I cannot agree with the bros enough.
I LOVE that the boys are spitting straight facts.
Dude, when I posted my pics, Crisis was pretty firm
"Bro what are those pipe cleaners"
I have an SMV problem, have not maxxed out, and my retarded ass is not even at the looks threshhold
This is ME fucking up
Also, if you were in the Krakow Bootcamp, The Dom delivered 1000 x harder bars than Crisis did
More improvement, got women to stop treating me like a primeval beast
They are now, not absolutely vile to me like they were. But, equally, I do have quite an attraction problem.
BUT
There was ways to bridge the gap while I am improving myself...........
GAME
It helps the lower SMV or uglier male a lot, I assure ya!
If you ever attend a workshop or lecture with The Dom, you'll hear examples of this, such as the power of a "million dollar mouthpiece", the example he likes to use of Patrice O'Neal (RIP legend), this stuff does work, but the implementation, development, and delivery is not easy
I have been working with my boys DAILY on this, we are making some types of improvement, though my ass is bad at this, and I do need an embarrassing amount of help, fortunately, I have been able to get some great support, and in my own ways I pay it forward trust me on that, a relationship with me is a good investment tbh most of my friends get good value because, well as arrogant as it may sound, I know I am destined for Greatness in life due to the inner drive God gave me.
BEEN WORKIN'
V is here, We're G-G-G-G-G-GRINDING
Sleep, is improving, gym is consistent.
Back approaching. Working on this hardcore, I am still building back up, I am doing 5 quality sets right now, some of my friends such as Crisis want me to do 15, but damn the quality aspect is so important, my QUALITY needs work. It's taken me weeks just to get the tonality right. But I did improve this.
What helped, was watching some of the videos Pancakemouse & Rags2Bitches recommend, from Brian Begin, on tension, and speaking from one's core as man. This is similar to what Dante harps on about, in terms of delivery and speaking with emotions and fun.
As I have been working on "The Chad Voice" (Shoutout Giga Chad Arcade_Fire for giving it this name lol), I found this helped me on many levels, from coolness, groundedness, and just speech delivery.
TINDER DATE - F, 19, Hungarian Waitress
This date was from Tinder. I don't get many matches, maybe 1 or 2 a week. Slow as FUCK out here. She is pretty, and in the UK, there is basically no opportunity for me to meet girls like this. They are simply f**king repulsed to put it midly. Lol. But, here in Budapest, it is not so much a problem. Some, again, it's not many, but SOME small number of chicks, are OK with going on dates with me and feeling some attraction. Very cool.
We meet.
She's 30m late.
Message my chat, who advise I loom around the area and wait until she arrives.
New model is this:
I get the chicks to meet me at the coffee shop 1 min walk from my apartment. I then walk them over to the bridge, which is a killer location, and then I ask if they want to drink wine and listen to music at my place.
This, is cool, as I spend 0 money, and the entire date takes place within 3 min walk of my bedroom
LMAO
This is the power of PRIME REAL ESTATE
My money goes further in Hungary, so I have a killer apartment with Paw, and we even have a guest room which is currently housing V, but following that, I think it's The Dom, a few of Paw's friends thereafter. We have a great network and people are in and out of our place all the time. Lifes good in this regard. Life is about people. Relationships (friendships, romantic connections, family) are the most important thing in life. If you have great relationships, with great people, you will always succeed.
A sign that you are on track in life, is, if many people are wanting to be in your life. My DMs and WhatsApp always have a fucking backlog. I have more people than I can do anything with. My notifications are always on max. It's hard to keep up with people. It was my birthday this month and I had over 100 messages across socials and had many phone calls.
DAMN IT FEELS GOOD TO BE A GANGSTER
;-)
So ofc, this has been good vibes for my mind and soul and I am doing alright in my mindset. It perked up because I was in the dungeon a few weeks ago let me tell ya!
................DATE
She rocks up. I am wearing a vest, and trying to thugmaxx a lot more. LOL. Chad Voice is engaged. Stepping into a different personality matrix. Greet, hug, kiss, and vibe a bit. Walk her right over to the bridge, she's compliant. Start touch early on, stroking arms, back.
Seat her, we start flowing. First 30m is me building some rapport, vibe, lots of physical touch, shes totally fine with it all, and giving the right IOIs, stroking hair and such. Sit right next to each other rubbing up on each other.
She is a kinda fun chick, she is different from others I dated, she is showing me all sorts about her life on her phone, her friends, her travels, it feels pretty wholesome and natural.
I soft pitch the pull, saying lets listen to music and drink some wine later, shes super compliant "sure", and then at about 35m, I just pull to mine. Stupidly, I stopped recording the audio here. Which cost me valuable learning opportunities.
Once back, V is there, shirtless, blasting music and singing. He adds his nutcase energy to the situation, and it is a good vibe, he lifts it all up. V is a fuckin NUTCASE and is a unique human - you'll never meet a fucker like this.
We pour some wine, we go to the main room, sip a little. We head out a few times as she wants to smoke a cig.
Head to my room. Sat next to each other on the bed. I am escalating, she is cool with it all, slow sensual touch on arms, legs, back, stroking hair, hugging close and tight.
Go for the makeout. She deflects.
I ignore and just build more comfort. Try again about 5m later. She deflects again.
Head out for another smoke break from her.
As the date gets to about an hour and a half, and more and more comfort is built, she opens up A LOT and I am totally enjoying it.
We get more sensual, and she starts bantering a lot. She is trying to teach me Hungarian, and it's funny as hell. It brings her out of her shell a lot, and we are fully vibing.
I don't want it to go on too long, so given I know there's no lay here tonight, and she says she has to go, though she is in no rush at all, I walk her over to the tram, and there, she doesn't really want to leave. I am building more comfort, doing some future projection, asking her deeper questions, she is into it and we are doing some deep eye contact, with her hands around my neck, and my hands on her ass.
She leaves, and she texts me a few times, with videos and stuff. Overall, solid.
First Time Ever: Good Morning Text For MAC?!?!
Of, what, 120-150 dates I've been on since I started, ALL ghosted, apart from my old FWB Nerd Girl (legend) and L (meh).
But, never, has any chick shown meaningful investment into wanting to know me.
I checked my phone the next morning, and F texted me "Good morniiiiing"
I was quite stunned and it felt.....weird......
She's texted throughout the day, ever since, with lovely pics, videos, and just being really awesome asking how I am etc.
Never have I seen this in 32 years.
I mentioned in my chat, how old Ravi would have killed for this.
At this point I have been through the grinder to such an extent I am jaded, cynical, and super hardened. Heart is like stone now.
But, F made me....feel a little....for the first time in so long.
I am grateful for that.
I am not emotionally invested in this person, after the experience with dating I've had, I am so fucking jaded that if a chick doesn't meaningfully move things forward with me each date, I will just move on. If no bang by date 3, RIP, thanks and good bye.
We as men, who have lived this experience, now the truth.
We know, that many of us, get a horrible deal in dating, and get the worst of the worst. The absolute bottom of the barrel the top 20% of men dont want. We know women's nature, the guys they go for, and how much insane abundance they have.
They don't give a rat's ass. They forget you exist within 5 damn minutes. POOF. It's like you were never there.
We know whose bedroom they are in each week (top 20%), and it's honestly just sad.
In time, love for woman leaves the heart, and all you can do is: (A) Generate Leads, (B) Be Stoic AF.
I'll see F tonight. I will push to move forward physically, in some terms. If she doesn't makeout with me, which part of me suspects she won't, I'll ask for advice.
I have a 3 date rule after being screwed around so much the past few years. If no lay by the 3rd date, it's goodbye. Hard rule. No exceptions. I have set the frame upfront by being SUPER physical, sexualising like hell. I offered this girl a tantric massage on the first date and she was into it lol, she said "sure", so she is under no illusions.
Long Term Thoughts
The only way to survive this game, as a low SMV person, is to realllllllllllllllly maxxx yourself out.
It is painful to read when some make statements like, you could get laid looking like how you do, you are good enough, and so on
This shows massive inexperience and massive lack of understanding of self improvement & dating
Remember, moderate SMV guys get a pass and get away with murder. They are already at the finish line, they just need to try, and then boom, they have taken the one or two steps needed to finish the race.
The lack of empathy and awareness displayed when people don't recognise I have done, what, 7,000 approaches and got ZERO from that. 120-150 dates, 9 of which converted, all bar 1 were unattractive, most just fat/gross.
The best thing the truly low SMV male can do, is just thank these people for their time, not alienate them, and just get back to work. Sorry to say, but many moderate or high SMV men, are rank beginners in their knowledge, awareness, and are f**king useless to help you solve your problem. Leave them to it, they can still be great friends, just avoid discussion about dating because they have the luxury of easy mode, and you don't. Hard mode, is a very different reality and few men on KYIL are strong enough to live it. Nobody else, if they were in my body, would be able to handle it. You'd have to be hard a man as me. Which, I don't really think many are.
THE MAC HEURISTIC:
Who, if they switched bodies with me, would get results on KYIL?
Andy, yes, he'd still get result if he switched bodies with me but it would be maybe 2-5% of what he has. The Dom would find a way to get laid but he'd not be 5% of what he is. Pancakemouse, Rags2Bitches, also would find ways to succeed, but their dating life would also be fucking awful and they'd be posting the same shit I do. Otherwise, I can tell you without any shadow of a doubt, if 99% of the forum swapped bodies for me for ONE WEEK, they'd be involuntarily celibate and I do not know if they would have the sheer mental strength required to endure. It's daily rejections out the ass, you have to fight for every inch, and despite all the energy and focus you put in, guess what? Nothing improves. You're back to square one EVERY. SINGLE. DAY. Nothing gets easier. It's Week 1, Day 1, every single day of your life.
Could you handle that?
Not likely, because this is not how self improvement is supposed to work.
All you have is luck, the scraps from time to time, that the more attractive men in the apps either didn't want, or by sheer law of large numbers, you just got access to due to being fast to strike and good enough to make it happen.
That's woman. You have to respect it. And respect them. You have to be totally OK with this. God created them this way, it's not OK to judge them for their nature. I find it disgusting and inhuman. I suppress it and just get on with it. There is a reason it is like this beyond what we are able to process.
SMV = KING
It overpowers everything.
You can argue if you like, but you'd just be considered a joke at this point by the 500,000+ viewers of this log that exposes the ugly, dark truth of dating for a guy who does not fit the mould and is trying to find someone.
Low SMV men, have an entirely different journey. We've already seen how most of what we expected SHOULD work for me, didn't work. Why? SMV. KYIL didn't know, I've been here since the early days, when it was me and 4 other dudes posting regularly, we had a lot to figure out and now we ofc know the Race Pill (basically, white, black, and Asian guys will be OK - Brown guys, like, properly brown guys who look blatantly Indian, have an entirely different journey if they are also facially unattractive!)
Best advice:
BUST YOR FCKING ASS IN THE GYM
MAXXX YOURSELF OUT
Or you will just have your mind and soul destroyed like I did and end up totally jaded!
KEEP WORKIN'
MAC DADDY