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- Jun 5, 2020
Spider Jerusalem said:Day 49: 29/11/2021
I wasn't going to write this post, but it's been a really bad day today and I could really do with some support.
The girl I spent the night with the other night has abruptly told me she regrets the whole thing and doesn't want anything to do with me.
She said she felt it was too soon and although she wanted to at the time, now regrets it.
I've been pretty down all day. I keep thinking I'm a Fucking monster that pushed someone into doing something they didn't want to do, even though we'd planned it 2 weeks in advance and I told her there was no pressure and I was happy to wait until she was ready.
We'd been dating over a month and she was all up for it and everything was consensual - I kept checking with her if she was okay and wanted to continue. The things she specifically said she didn't want to do, we didn't do.
We even cuddled after, talked a lot and laughed and joked and then had breakfast the next morning. Next thing I know, she just did a complete 180 on me.
Although I kept ensuring she was okay and wanted to continue and I know it was consensual, I still feel like a horrible human being. I've felt awful and guilty all day.
I've always been respectful of a girl's wishes and never pushed anyone into doing something they didn't want to and I was actually in tears earlier thinking that I'm a Fucking scumbag of a human being.
I'm so worried I'm going to relapse into depression again because of this.
If anyone can help I'd really appreciate it as I could do with some support right now
Thank you to anyone who reaches out
Ya honestly dude. Im failing to see what the big deal is.
Most of my girls don't want to see me after we bang. We'll have magical chemistry and deeply passionate sex, and as shes about to board the train I ask, "when are you free again?" And she says "Not for another couple months." And then blocks me on tinder
Lol!! Like what?!
Is there anything I did wrong there?
No.
Girls being girls.
Most girls don't know what they want. They have no fucking clue.
This is a DEFAULT reaction from a girl. And you're trying to make sense of something that has nothing to do with you.
You might think: "Oh but other guys, keep their girls around."
Ya maybe, but they're also getting laid on the 7th date. (Which is the actual average btw).
If you're like any of the other guys on here who actually hookup consistently you can expect to lose most of your girls after sex.
Just get used to it.
To me (and I mean this a nice way) this is you being a novice to female rejection. Rejection is like water in the ocean, and you are a boat.
There's no real support that you need.
Just get used to rejection.
If you need support after every rejection, then this stage of your life will be catastrophic and extremely painful (again I mean this in a nice way).
Just get used to it dawg.
It's 100% normal.
Happens to everyone.
Keep going.
Theres sooooo many girls out there.