Got fired at my sales job. Goal was selling 4 cars but I only sold one and made few appointments.
To be honest, getting fired is a MOTHERFUCKER, even if you worked only for 1 month. It feels like a punch in a stomach, to know that you don't hold up to a standard, that you failed, that you lost, that didn't accomplish the goal.
Did I work hard? Yes. Could I've worked harder? Yes. Did I do things most people my age aren't willing to do? Yes
is it enough? No. Numbers are numbers and don't lie. I could have prospected more and better (more pushy, and with better energy). No one cares how you feel, no one cares about "your journey". Only thing that matters is results
The thing is, I've been falling behind deadlines and failing all my life but nobody punished me for it. We live in the "You are ok I'm ok" era, where nothing gets measured (and nothing gets accomplished).
It's the first time I've been held accountable like this. The truth hurts but makes you grow. A kick in the nuts is what you need sometimes... if you don't actually 'feel' the consequences of your mistakes you don't make the necessary adjustments. That's how the brain works...
I think this is a positive learning experience. I did so many things outside my comfort zone. I've done probably about 300 cold prospecting approaches + a few hundred cold calls as well. 1 month ago cold prospecting seemed so "outside my comfort zone". But it's easy man... just pick up the phone and call!!
I also made the most money of my life ($500) and the excitment of my first sale is unforgettable. Doesn't sound like a lot but it's a lot of money for someone my age where I live.
-My main takeaways are: the business world is war. It's a parallalel world apart from the "civil" world and moves at a different pace. Everything is super FAST.
-Money talks and bullshit walks. Money exchanging hands is the only thing that matters. Everything that doesn't lead to that outcome is redundant and should be cut away.
-The more I step into the real world, the more I see how much of a joke university is. I'm glad I had the balls to drop out.
-You need to learn to fucking communicate with your teammates and specially your boss. If you're shy and don't communicate your difficulties, things are gonna get worse. Speak up before it's too late.
-It's cool to be social at work, but your goal isn't to make friends. Nobody gives a fuck about you, and neither should you care about them. You don't get extra points for being nice. Be a professional, not a people pleaser.
-Your friends and family (and average people in general) don't want you to succeed at this. I've lost count how many people told me that this isn't a good job, that I should get a degree, that I should do "something related to computers". Lol, people dont even know what fuck they are talking about, they think coding is some kind of magic and you get a high paying job just for doing some 6 month course.
So many people told me that you can't be succesful in Argentina, that I need to go to "the first world". In a way they're right, but at the same time they aren't. There are a ton of succesful start ups and businesses in Argentina, so don't come with that bullshit (it's the same bs people use to dissuade you from selling them "oh the economic situation is so tough man... bullshit! Those same people will buy from salesmen that sell them better).
What do they think is gonna happen if they go to Miami? Do they think someone is going to hand them success on a silver platter? No, when you go to the first world you probably realize people work twice as hard there. No siesta, no familia, no nada
When I told my dad about this he said it could be a 'good thing so I can better plan my future'. I said, 'You are thinking that this an opportunity for me to get into coding right?' 'Yes!'.... I facepalmed internally. This is when you realize that nobody is actually rooting for you. Even if they are supportive, they are rooting for a caricature version of you that they have made in their heads ages ago, that you won't be able to change anytime soon.
But it's what it's. Stop expecting so much from other people and instead rely on yourself... be your #1 fan.
The thing that hurts me the most is people thinking sales or entrepreneurship isn't for me, that I should do something more 'cultured' or 'intellectual'. It's like, I've put myself into this 'introvert' box and everyone around me has made up their mind thay this is how I should be for the rest of my life. I'm not 'allowed' to be extroverted and money focused. But again, you suffer because of your expectations.
Realize no one really gives a fuck about you, not even your parents. Accept that you're just as solipsistic as other people and just run with what you want.
Another way your loved ones sabotage you is by telling you it's OK to fail, that you shouldn't be so hard on yourself. More bullshit. You do need to STRESS the fuck out if you aren't meeting deadlines. And perform accordingly. You need to get used to pressure and responsability.
-I've learned so much about my boss and my coworkers. I've never seen high performance people so close. Now that I think about it, this was a paid learning experience and I should be grateful about it.
My plan know is getting a customer service job for a couple of months. I need a simpler job, with more outside control.
Facing myself honestly, I'm not yet at a stage where I can be effective with a flexible time schedule. I'm not yet proactive and self disciplined enough.
I want to start my own business but I need to hammer "work" fundamentals first: punctuality, focus, quick task learning, attention to detail, scheduling/blocking my time, cleanliness, comunication, people skills.
I've bought Fox Web Academy membership at a HUGE discount (95/month from 900/month) so I'm aiming go full into business and earn 2000/month by the end of the year in a web design agency. This sales experience is going to help me hugely.
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Women
My coach Gaston was bluntly honest about two things:
-I'm whining too much and approaching very low volume. He told me to approach 10 a day. I could barely get 7 done. Then he gave me an ultimatum... 15 every day for one week or the coaching is over. I did 15 for 3 days in a row. Now I did 20. I'm getting better at approaching older women, approaching in difficult scenarios, etc.
Keep in mind I live in a 150k people town. In a big city I would be able to approach 100-200 no doubt
-My energy is shit. I lack expressiveness, I look apathetic I need to be more fun and energetic. His analogy is that seduction techniques are like a "filter" but first I need a potent lantern so those filters can actually shed some light. That lantern is your 'energy'. It's body language, but at the same there's more to it, it's about your general attitude, how you carry yourself, how you express yourself. So my homework is to watch a movie, select an alpha male character and study and imitate him.
I think I'm coming to an understanding about how simple seduction actually is, but at the same time if you don't have the fundamentals in place it becomes literally impossible. It's really black and white.
Fundamentals arent "looks style social freedom" lol. Maybe they are for online dating, but not for in person approaches.
Fundamentals are FRAME, ENERGY and TECHNIQUE.
Frame=core beliefs. I'm cool, I'm the shit, I'm a 10/10. Game is normal, natural. Be yourself, speak with no filter. Have boundaries, stand up for yourself.
Energy= try your best to be in a good state. Happy, social, active, enthusiastic and fun mood. All of that transpires into good body language and is contagious to other people. It makes everything else easier. But good frame is a requirement.
Technique: learning how to solve objections, how to close, understand compliance momentum, how to lead the interaction, how to isolate, how to deal with friends, how to handle logistical problems, etc. Frame and energy are a requirement for technique to be effective.
But the thing that puts everything together is MASSIVE ACTION. We can all agree about that.
Everyone is repeating the same thing nowadays: ACTION IS THE SECRET OF THE UNIVERSE. It's all about PAIN ENDURANCE. If you check Owen latest content he's literally "just go out bro. This is so fucking easy. Just have fun. Bust your ass and you'll learn. We've made seduction too complicated". It's funny how it all circles back to the basics.
All of this shit is instinctive. You know how to sell, how to win, how to be seductive and persuasive. You need to get out of your own way!!
Just fucking do it. Just do the drill.
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So in my second day of approaching 15 girls daily I approach this chick sitting waiting for the bus. At first she was like "I dont know who you are". I was somehow able to create comfort.
Got her number. Messaged her, tried to set up a date, she gave some basic objections, like she not having money for beer or a taxi but I solved them.
If I learned something in sales, it's that TODAY IS THE MOMENT. IT'S NOW OR NEVER.
So I threw in there some scarcity bullshit "I'm travelling this weekend" and it worked.
We went out to a bar. She was gorgeous! I've never been with a girl this hot. Very cute face, nice ass, slim body. (She was an 8/10, my previous one was a 7.5 I would say now..). She was 18... and she was so cute and feminine and submissive. And seemed emotionally healthier than other chicks I've been with. It's nice to see this progression of getting hotter and hotter chicks.
So we finished our drinks after a 15min talk. I easily escalate on her, no resistance. The girls from the bar staff were closely watching
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So we go out and we head to my car I tell her I'm gonna take home...
of course I smashed her in the car.
Many people were passing by but conviently our sweat condensed into the glass so the outside was invisible.
I fucked her raw but didn't come. She didn't have any complain, I asked if she was on the pill (she was) and said fuck it.
If anything happens, I'll use it as a motivation to make more money.
It was so good. There was good chemistry and she was so horny. I don't know what I did well but she was really into me. I mean she said my dick is so big but I know I don't have a big dick, she was trying to please me.
Although it's the second time I hear that so it might be true. After a while I was tired and wanted to go home, so I took her home
By the way, this lay was made possible by learning how to drive (which was my goal a couple of months ago)
If I see her again I'll try to take a creep pics
So this is my proper 2nd cold approach lay. It would be my 4th if I were able to stick it inside the past two times.
I've made about 700 approaches so 4/700 isnt that bad.
There's so much room for improvement though.
So far I've been coasting on good looks+conveniently approaching a niche market that favors my archetype. I'm a white guy and I'm lucky with darker skinned chicks from a lower socioeconomic background. I think that plays a role.
But my results should improve with better energy and technique (I think I've the frame down lately).
Now that I'm making money I can finally take good pictures for social media and dating apps.
I'm so happy this shit is finally working out.
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