- Joined
- Jan 19, 2021
THE IRON WILL PROJECT: WEEK 20 (THURSDAY 11TH MAY 2023)
BW: 193.3lbs
ACTIONS
(1) MONEY:
-Relationship Building: 50 Conversations (25 FB / 25 IG)
-Audience Building: 5 comments x 5 FB Groups
-Adding: 50 – 100 people on FB & IG per day
-Cold Emails: 5 – 10 Per Day
-Content: Catch up. Long form & shorts.
-Networking Event: Find the next event, book it, go.
-Read: Vin, Dan.
(2) MUSCLES:
-Gym: Legs & Shoulders
-ATG
-2700kcals
-CT (30m Ice Bath)
(3) MINDSET:
-Read V
-Read Dan
-Online Dating Process: Send daily video of "the experiment" (lol) to my game hustle chat. We've already solved the problem but it's still a bit of fun. I'll conclude the experiment in a few days.
Notes:
I have gone into biz overdrive lately.
The biz journey is an entirely different flow from anything I’ve done before, but after 8 months now (I worked for free for the first 3 months, literally) and now successfully working with clients, acquiring new clients, getting referrals, and getting real results, it’s time to step TF up and get to the next level.
I have some enquiries for 1 on 1 coaching for hardcore accountability, productivity and goal achievement using my approach (project management, biohacking, hardcore daily accountability) and I will sign these guys up as I’d enjoy helping them a lot, but I am going to step away from that for a bit.
Instead, I am going to overhaul my biz a lot. I will:
-Launch a group coaching program, where everyone has clear goals, and we get together every day and totally attack them. Weekly group call. Trainings from me and others in the areas I am obsessed with for performance. We hold each other accountable and also just support & push each other on the journey in a robust and meaningful way.
-Have an actual platform & more robust systems for tracking.
-Niching down: I am going to do some critical thinking on this, but I am now going to pivot away from what I am offering, and niche down, targetting a specific segment of the market, and offer something higher ticket, that solves their problem.
Many people offering what I do, are charging almost TEN TIMES what I am. Yup. They just nailed their positioning. So, this will be the way I go.
I am posting about all this each day in my biz chat, IronWill Grind Chat. This is for people whose PRIMARY goal is BUSINESS. I accept only the most serious and dedicated people and those I see excellent potential in. Plus some of the guys I like to be around a lot who are on the same biz journey I am. If you are absolutely dead serious about biz and putting in work on it, daily, and are a savage, reach out and I’ll add you to my biz chat. It’s for people in the actual trenches only.
Biz: I am doing more in person group work, public talks, workshops, etc. I am getting leads from networking events for people who want to work with me, corporate stuff or whatever else, scheduling meetings and going fully into overdrive.
Hustle is legit at almost god tier levels some days. 12Hrs of total focus. Killer.
High performance and totally dedicating yourself can completely change your destiny.
I don’t like to tell people this, but you have to work HARD, DAILY, and actually enjoy the process. You learn to love it, and you also must do it and expect little by way of results. You apply yourself vigorously for months and don’t fret over outcomes, you just focus on OUTPUTS.
Biz is a funny game. You make a tonne of noise about what you do, do it well, and keep putting yourself out there to insane levels, and things just…..happen.
But you also take some brutal Ls, and have to be proactive, resilient, and fucking course correct, keep your head, keep your blind faith, and just HUSTLE.
You know my mentality. I am the king of comebacks. I took some biz Ls lately, and instead of folding, I just went into overdrive, spoke to my bros in the biz chat, got feedback, got a plan of attack nailed down, and now I am executing, making a LOT of changes, and am going to just attack it.
You just NEVER give in. Never.
You know what excellence and greatness looks like. If you want that, you must embody it in your thoughts, behaviours, and actions, every waking fucking second of the day.
To escape the hell I came, that was what it took.
To truly grind is an honour. I am happy to be able to do so. But you MUST work smart. You cannot take Ls without course correcting. I will overhaul my biz, make a lot of changes, add a lot of value to my offer, and then, yup, I am going to triple my prices (no one on my current offer or rate will be impacted, and nor will anyone currently enquiring).
You HAVE to be willing to bet the house on yourself. When I went to London for the Phoenix project, I was convinced it was impossible to succeed, and I still went out every day for 4hrs suffering from extreme anxiety and approached 5-7 days per week, because I decided, either I will change my brain and fix myself, or I will literally die here in the streets of London. I will not stop. I will persist beyond anything I even thought was possible. And after doing this for 1.5 years, I eventually started to do things that I saw as showing some signs of greatness. The moments where all hope was lost and I somehow persisted
Time, and time, and time again
https://killyourinnerloser.com/forums/viewtopic.php?p=50099#p50099
That shit is in my brain. I remember those moments. When life hits me, I remember all these things, they come flooding back. If you can accomplish goals and persist, in the darkest times of your life, IMO you have what it takes to be a true beast of a human. I am going for that in life. I want to prove a point. I want to prove that someone can go from rock bottom, down and out, to absolute king, through a multi year process of extreme grinding. Because anyone can do that. Underdogs like me who didn't really have anything else can just cultivate true, true grinding ability. And then, they too, can win in life and overcome the shit card they were dealt. It's about proving it is possible to outwork God's plan.
Because I have done that
Time and time again
View attachment 1
Looking at my dating apps, and the beautiful women who are matching now (curiously enough, match volume is about the same as before, but QUALITY went up. Market share for my product, remains quite small understandably, but there are still attractive women who are willing to give me a shot. And it will only get better from here) I have made great strides in improving this domain.
So, I will absolutely attack biz and keep levelling up as a male.
Where I am right now, is, I need to legit develop my offer, really add value, develop a whole coherent platform, community, training library, maybe bring in guest speakers to spit wisdom, etc. For this, I will charge a lot more than I currently am. I will keep all my 1 on 1 clients at their fixed rate, they’re locked in, but I am not going to push that anymore. I must transition over and compete at a higher level.
A recent FB from me on the matter:
“Mantras and Principles that help me be the most productive and healthy human I can be, with my formely agorophobic and anxiety ridden brain.
Stuff I had to INGRAIN to become sooooooo much better over time.
Lets affirm some for you & me both:
-The thing no one really enjoys telling you is that making progress is a long, long term game. To change my thinking patterns and to be able to genuinely perform at a high level, that was quite a bit of work!
-You genuinely have to be patient. You have to hang THE FUCK in there. It only pays off if you keep going at the points at which most would throw their hands in the air and say FUCK IT. That still happens to me, but I keep going. That's how ya win!
GROUP/TRIBE SUPPORT
When I’m getting really stuck, I speak to my own coaches and advisors
You are investing in using these peoples brains to solve your problem
In the wild, humans who were able to effectively align themselves with a tribe, solved their problem (survival)
There are set backs and challenging times, for sure
That's when you have to try to be RATIONAL, calm your spazzing mind TF down, and work your way back to baseline.
Because doing the reps and not expecting results is a learned skill
We as goal achievers and people who make progression on our projects and objectives understand this and we keep doing the reps
And we choose not to give in to excuses
Being willing to change, course correct, and persist.
A way to 'hack' the brain and ingrain this through social learning is to do it as part of a group. I myself responded massively well to this and will be forming my own group coaching for others.
I will be doing less 1 on 1 stuff moving forward I think!
Ingraining better mindsets through the work I did meant that when I take Ls, I can just double down, get more insight and clarity, and go back on the attack
Mantras that help:
-I’ve just not done enough reps yet
-I’ve just not faced enough of my own resistance yet
-There are other variables I have not changed enough yet
-All problems can be either solved or managed
-Life is a numbers game
-If there is sweat on your brow because you bust your ass, YOU belong here
If you're stuck, you have to speak to people. Invest in yourself.
If a former nutcase like moi can do it, you have no excuses people, lol”
Recent wins:
I did my first public talk! It’s on YouTube, you can check it out in my signature.
….And FINALLY, yes, FINALLY
As outlined above, I SOLVED THE “MATCH QUALITY” PROBLEM ON ONLINE DATING
THANK FUCK
I will make a separate post and proper writeup in the matter. This outcome was achieved through 2+ years of ass busting grind and eating shit for most of that going off trust & faith in my advisors/mentors.
The new photos, FINALLY, have allowed me to get matches with girls who I am sincerely, fully attracted to, and would LOVE to go on dates with. I would LOVE that. I worked my fucking ass off for this, for years at this point, and following the hard reset and use of a burner phone, I was able to see the fruits of my labour.
I had a huge mental breakdown a few weeks as you know due to what seemed like a lost cause in fixing the quality problem but my boys helped me through it and now we are finally seeing FANTASTIC improvements in this area.
I gutted up and dealt with the match quality I got in The Phoenix Project to get experience, to get lays, and to just become a better man. In the back of my mind, the fact I was attracted to maybe 1% of these girls fucked with my head and took me to some dark places. I am looking for a serious relationship for myself so the quality I was getting really left me so worried, fearful, anxious and I had to just swallow it down, gut up and put in the fucking WORK to level up in my looks, image, confidence, game/vibe, and trust that men who are infinitely more knowledgeable and advanced than I had a greater understanding than me, and that I had to put faith in.
I am so, so, so happy to report that they were right. As ever.
“Your best thinking got you where you are”
If we have a persistent and long standing problem, we ourselves are not competent at solving that problem. You acquire coaching, you acquire group support, and you change your brain over time through consistent diligent hard work.
Thanks to the boys in my dating group chat who are grinding beside me every day:
pancakemouse
Rags2Bitches
september
arcade_fireee
Mimbe393939
Crisis_Overcomer
(We also had The Bulldog but he’s now a 1 on 1 client of mine and is out here in a personal chat with me GETTING IT)
Seeing the lovely women who are matching with me, happy to chat to me, and some of whom are happy to agree to come out for a drink with me, just left me feeling emotions I’ve not felt for so long.
Panic over.
I am going to be ok.
All will be well.
It was so needed.
I am very grateful to see how far I have come. And it’s only the beginning. I will greatly increase my muscle mass, drop a lot more body fat (10-20lbs man), get tattoos, and make any other adjustments I must make.
Now………..its grinding season.
I will do the same thing Andy did in his biz journey, but in my own weird and wonderful way. The problems I want to solve are a little different from his in some sense, but I am damn good at solving them, many struggle with them, and for me to be able to properly resolve this in others will be something I can proudly call my contribution to the world.
It’s the hill I’ve chosen ;-)
KYIL BROS
LETS GO THE FUCK OUT THERE AND GET IT
LETS LEVEL UP AND DREAM BIGGER
ANYONE CAN MAKE IT
PROVIDED THEY ARE WILLING TO DO THE HARD WORK, BE PATIENT, UNDERSTAND IT TAKES A LONG ASS TIME, AND BE WILLING TO LISTEN TO THOSE WHO KNOW MORE THAN YOU WHILST HUMLING YOUR DAMN SELF
BECAUSE I HAVE TO HUMBLE MYSELF ON MY OWN JOURNEY AN AWFUL, AWFUL LOT
-MAC
BW: 193.3lbs
ACTIONS
(1) MONEY:
-Relationship Building: 50 Conversations (25 FB / 25 IG)
-Audience Building: 5 comments x 5 FB Groups
-Adding: 50 – 100 people on FB & IG per day
-Cold Emails: 5 – 10 Per Day
-Content: Catch up. Long form & shorts.
-Networking Event: Find the next event, book it, go.
-Read: Vin, Dan.
(2) MUSCLES:
-Gym: Legs & Shoulders
-ATG
-2700kcals
-CT (30m Ice Bath)
(3) MINDSET:
-Read V
-Read Dan
-Online Dating Process: Send daily video of "the experiment" (lol) to my game hustle chat. We've already solved the problem but it's still a bit of fun. I'll conclude the experiment in a few days.
Notes:
I have gone into biz overdrive lately.
The biz journey is an entirely different flow from anything I’ve done before, but after 8 months now (I worked for free for the first 3 months, literally) and now successfully working with clients, acquiring new clients, getting referrals, and getting real results, it’s time to step TF up and get to the next level.
I have some enquiries for 1 on 1 coaching for hardcore accountability, productivity and goal achievement using my approach (project management, biohacking, hardcore daily accountability) and I will sign these guys up as I’d enjoy helping them a lot, but I am going to step away from that for a bit.
Instead, I am going to overhaul my biz a lot. I will:
-Launch a group coaching program, where everyone has clear goals, and we get together every day and totally attack them. Weekly group call. Trainings from me and others in the areas I am obsessed with for performance. We hold each other accountable and also just support & push each other on the journey in a robust and meaningful way.
-Have an actual platform & more robust systems for tracking.
-Niching down: I am going to do some critical thinking on this, but I am now going to pivot away from what I am offering, and niche down, targetting a specific segment of the market, and offer something higher ticket, that solves their problem.
Many people offering what I do, are charging almost TEN TIMES what I am. Yup. They just nailed their positioning. So, this will be the way I go.
I am posting about all this each day in my biz chat, IronWill Grind Chat. This is for people whose PRIMARY goal is BUSINESS. I accept only the most serious and dedicated people and those I see excellent potential in. Plus some of the guys I like to be around a lot who are on the same biz journey I am. If you are absolutely dead serious about biz and putting in work on it, daily, and are a savage, reach out and I’ll add you to my biz chat. It’s for people in the actual trenches only.
Biz: I am doing more in person group work, public talks, workshops, etc. I am getting leads from networking events for people who want to work with me, corporate stuff or whatever else, scheduling meetings and going fully into overdrive.
Hustle is legit at almost god tier levels some days. 12Hrs of total focus. Killer.
High performance and totally dedicating yourself can completely change your destiny.
I don’t like to tell people this, but you have to work HARD, DAILY, and actually enjoy the process. You learn to love it, and you also must do it and expect little by way of results. You apply yourself vigorously for months and don’t fret over outcomes, you just focus on OUTPUTS.
Biz is a funny game. You make a tonne of noise about what you do, do it well, and keep putting yourself out there to insane levels, and things just…..happen.
But you also take some brutal Ls, and have to be proactive, resilient, and fucking course correct, keep your head, keep your blind faith, and just HUSTLE.
You know my mentality. I am the king of comebacks. I took some biz Ls lately, and instead of folding, I just went into overdrive, spoke to my bros in the biz chat, got feedback, got a plan of attack nailed down, and now I am executing, making a LOT of changes, and am going to just attack it.
You just NEVER give in. Never.
You know what excellence and greatness looks like. If you want that, you must embody it in your thoughts, behaviours, and actions, every waking fucking second of the day.
To escape the hell I came, that was what it took.
To truly grind is an honour. I am happy to be able to do so. But you MUST work smart. You cannot take Ls without course correcting. I will overhaul my biz, make a lot of changes, add a lot of value to my offer, and then, yup, I am going to triple my prices (no one on my current offer or rate will be impacted, and nor will anyone currently enquiring).
You HAVE to be willing to bet the house on yourself. When I went to London for the Phoenix project, I was convinced it was impossible to succeed, and I still went out every day for 4hrs suffering from extreme anxiety and approached 5-7 days per week, because I decided, either I will change my brain and fix myself, or I will literally die here in the streets of London. I will not stop. I will persist beyond anything I even thought was possible. And after doing this for 1.5 years, I eventually started to do things that I saw as showing some signs of greatness. The moments where all hope was lost and I somehow persisted
Time, and time, and time again
https://killyourinnerloser.com/forums/viewtopic.php?p=50099#p50099
That shit is in my brain. I remember those moments. When life hits me, I remember all these things, they come flooding back. If you can accomplish goals and persist, in the darkest times of your life, IMO you have what it takes to be a true beast of a human. I am going for that in life. I want to prove a point. I want to prove that someone can go from rock bottom, down and out, to absolute king, through a multi year process of extreme grinding. Because anyone can do that. Underdogs like me who didn't really have anything else can just cultivate true, true grinding ability. And then, they too, can win in life and overcome the shit card they were dealt. It's about proving it is possible to outwork God's plan.
Because I have done that
Time and time again
View attachment 1
Looking at my dating apps, and the beautiful women who are matching now (curiously enough, match volume is about the same as before, but QUALITY went up. Market share for my product, remains quite small understandably, but there are still attractive women who are willing to give me a shot. And it will only get better from here) I have made great strides in improving this domain.
So, I will absolutely attack biz and keep levelling up as a male.
Where I am right now, is, I need to legit develop my offer, really add value, develop a whole coherent platform, community, training library, maybe bring in guest speakers to spit wisdom, etc. For this, I will charge a lot more than I currently am. I will keep all my 1 on 1 clients at their fixed rate, they’re locked in, but I am not going to push that anymore. I must transition over and compete at a higher level.
A recent FB from me on the matter:
“Mantras and Principles that help me be the most productive and healthy human I can be, with my formely agorophobic and anxiety ridden brain.
Stuff I had to INGRAIN to become sooooooo much better over time.
Lets affirm some for you & me both:
-The thing no one really enjoys telling you is that making progress is a long, long term game. To change my thinking patterns and to be able to genuinely perform at a high level, that was quite a bit of work!
-You genuinely have to be patient. You have to hang THE FUCK in there. It only pays off if you keep going at the points at which most would throw their hands in the air and say FUCK IT. That still happens to me, but I keep going. That's how ya win!
GROUP/TRIBE SUPPORT
When I’m getting really stuck, I speak to my own coaches and advisors
You are investing in using these peoples brains to solve your problem
In the wild, humans who were able to effectively align themselves with a tribe, solved their problem (survival)
There are set backs and challenging times, for sure
That's when you have to try to be RATIONAL, calm your spazzing mind TF down, and work your way back to baseline.
Because doing the reps and not expecting results is a learned skill
We as goal achievers and people who make progression on our projects and objectives understand this and we keep doing the reps
And we choose not to give in to excuses
Being willing to change, course correct, and persist.
A way to 'hack' the brain and ingrain this through social learning is to do it as part of a group. I myself responded massively well to this and will be forming my own group coaching for others.
I will be doing less 1 on 1 stuff moving forward I think!
Ingraining better mindsets through the work I did meant that when I take Ls, I can just double down, get more insight and clarity, and go back on the attack
Mantras that help:
-I’ve just not done enough reps yet
-I’ve just not faced enough of my own resistance yet
-There are other variables I have not changed enough yet
-All problems can be either solved or managed
-Life is a numbers game
-If there is sweat on your brow because you bust your ass, YOU belong here
If you're stuck, you have to speak to people. Invest in yourself.
If a former nutcase like moi can do it, you have no excuses people, lol”
Recent wins:
I did my first public talk! It’s on YouTube, you can check it out in my signature.
….And FINALLY, yes, FINALLY
As outlined above, I SOLVED THE “MATCH QUALITY” PROBLEM ON ONLINE DATING
THANK FUCK
I will make a separate post and proper writeup in the matter. This outcome was achieved through 2+ years of ass busting grind and eating shit for most of that going off trust & faith in my advisors/mentors.
The new photos, FINALLY, have allowed me to get matches with girls who I am sincerely, fully attracted to, and would LOVE to go on dates with. I would LOVE that. I worked my fucking ass off for this, for years at this point, and following the hard reset and use of a burner phone, I was able to see the fruits of my labour.
I had a huge mental breakdown a few weeks as you know due to what seemed like a lost cause in fixing the quality problem but my boys helped me through it and now we are finally seeing FANTASTIC improvements in this area.
I gutted up and dealt with the match quality I got in The Phoenix Project to get experience, to get lays, and to just become a better man. In the back of my mind, the fact I was attracted to maybe 1% of these girls fucked with my head and took me to some dark places. I am looking for a serious relationship for myself so the quality I was getting really left me so worried, fearful, anxious and I had to just swallow it down, gut up and put in the fucking WORK to level up in my looks, image, confidence, game/vibe, and trust that men who are infinitely more knowledgeable and advanced than I had a greater understanding than me, and that I had to put faith in.
I am so, so, so happy to report that they were right. As ever.
“Your best thinking got you where you are”
If we have a persistent and long standing problem, we ourselves are not competent at solving that problem. You acquire coaching, you acquire group support, and you change your brain over time through consistent diligent hard work.
Thanks to the boys in my dating group chat who are grinding beside me every day:
pancakemouse
Rags2Bitches
september
arcade_fireee
Mimbe393939
Crisis_Overcomer
(We also had The Bulldog but he’s now a 1 on 1 client of mine and is out here in a personal chat with me GETTING IT)
Seeing the lovely women who are matching with me, happy to chat to me, and some of whom are happy to agree to come out for a drink with me, just left me feeling emotions I’ve not felt for so long.
Panic over.
I am going to be ok.
All will be well.
It was so needed.
I am very grateful to see how far I have come. And it’s only the beginning. I will greatly increase my muscle mass, drop a lot more body fat (10-20lbs man), get tattoos, and make any other adjustments I must make.
Now………..its grinding season.
I will do the same thing Andy did in his biz journey, but in my own weird and wonderful way. The problems I want to solve are a little different from his in some sense, but I am damn good at solving them, many struggle with them, and for me to be able to properly resolve this in others will be something I can proudly call my contribution to the world.
It’s the hill I’ve chosen ;-)
KYIL BROS
LETS GO THE FUCK OUT THERE AND GET IT
LETS LEVEL UP AND DREAM BIGGER
ANYONE CAN MAKE IT
PROVIDED THEY ARE WILLING TO DO THE HARD WORK, BE PATIENT, UNDERSTAND IT TAKES A LONG ASS TIME, AND BE WILLING TO LISTEN TO THOSE WHO KNOW MORE THAN YOU WHILST HUMLING YOUR DAMN SELF
BECAUSE I HAVE TO HUMBLE MYSELF ON MY OWN JOURNEY AN AWFUL, AWFUL LOT
-MAC