like a demon. Killed it.
My fucking NUTS were throbbing with testosterone after gym walking down the road and everybody getting the fuck outta my way LOL
My mentor Dr Marcus taught me about Wolfs Law in the body, and how when you lift HARD, and really get aggressive, the body thinks you need to fight an animal and it signals to the system to upregulate testosterone. Lifting is mission critical for motivation and health. Truly. And you have to have hard lifting, like shit that sucks.
nipple-flip soon I will hit the 1rm of our challenge bro. Hope ur good and working hard. Come back and post when you are ready. No judgement. We're here to work when you are ready to get back.
Work lingers on, I go to cold approach. I have an hour and a half.
CA
1 - she is smiley and says she's really good as she is walking away lol. Pretty thing.
2 - ignored
3 - shes in a rush
0/3 cuck volume day
But I am still doing them bros.
Remember the fucking 3 weeks I couldn't do one approach? I will get there. Believe me, I will get there. We always find a way.
Come back. Order takeout to save me time. Local Armenian place is delicious and healthy.
Eat. Shower. Light therapy. ON TO DATE 21!
For this date, I apply the feedback from my trusted advisors, who listened to my audio. I thank EVERYONE WHO LISTENED TO THE AUDIO AND HELPED ME:
Radical
Rags2Bitches
pancakemouse
Paw
Jacobpalmer123
These guys went above and beyond to help me and I am beyond grateful. They know I am fighting for my life here to turn my life around. I am so grateful to be able to learn from you men. I will succeed and we will all become legendary together.
OK, so DATE 21
She's 29, works in human rights. She's a lovely human. Really. Quite pretty, interesting, smart. Decent body. A great gal.
But the task is to FORGE CONNECTION.
We know my sticking point. My dates don't create any spark or connection,
I was so depressed yesterday I had no fucking clue what to do.
My close advisors and the community stepped in and gave me fucking outstanding insight.
I will write it all up, these guys wrote me essays its insane. When you go ALL IN and just close off all other options apart from success, it is insane how other men help you. The power of masculinity. When you are truly killing yourself to become successful in this world, trust me, other men who are ahead of you give you a hand up. I have seen it time and time again. It's amazing to watch.
The focus for my date tonight is to create TENSION and CONNECTION.
Dating strategy has been overhauled and we will keep tweaking it
-Playful teasing & jovial disagreement
-Touching
-Seductive eye contact (just moments)
-Talk WAY less: 20/80 split of me talking vs her
I understood the advice and applied it tonight.
Meet her, she texts saying shes late. I tell her I will let her off this once ;-)
She arrives 20 mins late, but she let me know well in advance, so I time it. The pub is down the road from me. Get in, choose a spot where I can be near her, and wait for her.
She arrives. Hug, kiss, tell her she looks good. Sit down.
Body posture is very open, legs apart, arms on the bench, lol. Just IDGAF energy.
I'm speaking slowly, focusing on creating tension. She hears me say once sentence, and she throws her hair back, brushes it. I remember from the PUA says this was considered a 'strong' IOI and the video that pancakemouse sent me featured a girl doing this to the instructor.
We talk. I listen. The strategy was as follows, as outlined by Andy on my post in the private coaching group:
-Ask her about herself: "Tell me about you"
-What are your goals?
-Weirdest dating experience?
-After 1hr ask her to come to yours
I gave it a go.
I disagreed with her, and I was shocked. Her eyes lit up. WTF.
At that point, I realised, there is a lot to this shit I never even began to consider.
It makes little sense, but the times I disagreed with her, she then began to justify herself.
At times I was really taking the piss. On her weirdest dating experience, she went on 5 dates with a dude who was married. I pointed to my ring and said yeah I'm married, my wife is a beautiful latina I met in Miami, she replied "yeah well I've got a husband" and I replied "that's great" and she asked me a bunch of questions after that about travel, my fave places, etc.
I then asked her about her weirdest dating experience and she said "Sure but before that part can I buy you a drink"
So look, I at least did better than before. I tell her I think shes sexy and also interesting. She gives me a smouldering look.
Anyway, I ask her to come to my place. She says she has to go to a dinner at 830, but she has 14 more minutes before then. She definitely wants to talk. We keep talking. I then go for the kiss. She sits there closed lipped and its like what. She then says "Ok I've gotta go" and we walk out.
We keep talking as we leave. She is smiley and nice. I tell her it was nice meeting her,
Radical mentioned going for the kiss on the first date can hurt you. I think he's right man.
Tomorrow night, I am not going for the kiss. The girl has a conference the next day and I am also not going to go for the pull. She legit has a conference she won't be DTF.
I just want one girl to go on a 2nd date with me that's all.
PROGRESS BOYOS
OK bros, thank YOU ALL FOR THE FEEDBACK
Radical Rags2Bitches Thebastard Paw pancakemouse Jacobpalmer123 and of course Andy
WED
09/03/2022
ACTIONS
(1) Dating: CA 2hrs 10 Approaches / Old Process (DONE, went 0/3 on the approaches cuck volume)
(2) Body: Gym / Core / Stretch (DONE apart from stretching)
(3) Content: 2 TiKToks / 2 YouTube (FAIL, did 1 TikTok)
Hammered hard man. 1030 now.
Did my best.
I WILL get dating down like I got other things down.
Date 21 tomorrow. Few more scheduled.
Pancakemouse said something interesting. He said guys can also improve if they really analyse themselves and fine tune. There is a week this month where I will be in the office all week. That means no cold approaches that week! But I will push for dates and I have one scheduled back home in advance lol. In that week, I will compile a reading list on how I can become adept at dates and really go through the notes from Rags2Bitches pancakemouse and others such as Paw who provided excellent notes and tremendous insight that was aligned with the titans Rags2Bitches and Pancakemouse. Paw is a bro from the coaching group BTW and will be a legend in this life trust me.
I was also given some reading from my bro in the group, on non-neediness. He linked me to a Mark Manson article.
That aforementioned week will be meticulous study, reading articles, watching videos of advanced guys on dates, getting feedback and getting this shit taken to the next level.
KEEP HAMMERING,
MAC